So remember the acid wedding?

[camelblossom]

That was almost exactly four weeks ago? We've had two pregnancy announcements in two days now. One of whom is the bride.

[EloiseWeenie]

whoa

[pursemeatballs]

Wow. You're next, PB.

[camelblossom]

Don't even joke about such horrors. I will punch you right in the purse meatball.

[NandaB]

That acid....it makes ya horny! (Oh wait, I think I'm thinking about something else)

[meatywienert]

They are announcing their pregnancies at 4 weeks?

[joolz]

Holy!! That is hilarious and awesome.

[camelblossom]

Oct 9, 2012 22:28:13 GMT -5 meatywienert said:

They are announcing their pregnancies at 4 weeks?

I thought the same thing, but I don't think that the fragility of an early pregnancy is as well known IRL as it is around these parts.

Neither has mentioned her due date so I am making assumptions. But SIL was sure trashed when she got married, so hopefully it is a wedding night baby!

[meatywienert]

That is probably true. That was one hot, drug induced sexy time wedding!

[dearprudence]

Unless they were trying to get pregnant, I feel like most people don't test early enough to find out they're 4 weeks along. Which means she was probably pregnant during Acid-fest 2012. And if they were trying, then it's a little odd she would get so trashed!

[meatywienert]

When we were ttc and I poas I still didn't get a positive test until I was 7 weeks. I guess if the wedding was 4 weeks ago they would actually be more like 6 weeks pregnant? If I knew I was planning on ttc soon, like right away on the wedding night, I definitely would not be doing something like acid. Drinking is one thing, but also adding something like acid to the mix? Tell me to stop being Judgey Mcjudgerson.

[camelblossom]

I don't think the bride was doing it, to be fair. Mostly a bunch of their crazy mountainfolk friends. These people all have dreads and name their kids things like Zeppelin (they call her Zeppy for short, obvs).

[lcass]

Oct 9, 2012 22:55:30 GMT -5 camelblossom said:

I thought the same thing, but I don't think that the fragility of an early pregnancy is as well known IRL as it is around these parts.

True enough. There are definitely people who tell the whole world the second after they POAS. I find it very strange, but I also could never be one of the ladies who tells NOBODY until second tri. Even after our early loss the first time, we told our parents and closest friends at about 8 weeks. Untelling sucks, but I can't imagine not having them know what we were going through, either.

[meatywienert]

Ok, I stop my judgement then. I'm sure little Zeppy will turn out just fine too.

[NandaB]

I had a friend text me the day she peed on the stick. We are not that close. I mean, I like her and our families have hung out, we go to each others kids bdays (she already has 4! Boys) but she's not my bff or anything. Of course she has had 4 successful pregnancies and no reason not to tell people.

[camelblossom]

I had no idea loss was so common until TB. I told a bunch of people the day I found out the first time around.

[joolz]

I definitely waited for the all clear from my dr to tell anyone last time except for my two BFFs. This time is pretty much the same although I'm really struggling with telling my family.

My sister had a traumatic loss earlier this year at 21 wks and her due date is/would have been next week, about the same time we will hopefully get the all clear to tell. I do not want to add to the sadness I'm sure she will feel, but my parents are leaving for a month next week and I want to tell them before they leave. Sigh. It is all very sad and I don't know what to do.

[EloiseWeenie]

Oh Joolz, that's so sad. Your poor sister.

[joolz]

Thanks, Eloise. She is doing awesome, all things considered, but it doesn't feel appropriate for me to say anything to her yet.

[EloiseWeenie]

I never know what to do in those situations. You know she'll be thrilled for you though. It's her future niece/nephew!

[joolz]

She will for sure, and she is so happy when she's with G. Just timing wise I feel I should be sensitive.

[camelblossom]

Aw Joolz, that's a shitty situation. I'm sorry.

[mscatra]

That's rough, Joolz. On the flip, if you don't tell her the same time as everyone else, it might highlight the loss for her.

[lcass]

Joolz, that really sucks. I'm sorry for your sister's loss, and that the timing is all so lousy. My SIL also lost her baby at 21 weeks (well, she went into labour that couldn't be stopped and her daughter couldn't survive at that stage) when I was at about 34 or 35 weeks. I felt terrible that we couldn't offer her a chance to heal without pregnancy and babies being in her face and on everyone's mind/tongues the whole time. I'm glad to hear that your sister is handling it all as well as can be hoped for.

[joolz]

Thanks friends. I appreciate your kindness! I was planning to tell everyone separately anyway as we don't have any family dinner plans coming up. I'll make some decisions once we hopefully hear the heart next week.

I'm sorry about your SIL Lcass. It is the worst.

[overture]

Whatever you decide to do, Joolz, I'm sure she'll appreciate that you're thinking of her and trying to be sensitive, even if she can't help having hurt feelings.

[joolz]

OVEY!! I was totally going to write you a shoutout post today asking where the H you have been.

Thank you. I know you're right and she will have some sadness no matter how or when I do it.

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Oct 9, 2012 22:00:52 GMT -5 camelblossom said:

Don't even joke about such horrors. I will punch you right in the purse meatball.

LAWLZ!