I am embarrassed...tacky party etiquette

[walterismydog]

Some friends are moving to another state across the country. Another friend asked me to co-host a going away party at a bar with her & another friend. I thought, sure, no biggie, it's just a bar party. Fun, low key, etc.

I was out of town for a bit for work and when I came back, friend (who party is for, not host) was like "I made these invitations!" OK cool, I had no idea there were going to be actual invitations but whatever. Then she gives me one.

At the top, in LARGE letters..."hosted by L, L, & Tracy!"
Info info info
At the bottom...this is what kills me and makes me want to die:
"Cash makes a very nice going away gift!" in BRIGHT pink with stars all around it.

ommfg. First of all, I was not aware this was going to be some kind of gift party. I planned on making them a road-trip survival kit (cds, snacks, etc) you know, cheap/fun crap. I am NOT giving cash. On what planet is this ok? I don't even want to do the party at all anymore. Blergh. Gross.

[snipsnsnails]

Did the invites already go out?

[walterismydog]

Yes. Yes they did. *dies in corner*

[tulip]

It's not okay. I would be sick that night.

[snipsnsnails]

Ha, well, what's done is done. Celebrate them with wallet closed!

[Deleted]

I second tulip. Either I would be sick, H sick or my dog would be sick

[mrsbro]

JUST NO. I couldn't do it. My hands would need restraints in order to get that invite mailed.

I'd have responded I had some already printed but TYVM.

[walterismydog]

I can't be sick to the party I am HOSTING! Aye chihuahua. I just have to suck it up, but man. This is lame and I hate that my name is on it. HATE.

[leeann]

I would be mortified.

[Deleted]

witness protection program.

[VeryViolet]

I would seriously start spreading the word on how tacky and terrible you thought the invitations, how you had absolutely no say in designing the invitations, and how you do not plan on giving money nor do you expect anyone else to.

[walterismydog]

Honestly Sue Sue I don't even know who they went to! I mean, this was supposed to be kind of a low-key, mass-text invite type of party. Like "hey just show up, say your goodbyes, etc"...not even a PARTY PARTY. The hosting part was just because we are doing some silly themes, it is in no way formal or even remotely close. It is at some hole-in-the-wall trashy bar that they love. Like there was never ever ever a need for invitations. I just don't even know. Why does everything fall apart when I go out of town?? Good god almighty.

[lemondrop]

how do people think it's appropriate to even send out their own invites when they're the guest of honor let alone the cash grab. ick!

[hubes]

I may just skip the party.

[Bernadine]

::clutches pearls:: I'm pretty sure I'd die if my name had been on that.

[walterismydog]

The other hosts, well the one I have talked to, is also mortified. But none of us really even know their friends or who they would have even invited. I am guessing people from work or something? I mean, we have a fairly small circle of friends with this group. She told me she gave out FIFTY! Why are there hosts again?

Seriously. This was just supposed to be a night out at a bar that also happened to be a going-away type of shindig. Kill me now.

[DirtyMartini]

Yes, I think it is tacky. As an invitation recipient I would have just rolled my eyes. What's done is done. Don't make yourself sick over this, there are far worse tragedies.

[Deleted]

Yeah, I'd suddenly come down with the flu or something. I can't even imagine what I would do if my name went out on something that bad. Ew.

[maddiepaddy]

How close are you to the guest of honor? If you're not close, I would just not go (and wouldn't be afraid to say why to anyone who asked). If you are close, I would tell her that you're embarrassed, explain why, and ask her how she can help fix it.

[SKP82]

OMG. WHY do people think it's okay to do these things?

I feel bad for you, Walter. I would be really pissed.

[lightbulbsun]

omg, I would die.

[walterismydog]

Sept 28, 2012 12:02:30 GMT -5 maddiepaddy said:

How close are you to the guest of honor? If you're not close, I would just not go (and wouldn't be afraid to say why to anyone who asked). If you are close, I would tell her that you're embarrassed, explain why, and ask her how she can help fix it.

We are next door neighbors and see each other every day. I've been avoiding her since I got this invitation on Thursday. She's the type who would get CRAZY if I said anything. So I'm just going to shut my mouth, suck it up, and drink a lot. Honestly, this circle is a bunch of loud, heavy drinking, tattooed fools, so I DOUBT it's going to be a huge issue, but it just embarrasses me so much. I'll get over it.

[maddiepaddy]

Bummer. We'll at least she'll be gone soon