Appearance: Am I limited to guys that work retail?

[Deleted]

I think you can't help but be who you are. And do you really want to change yourself to be with a "professional" man? Sure a super conservative lawyer may not want to date you, but I doubt you'd want to date him. However, there are tons of uber creative professionals like graphic designers, ad execs, web developers (they aren't all geeky!), writers, etc. and yes even likely some lawyers who would totally dig you!

[gozf]

You're being silly. Your look isn't polarizing at all. I don't know how you're meeting people or who has expressed interested, but perhaps it's the social situations that you're putting yourself in that are attracting this current pool, as opposed to your appearance?

I don't think you're being too picky, necessarily. It's important to have a partner who can support him or herself. But not all retail only pays minimum wage, y'know.

[gozf]

Also, not all professionals are stodgy! I'm the director of communications for a well -regarded college and I'm tattooed like crazy.

[imalwaysme79]

I agree with everyone above. I also wanted to say you are one hot lady!

[starburst604]

Everything these girls said and I love your look!

[lookingup]

I agree with the PPs also. There are plenty of ambitious, creative, professional guys out there who would love to date a lady like you. Lots of men here in my area own successful businesses (food trucks, bars, coffee shops, tattoo parlors) and lead "alternative" lifestyles.

You are gorgeous, btw!

[explorer2001]

You're gorgeous! I think its all attitude and presentation. You can't be tatooed and professional or tatooless and unprofessional. I'm sure some people won't get it but you don't want them anyway. However if all your pics show off your tatoos, I can see where someone might think you are so into the tatoos that you wouldn't gir with their professional crowd it conservative family.

Ex. ExBF could look the part no problem, but I took him to a work party and he told some completely inappropriate story to a coworker and embarrassed me to no end. That was a huge flag for me that it wasn't going to work out.

Maybe a mix of pictures and a mention of your profession covers it for online dating. Just random thoughts.

[Deleted]

You will find someone worthy so don't give up! You're definitely a sexy chick

[lookingup]

You know, it could be the other way around for men, too. The guy I'm seeing now is very successful; he owns two businesses and is very well-off financially. A few nights ago, he said that he doesn't understand why I'm attracted to him since he's not all inked and pierced. I have 14 piercings and 3 tattoos; he's got none.

[dakotadangerdog]

Girl you are SMOKIN!!!

[bowies]

I work around a lot of ex-military and current military so there are quite a few tattoo enthusiasts. You'd never know it from 8 to 5 since everyone wears suits or uniforms. At happy hours, when ties are shed and sleeves rolled up, it's unusual not to have something to show off.

[redredwine]

Um....you're hot!! And I agree, there ARE men out there for you that are professional and would dig your look. There are a ton at my work..but a little far from you. I could see San Diego ? Not as conservative at all but not sure how far from you?

I do have to laugh at me though...I have 3 small tatts. All pretty hidden. I had one guy that just was not OK with them and one that likened me Ton a stripper. And I live in a VERY tattoo / go all out with hair color city!!!

[bullygirl979]

mp, I am just going to agree with everyone else.

To be honest, yes, some guys may be turned off by your look but I think that has more to do with their value system, not the job they have. And yes, I think there are plenty of professional who would love your look.

I am a pretty conservative looking chick. No tats, normal hair, I totally dress J. Crew, WHBM, Banana Republic. I went on a first date with a guy on Wednesday that had a full sleeve tat on one arm and a half sleeve on another. Just because I don't have tats doesn't mean that I think they are ugly.

You are hot and have an awesome personality. You won't have any issues, believe me.

[gozf]

Oct 6, 2012 10:02:56 GMT -5 Stan said:

You know who have a lot of tattoos and don't make minimum wage and aren't too far from you? I mean, MH has two tattoos!

I have no idea what this means.

[gozf]

Oct 6, 2012 10:27:11 GMT -5 Stan said:

Oct 6, 2012 10:20:10 GMT -5 gozf said:

I have no idea what this means.

MP will.

Please just tell me that the subject/verb agreement issues were intentional. I'm about to hyperventilate.

[Deleted]

No, I don't think you are limited to those types of people but keep in mind that retail=/=minimum wage. H and both work in retail and were just shy of six figures last year (combined). Don't dismiss people to date because you THINK they make minimum wage.

ETA: LOVE those shoes!

[blackkitty]

I think it's ridiculous to think this especially if you work in a professional job yourself

[blackkitty]

Oct 6, 2012 15:52:14 GMT -5 mp said:

Oct 6, 2012 14:22:11 GMT -5 @kjewell said:

No, I don't think you are limited to those types of people but keep in mind that retail=/=minimum wage. H and both work in retail and were just shy of six figures last year (combined). Don't dismiss people to date because you THINK they make minimum wage.

ETA: LOVE those shoes!

Retail was just my dramatic example. Hehe. I know. I would not turn a guy down just because he works retail. Hell I really dig a Starbucks barista at my local shop.

And blackkitty, I've been known to have ridiculous woe is me thoughts from time to time. Thanks for bearing with me.

I wouldn't understand as I am never ridiculous

[winecat]

You're totally hawt! And I totally agree with everyone else. There are lots of creative professional guys who would totally dig you!