"I'm just not the type of person to work a regular

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job"

That's what our neighbor said to my H after coming home from working in another state for part of the summer.
These are the same people who have made comments about us "having money" because we put a deck and patio in our back yard and then bought a new vehicle.
They have 2 young kids and rent the house they live in because they can't get qualified for a loan because of their debt. Both of them drive $30K vehicles and they have a boat, a camper, and a motorcycle. She works about 20 hours a week and he maybe works 30 a week during the summer. "Spring is for fishing and Fall is hunting/sports."
I don't get them. They complain all the time about wanting to buy a house and how they got screwed by the owner of the last house they rented (she let it go into foreclosure).
Are some people just so clueless that they don't realize THEIR actions are what put them in the position they are in now?
I know everyone says you'll never really know someone else's financial picture, but I really wonder how they afford the rent for their house every month.

[mrssavy42112]

Oct 3, 2012 12:01:52 GMT -5 flygirl said:

job"

That's what our neighbor said to my H after coming home from working in another state for part of the summer.
These are the same people who have made comments about us "having money" because we put a deck and patio in our back yard and then bought a new vehicle.
They have 2 young kids and rent the house they live in because they can't get qualified for a loan because of their debt. Both of them drive $30K vehicles and they have a boat, a camper, and a motorcycle. She works about 20 hours a week and he maybe works 30 a week during the summer. "Spring is for fishing and Fall is hunting/sports."
I don't get them. They complain all the time about wanting to buy a house and how they got screwed by the owner of the last house they rented (she let it go into foreclosure).
Are some people just so clueless that they don't realize THEIR actions are what put them in the position they are in now? I know everyone says you'll never really know someone else's financial picture, but I really wonder how they afford the rent for their house every month.

Yes, yes they are. I had some friends/acquaintances from my early 20s that were the same. They spit out the same stupid lines. ‘Oh, I could just never work a FT 9-5 job like that. It’s just not me.’ Meanwhile, they’re now 26, work only PT, live with their parents & one had their car repo’d. People really are that ignorant. They don’t want to know.

[anna7602]

I have a friend kind of like this. She is committed to pursuing "her art." Which is great, because she is actually talented and is able to pay most of her bills, but she complains all the time that her health insurance payments suck (because she's never had the kind of job that subsidizes it), that she wanted Tiffany rings as her wedding rings because anything else "looks cheap" and that it sucks that she can't have a summer home of her own in Maine instead of always just going to her sister's second home.

Honestly, she is doing fairly well considering she mostly just works as a freelance art editor and sells her own work here and there. If she would stop fixating on the status symbols, she'd be doing even better.

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Some people will never learn.

Don't even get me started on my in-laws and their random phone calls about how they are just stretched so thin and only need $$ to pay the X bill and how we are so "lucky" that we are able to pay our bills and do things in life.

There's also another couple in our circle who got offended when we refused to go out with them every weekend to a mediocre restaraunt that was about $40/plate. DH told them it was just too expensive and dropping $100 every week at one restaurant was just not in our budget. The guy told DH that he had no idea how we could be "hurting" for money so badly that we couldn't even afford a nice restaurant once per week since we rent our house and drive older cars. This is the same guy who is in a lawsuit for being in an accident without car insurance, has stated that he has no health insurance, and says he's not worried about retirement savings. I think he should be kicked out of our circle, the more I learn about him, the less I like him. lol

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I am not the person to work a regular job. I am the type of person to sit on a beach drinking cocktails while a hot cabana boy rubs suntan lotion on me but I work anyway. I really dislike people like that.

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Oct 3, 2012 12:44:49 GMT -5 @ffbride0813 said:

I am not the person to work a regular job. I am the type of person to sit on a beach drinking cocktails while a hot cabana boy rubs suntan lotion on me but I work anyway. I really dislike people like that.

I think this is why it confuses me so much--like he thinks we just love having to get up at 4:30 every morning, send our kid to daycare and work until 4, 5 every night. We do it because it helps us afford things like a deck or patio. Logic is just out the window...

[knitty]

Oct 3, 2012 12:01:52 GMT -5 flygirl said:

I don't get them. They complain all the time about wanting to buy a house and how they got screwed by the owner of the last house they rented (she let it go into foreclosure).
Are some people just so clueless that they don't realize THEIR actions are what put them in the position they are in now?

No, there are just people who'll always find something to complain about. If they earned $250k they'd be complaining that they can't stay in five star hotels every holiday, or that school fees really gouge them.

Where I come from seasonal work is very lucrative.

[heyrebekah]

"Well, I guess I'm just not the type of person to drown in debt and struggle to afford things."

[pitterwoo]

Oct 3, 2012 13:32:26 GMT -5 heyrebekah said:

"Well, I guess I'm just not the type of person to drown in debt and struggle to afford things."

:Y: this

Everyone may not have the drive to work long hours, but at least they should own their situation.

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My friends in-laws are exactly like this, and they're in their 50's. The husband has decided he's "sticking it to the man" with this behavior, and the wife enables her husband and is just "too tired" to work consistently.

My mother has also just acted entitled her whole life and is bitter that my dad could not provide for her to stay at home and shop endlessly. Despite her parents being fantastic with budgeting and having a great nest egg for retirement, my mom didn't learn any of this or teach me and my brother how to handle money. She started teaching in the 1970's and could have been in a great position to retire at this point but it was 'too hard' once my older brother was born. Now she's 60, has never worked for more than 4 years in a single position (each job was just so incredibly hard with horrible managers), no medical coverage at this point, and is dependent on social security for income once she qualifies. They even cashed in her new husband's retirement fund to relocate to 14hrs away to from me and my brother to east Bejeezus SC 8yrs ago, bought a double-wide (for our future 'vacation home' in the middle of nowhere, uh huh) and her struggles are everyone else's fault. Heaven help her if she suddenly needs serious medical care or a nursing home Needless to say, we haven't spoken in over 2 years due to ongoing/escalating drama and my life is better for it.

[winnied]

My cousin told me when she graduated college she's "just not ready to work full time." So, naturally, her parents supported her while she took time to "find herself." My SIL worked for maybe one full year before going part-time (no kids) because she just wasn't loving working so much.

I wouldn't care except they nag me when I have to take a work call during vacation.