Does this seem over the top? Re: HS reunion

[LauraMoser]

I got a FB message regarding my HS class reunion that is being planned for next June (10 years, yikes!) Anyway, according to one of the two girls planning it, it is a two day affair.

Friday night would be a get-together at a bar, Saturday will be a family friendly outing to a somewhat local park. I think its about an hour drive.

I just think it seems a little odd and over the top to make it into a two day thing. Am I crazy? lol

I don't know whether I'll attend or not, given that is the weekend following my birthday. Also, they are asking if I'm willing to donate a cake for the Saturday festivities. Still undecided about that too.

[ondaflipside]

No. You can go to either. Or both. Or none at all.

[mollz007]

Do you have to travel a long way for it? If so, I would just maybe go to one of the events, whichever one sounds more fun for you. If I was going to the Saturday one (which I probably would bc I'm not a bar person) I would probably bring a cake.

[kaylie]

I work in fundraising/alumni relations for a private school. That's a pretty standard format (it might be different for public schools). Some schools will do a single day during homecoming or something. Plenty of people just go to one day or the other.

[Deleted]

I have not yet had my 10 year reunion, but I don't think a 2 day thing is weird. Isn't the point of these to show off your family and stuff? Having one night for fun stuff and the next for a family friendly activity seems like a neat idea.

[LauraMoser]

Okay, that makes sense. I just never heard of other people here having a two day reunion. My 5 year was just one day, but maybe it was different because it was just the 5 year reunion.

Guess I have a while to decide though, lol.

[UMaineTeach]

sounds like they were just trying to do things that would be good for childless people/people who can get sitters and something for people who can't go out at night due to kids.

I would say go to the part(s) you want and skip others. Don't make a cake if you are not going to the Sat. thing.

But the cake donated by a baker in the class for my reunion was super tasty and she got thanked with a sign by the cake, in an announcement, on FB, and could leave her business cards on the table. The class DJ who donated his time got similar thanks.

[cjeanette]

Our school always does a Fri night bar event and a Sat night fancier event. Some attend both some attend one.

[StJess80]

No, I don't think it is too much. Lots of people might be coming from out of town, so they want to make it "worth it" for those people.

[thatgirl2478]

No - ours was a 2 day affair - Friday night football game, Saturday picnic w/ bouncy houses, Saturday night dinner/drinking/dj party.

[hippygirl]

Ours was a 3 day event. Fri-mixer at a bar, Sat-dinner/bar, Sun-picnic in the park. I loved going to mine.

[GailGoldie]

oh lord, 2 days= way too long for me.
I went to my 10th and my 20th (last year, yup i'm old!)... and had a good time- but i just wanted to go, chat, have a drink, and be done -not have to wake up and do it all over again- YUCK.

[Norticprincess]

Mine which I missed was three events. Bar Fri, over priced BBQ Sat during the day, and another bar night Sat night.

DH's informal bar night Friday night. Saturday picnic in the park the class paid for with families followed by adult night at the bar that evening (the class paid for apps and two drinks)

For both reunions you could go to all or just pick what worked for you.

My 5 yr was just a bar night.

[LauraMoser]

Oct 2, 2012 19:32:50 GMT -5 GailGoldie said:

oh lord, 2 days= way too long for me.
I went to my 10th and my 20th (last year, yup i'm old!)... and had a good time- but i just wanted to go, chat, have a drink, and be done -not have to wake up and do it all over again- YUCK.

lol That's my feeling. But I'll most likely only go to the Saturday event if I go. I've never been to the place where they're having it, and it might be fun to take the kids there. I'll also have to see who of my old HS friends plan to go. If no one that I care to catch up with is going, then it seems a bit pointless, kwim?

[dr.girlfriend]

I think they figure there will be bar people or family picnic people, but probably not both. Parents might be all, "We can't find a sitter for a bar night!" and bar folks might be, "I don't want to spend all my time at a picnic with a bunch of rug rats." This way everyone is happy. Except you. :-)

[GailGoldie]

where do you live? just curious b/c at my 10 year there were very few who were married and even fewer who had kids.... but in the NJ/NYC area people tend to get married much later in life, kids later, too - i know if it was in FL where i went to college, most had kids by 10 years.

[chessie]

Sounds like a lot, dont people work? Mine was 2 years ago, did not go, too expensive..it was a night club thing day after thanksgiving. I didnt want to spend 120 a piece to hang out with people I haven't talked to in forever.

[LauraMoser]

Oct 2, 2012 19:40:49 GMT -5 GailGoldie said:

where do you live? just curious b/c at my 10 year there were very few who were married and even fewer who had kids.... but in the NJ/NYC area people tend to get married much later in life, kids later, too - i know if it was in FL where i went to college, most had kids by 10 years.

Isn't it funny that the area in which you live makes such a difference in this regard? Most of the people I graduated with and am FB friends with are married and/or have kids. I'm in PA, so not too far from you, but far enough to make a difference I guess!

FWIW, we had more than 10 (closer to 20 I think) moms in our graduating class. One girl was on #2 by graduation.

[slug*bug]

Oct 2, 2012 19:19:22 GMT -5 kaylie said:

That's a pretty standard format

This.

[LauraMoser]

Oct 2, 2012 19:58:08 GMT -5 @booby said:

i think some of this too is b/c people will come from OOT to attend. so, it makes sense to have a variety of events. also, what that other person said about having a family event and an adult event, so as to appease everyone (except you, lol).

Well jk

No everyone makes sense here. I get it now. I just haven't heard of any 10 year reunion around here that was two days, my sister's included.

[Deleted]

We had something like this--a family friendly afternoon at the park and a private room at a local bar for drinks later. I loved how it was set up, and chose to only go to the bar. It was great to have both options.

[Roc A Bee]

My 10 was last weekend! Friday was BBQ/tailgating before the the homecoming game. Then we attended the game. We all headed to a bar after, but that wasnt really planned. Saturday was dinner and dancing. There were no family friendly events although 2 people brought kids Friday night.

[h]

My 10 year was a weekend thing with multiple events--tailgate, homecoming football game, and after party on a Friday, family picnic Saturday afternoon, and fancy party Saturday night.

[bronxgirl]

For both my 10 yr and my 20 yr there was a casual Friday night event at a bar, a formal dinner/dance Sat night (although the 20 yr ended up not being formal) and a brunch on Sunday. For the 10 yr I just went to Sat night, for the 20 yr I went to everything. That's the way things are done where I grew up, so it seemed normal. My wedding was the same way- a semi-formal party Sat night, the wedding Sunday, brunch on Monday

[Deleted]

Normal--my HS reunions are way more involved than that even. My 20th is next year . I don't attend them ever though.

[drloretta]

My HS alums would think you're crazy. There is usually a 2-day thing for our reunions. Something during the day that's family-friendly, and something during the evening that's adults-only. One is usually on a Friday, one on a Saturday. NBD

[rubytue]

My 20 had a Friday night pizza party, then a football game. On sat there was a family picnic then the actual reunion reception with food and bar.

I only went to the reception.

[egishere]

I think this is pretty typical. Both my 10 and 15 yr had events fri night at a bar, sat family picnic and a more formal party on say night.

[RoxMonster]

I graduated 8 years ago so no 10 year yet. I didn't go to my 5 year but it was a one-night thing at a local bar. I wouldn't go to both events in a two-day affair (and may not go to anything), but if my friends from HS would be there, I would probably pick one of the two and attend that one.

[moolarkey]

The 5 year, when almost no one had kids was a 1 night affair (we cleared all the beer out of both groceries stores in town). By the 10 year, when we all had kids we did 2 -day events. Saturday night was cocktails/dinner/dance and Sunday afternoon was a family-friendly potluck. We all wanted to be our crazy old selves on Saturday night but we also all wanted to see each other's kids. Now our kids are all grown so it's back to just Saturday night.