how long do i have to go for?

[jennlin]

my very good friend (we exchange 2-3 emails a day, and text anywhere between twice and 50 times a day)...her husband is having his 30th birthday party this weekend.

i've been good friends with her for 22 years now. i don't like her husband. her husband is not very social, and only chooses to talk to his close friends, never branches out. he can sit at a birthday party for 3 hours without saying a single word.

my friend and i have very very few mutual friends. i don't know if they will be at the birthday party.

he recently got prescribed some antidepressant and mood stabilizers. about 2-3 months ago. and friend said he's "doing better".

birthday party is at a house, about 50 minute drive from home (deep-deep snohomish).

i don't really want to go to his birthday party...but should i go, because of how close i am with his wife?

[madDawg228]

What time does it start?

[jennlin]

Oct 3, 2012 11:16:06 GMT -5 madDawg228 said:

What time does it start?

6pm

[madDawg228]

I would arrive around 6, and stay a couple hours. I'm not a mom though, so I'm not sure how tough this outing would be w/a baby (w or w/o a babysitter).

[jennlin]

Oct 3, 2012 11:19:30 GMT -5 madDawg228 said:

I would arrive around 6, and stay a couple hours. I'm not a mom though, so I'm not sure how tough this outing would be w/a baby (w or w/o a babysitter).

she's got 2 kids (5 months and 2 years), and says "all ages welcome".

[amandasw]

well regardless, if you bring your baby then you have an excuse to leave whenever you want, right? I guess because you're close with her I would go, but I totally understand when you don't want to go somewhere but feel kind of obligated to.

[llh0211]

I would go, make an appearance, as she is one of your bff's. Maybe stay for an hour or so. You can always us BJL as an excuse to leave...

[Deleted]

I would say an hour and then make a BJL excuse and leave. Normally I would say make a BJL excuse and skip, but given what good friends you are with her, its tough. I would be inclined to pass, just because of that hour and 4o minute round trip!

[Kahala]

i agree that you should go and make an appearance, even though the drive sucks, combine combine with a pumpkin patch outing? there are a couple in snohomish

[Deleted]

Oct 3, 2012 11:23:11 GMT -5 @amandasw said:

well regardless, if you bring your baby then you have an excuse to leave whenever you want, right? I guess because you're close with her I would go, but I totally understand when you don't want to go somewhere but feel kind of obligated to.

This.

Don't bring enough diapers in the house (take them out of the bag) and leave them in the car. And claim that you have to go bc she needs to be changed and you're out of diapers.

[niq]

Oct 3, 2012 11:23:11 GMT -5 @amandasw said:

well regardless, if you bring your baby then you have an excuse to leave whenever you want, right?

+1.

Do you have anything else you guys need/want to do in or near deep, deep snohomish?

[jennlin]

you guys all suck. i didn't want to go, but i feel like i really should. you were supposed to tell me it's okay to not go. booooooo.

uw has a fantastic idea with the diapers, however it won't work since her son is in the same size diapers as bjl. there's nothing else we want to do over that way...we have a pumpkin-farm-playdate coming up with a few other friends, so we don't need to do it twice.

boooooooo. long drive. boooooooo.

[Deleted]

What if you don't pack pj's and say that she needs to be put down for bed, but forgot her pj's? Do other people do this or is it just H's brother and sister who brings pj's for their kids?

I'm trying to help you out here, dude.

[jennlin]

okay part 2. do i need to bring him a present? i don't think i've bought my friend a present for *her* bday for years....i think bought her something once like 5 years ago...but we also don't have parties, either.

[Deleted]

No present, but a bottle of wine would be more than enough if you start feeling guilty.

[Deleted]

No present, making that crappy drive is enough. But really, if you're dreading it that much, then don't go. Make excuses day of saying bjl didn't sleep well the night before, is fussy/having a bad day, etc and she can't handle the long time in the car.