Flameful complaint

[casmgn]

DH and I are in the middle of nowhere Canada for a friend's wedding. Had to fly to Buffalo and then drive over two hours. To the middle of nowhere.

DH is in the wedding party so we have to go to the rehearsal tonight. He just read the rehearsal dinner details - non-alcoholic beverages provided, bring money if you want alcoholic beverages. I am pissed. About half the wedding party traveled from the US, the least you can do is give us an effing beer or glass of wine.

[countthestars]

Not flameful!

gavel.

[Deleted]

Oh yeah I'd be pissed. I can see maybe having a cash bar if funds were tight and the guest list was large for the actual wedding but the rehearsal is for the people closest to you and they deserve at least some wine on the table. Thumbs down.

[tinydancer]

I bet they have a liquor store somewhere. Go buy some booze and take it back to your room.

[puppydoggie]

yeah, it's uncool. If they don't want it, don't have it at all. Don't make guests pay.

[shortstax]

Take a flask!

[casmgn]

Oct 5, 2012 13:50:20 GMT -5 @tinydancer said:

I bet they have a liquor store somewhere. Go buy some booze and take it back to your room.

Some of us are going out afterward, but I want a flipping drink with dinner! I deserve one after our travel today!!

[Deleted]

not flameful. Thats ridic.

[h]

Another vote for not flameful. I would be annoyed, too.

[Deleted]

I don't even drink and I think that is dumb. At least have wine and beer with the meal.

[Deleted]

I'd be annoyed too.

But I'd also be first in line at the bar.

[casmgn]

Oct 5, 2012 14:02:21 GMT -5 v said:

I'd be annoyed too.

But I'd also be first in line at the bar.

Lol obviously I will buy a drink, albeit bitterly.

[Deleted]

Not at all flameful, that's ridiculous!

[cjeanette]

I went to one wedding where the rehearsal dinner alcohol was on us. It didn't bother me. The reception had free booze. That is all that matters to me.

[Deleted]

That's ridiculous and cheap. I would take out whatever money you spend at the bar from their wedding gift money. [joking]

[Deleted]

Do they have a religious opposition to alcohol?

[definitelyO]

I would definitely be annoyed. AND - do you need to exchange money now? middle of nowhere - will they take USD?

[h]

Oct 5, 2012 14:34:57 GMT -5 @redbellpeppers said:

Do they have a religious opposition to alcohol?

Well there is a cash bar, so it can't be that serious an opposition. I have been to wedding receptions with no alcohol for religious reasons before, but they didn't have cash bars--not my bag, but I can deal with it. But having a cash bar is different, IMO. Is there even such a thing as a religious opposition to paying for alcohol?

[wannabe]

i fucking hate cash bars.

[Deleted]

Oct 5, 2012 14:51:12 GMT -5 jenny1980 said:

Oct 5, 2012 13:52:25 GMT -5 puppydoggie said:

yeah, it's uncool. If they don't want it, don't have it at all. Don't make guests pay.

don't get my wrong, I think not hosting is tacky, but I'd still rather have the option of paying for a drink or two.

:Y:

[Deleted]

Oct 5, 2012 14:51:12 GMT -5 jenny1980 said:

Oct 5, 2012 13:52:25 GMT -5 puppydoggie said:

yeah, it's uncool. If they don't want it, don't have it at all. Don't make guests pay.

don't get my wrong, I think not hosting is tacky, but I'd still rather have the option of paying for a drink or two.

Agree.

[casmgn]

Oct 5, 2012 14:34:57 GMT -5 @redbellpeppers said:

Do they have a religious opposition to alcohol?

no

[casmgn]

Oct 5, 2012 14:37:31 GMT -5 definitelyO said:

I would definitely be annoyed. AND - do you need to exchange money now? middle of nowhere - will they take USD?

basically. Hope they take credit cards

[Kore]

Oct 5, 2012 13:53:48 GMT -5 shortstax said:

Take a flask!

Just don't post about it on here if you do! LoveTrains was dumped by a close friend after friend found a post about how LT brought a flask to friend's wedding bc it was either a cash bar or no bar.

[glitzy07]

Oct 5, 2012 15:15:40 GMT -5 Kore said:

Oct 5, 2012 13:53:48 GMT -5 shortstax said:

Take a flask!

Just don't post about it on here if you do! LoveTrains was dumped by a close friend after friend found a post about how LT brought a flask to friend's wedding bc it was either a cash bar or no bar.

Ha! Seriously?

[AAM2012]

Oct 5, 2012 15:15:40 GMT -5 Kore said:

Oct 5, 2012 13:53:48 GMT -5 shortstax said:

Take a flask!

Just don't post about it on here if you do! LoveTrains was dumped by a close friend after friend found a post about how LT brought a flask to friend's wedding bc it was either a cash bar or no bar.

Crazy!! She could have at least apologized to LT for being cheap and not having any alcohol at the wedding.

[expatpumpkin]

So shortsighted of the couple. People traveled long distances. They want to catch up with old friends. Alcohol makes everyone relaxed, open up, and have more fun. Why cheap out on this vital ingredient to a good party? Do people not want their weddings to be fun?

[casmgn]

The rehearsal is also an hour and a half tonight. Not including the dinner - that is after.

[Kore]

Random sort of related: My ILs hosted our rehearsal dinner at a restaurant. Open bar. Except somehow the servers didn't understand that part, and started handing out bills for drinks to the guests at the end of the night. Agh! Thankfully, we saw this happening before anybody paid. It was mortifying, and it was just a misunderstanding. 8.5 years later, and I'm still like "eek" when I think about that moment.

[5kcandlesinthewind]

My mom hosted my brother's rehearsal dinner recently. She doesn't drink and she's not exactly made of money, so she assumed it was fine to just offer soda/water/coffee. She genuinely did not understand why I was horrified at making people pay for beer or wine (it was a Thai place, so those were the two options). My husband and I covered it, which she found out when I was handed a bill at the end of the night.

(The wedding was cash bar, and trust me, if we could have covered that too we would have. I hate cash bars. But at least the rest of the wedding wasn't totally over the top extravagant.)