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6 weeks after abortion...an interesting read!

[geekgirl]

Holy crap! That girl needs some serious help. And notice this guy is JUST her BF? Why do people insist on having children when marriage isn't even in sight (at least an engagement)? I'm really not trying to stir the pot with this but if you or your SO isn't willing to commit to a lifelong commitment, WTF do you think a child is?

[imoan]

I agree with you geek. You're not quite sure enough about someone to marry them... But you're totes cool with creating a human being that has half their DNA?!

This chick needs to get to therapy and get her head on straight. She's all I we the place and is not in the right frame of mind to be making huge, life changing decisions.

[tmonoxide]

May 20, 2012 11:11:53 GMT -5 geekgirl said:

Holy crap! That girl needs some serious help. And notice this guy is JUST her BF? Why do people insist on having children when marriage isn't even in sight (at least an engagement)? I'm really not trying to stir the pot with this but if you or your SO isn't willing to commit to a lifelong commitment, WTF do you think a child is?

My xSIL was like this -- she had one kid at 20; the guy did not marry her.

7 years later she did it again, this time, my xH's crazy brother (who knocked her up that time) decided to make her an honest woman. When I met xH they were only married about 9 months.

The marriage didn't last --- by the time we were married a year they'd already separated. And it was a done deal a couple of years later.

Wheres the link to the SO thread? maybe she deleted it?

[Mrs.Rad888]

Did you guys see the post on S&R on the old nest, from the woman that had a baby, hasn't yet been to her PP checkup? She and her H had sex, and since she isn't back on BC, she popped a Plan B. But she's over the moon, since having sex for the first time PP went well!

community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/66044220.aspx

ETA: Am I violating the TOS if I link to the old S&R?

[ECB]

I'm kind of stumped. Especially after her defense of why she doesn't want to get married.

I'm pro-choice. 100%. But WTF really changed in 6 weeks where 6 weeks ago, the good choice seems to be "lets get an abortion", and then just 6 weeks later, it's now "Oh- I'd be happy to be PG!!!".

It's a life we're talking about here. to be so back and forth and fickle.... cripes. What happens once you have an actual child and you're thrown a few bad curve balls all at once?!?! You can't just get rid of the kid because it's a "bad time".

[Muddled]

Why was it a bad time a month and a half ago and it's not now? Someone give the girl an IUD.