@ help me make this important life decision

[jennlin]

Oct 10, 2012 15:13:53 GMT -5 @jennuinne said:

If C is willing, that sounds great! Can DH ask her if the offer still stands and then you talk to her? While you can't breast feed during work, you can still pump. You'll just have to know that she's family and you may have to pick your battles so not to ruin your relationship, but if a had a newborn and was in your positiion, I would be happy to have someone I know that could watch her.

absolutely this.

[fiddles]

I think if you go with C you'll have to sit down and lay out everything you want and expect. She will also have to do the same. I agree with Jenn that if you go forward with this arrangement you'll definitely have to be able to let some things slide.

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Oct 10, 2012 15:55:08 GMT -5 fiddles said:

I think if you go with C you'll have to sit down and lay out everything you want and expect. She will also have to do the same. I agree with Jenn that if you go forward with this arrangement you'll definitely have to be able to let some things slide.

This. If I'm thinking of the right daycare (M&M) I have had several friends that used them for a while but didn't like it so they went other places.

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They had similar concerns that you have. One liked it at first and then she said that it was just too chaotic and things just changed. It's been a couple years since they used them but when we were looking into starting E in a daycare instead of switching our shifts like we did I just got a feeling that they weren't a place I wanted to put my child.

[fiddles]

Have you checked out care.com? I just saw a commercial on TV for them.

[karebear219]

I like the SIL idea. Sounds like she will be in great hands there. She can always go to day care if it doesn't work out. It also sounds like she'll get way more attention there.

[InBetweenDays]

Even working from home you're going to need some sort of childcare. It is virtually impossible to get a full day's work done with a baby/child at home unless you have very flexible hours, don't need to have any face/phone times with coworkers and/or clients, and are willing to give up any time to yourself or with your spouse (because the hours you won't be able to work during the day will need to be made up in the evening and early morning).

Personally I'd be very wary of using a relative for child care. I can just see too many opportunities to have resentment or issues come up.

[sarack]

I have watched a family member before and never asked for money and money was never offered to me. we watched this family member for a long time, 4-6 days a week. it kinda changed our relationship, but we're fine now.

i think the fact that she offered and now you're asking if it's still on is perfect. plus, you'reo ffering her money. i'd just let her know tha tyou completely understand if she isn't willing to take this job on, as it's a huge one.

otherwise, is there any way to hire some one to nanny???

[InBetweenDays]

That's great! I have several friends that have done a nanny share and it seems like such a great option when they are infants.

[jennlin]

a friend of mine's sister is a nanny on the island! i told you this....i was hoping she'd be yours! but yeah, i think nanny / nanny-sharing would be good.