On the relationship with the ex topic

[stephbfan]

I have a quick dumb question.

I have said that I have a great relationship with my ex but I also have to say we have a weird thing with Bdays and I am a vindictive bitch lol.

So my ex didn't even acknowledge and we skyped that day so the bitch I am, I didn't even have DD to do anything for him for father's day. They skyped that day too, I didn't coach DD to say happy father's day or anything. I did regret it because I had DD for both mother's and father's day.

My Bday was last month and he didn't say anything either. His Bday is today, I talked to him this morning and I totally forgot until my BFF tells me that her son was born today and will be sharing my ex's Bday.

Now, my question is, do I take the high road and email him saying happy Bday and have DD do something for him?
What would guys do?

[Deleted]

Agree with RV. I think you should always work with DD to do something for him no matter what.

[heavenly]

I say it depends on how you want your daughter to recognize birthdays and how it is celebrated in your family.

Personally, I teach my son how to wish his father a happy birthday in the lesson of giving/receiving love so he can do that for himself when he gets older. Life is too short to focus on the negatives. But then again, my xh is a very good father and we co-parent well. If he was horrible, I would think differently.

[prettyinpearls]

Take the high road and have DD wish her dad a happy birthday. You don't have to wish him one yourself, but your DD should.

[jojoandleo]

Sept 26, 2012 17:39:47 GMT -5 prettyinpearls said:

Take the high road and have DD wish her dad a happy birthday. You don't have to wish him one yourself, but your DD should.

This is my thought. YOU don't have to acknowledge it, but your daughter should.

[stephbfan]

Ok, I will have DD write something for him. She is already reading/writing things with the letter P and the M so I'm going to have her write him that she loves him in Spanish.

Now that I think about it, he was excited this morning when I called. Too bad DD didn't want to talk to him on the phone.

[naeljun]

definitely do something.

[stephbfan]

Sept 26, 2012 17:56:46 GMT -5 naeljun said:

definitely do something.

We called him and he didn't answer so DD left a message singing Happy Bday.

Im going to have her do something and show him on cam.