Two years ago, I was almost 300 pounds at 5'5". I never had a problem getting laid before I got married and I certainly don't have any issues now. Never used a broomstick or had help from others, either
I'm now about 200, and seriously fucking cute, or so I've been told. My H loved me big and he loves me not so big, because he loves ME.
i am loving all the people who decided to say fuck you to the morons and post pictures of their beautiful selves.
me too. so many beauties.
also, perhaps i am opening a can of worms here, but hey, i have felt the need to point this out since like, page 5. but the OP was asking a question about 'obese' people, yes, but i believe she was referring to folks who had way more body fat than many of you 'protesters'.
like, i'm pretty sure no one is wondering how so-an-so, who may be clinically obese, but who is just like any of the people who posted their pic, has sex. duh.
anyway, i don't mean to offend anyone with this clarification, but it is bothering me that many of you average ladies think she was referring to you or people of your size. this was a question of mechanics when one is very large. i do see that it was a hurtful, and ignorant question...but again, i feel this overwhelming urge to clarify.
I knew she was referring to people that were bigger than I am, I was joking in my post.
I just felt the need to point out, along with other people, that just because we are bigger in weight doesn't mean we're gross.
I know she was more referring to, like, the half-ton man. But I wanted to make the point that "morbidly obese" isn't the right term, since it's not a subjective judgment or classification.
Post by karmasabiotch on Oct 13, 2012 16:10:58 GMT -5
I'm one of the people being discussed. At 4'11 and over 300lbs I was/am/was clinically obese. Despite my weight I was clean, able to have sex, and complete all skills needed to get through a day without assistance. Now I will take my first ML break.
But objectively, wasn't the OP just asking how the *really* big people (like, the ones who can't walk and ride around on scooters) have sex? I don't think the original question was directed towards people whose weight causes no physical impediment, she was asking about people so big the fat covers the sexual organs. I think.
And, this thread was informative because now I know about broomsticks and stuff. Assuming that's not an urban myth. And also, I think the indignation is a bit double standardy as I have heard people speculate multiple times about how a very thin person manages to get pregnant and no one ever misconstrues that into "OMG, someone asked why anyone would want to have sex with a skinny person, let me post my weight and how many people wanted to screw me before lunch today."
But objectively, wasn't the OP just asking how the *really* big people (like, the ones who can't walk and ride around on scooters) have sex? I don't think the original question was directed towards people whose weight causes no physical impediment, she was asking about people so big the fat covers the sexual organs. I think.
And, this thread was informative because now I know about broomsticks and stuff. Assuming that's not an urban myth. And also, I think the indignation is a bit double standardy as I have heard people speculate multiple times about how a very thin person manages to get pregnant and no one ever misconstrues that into "OMG, someone asked why anyone would want to have sex with a skinny person, let me post my weight and how many people wanted to screw me before lunch today."
She said "really obese" and "morbidly obese" and people were pointing out that, technically, they fall under those terms.
OK, but after she acknowledged using those terms in error, it wasn't like there was any question about what she was talking about. The question really did not read like it was implying someone who is morbidly obese isn't sexually attractive, it read like she was asking how people with fat overlapping their sexual organs managed to physically have sex.
And also, I think the indignation is a bit double standardy as I have heard people speculate multiple times about how a very thin person manages to get pregnant and no one ever misconstrues that into "OMG, someone asked why anyone would want to have sex with a skinny person, let me post my weight and how many people wanted to screw me before lunch today."
If she meant "does a morbidly obese person stop ovulating?" then these examples would be comparable. People wondering how skinny chicks get pregnant are not questioning logistics of skinny sex. The OP clearly was.
I'm also sure plenty of skinny people respond saying they got pregnant their first cycle when this comes up.
But objectively, wasn't the OP just asking how the *really* big people (like, the ones who can't walk and ride around on scooters) have sex? I don't think the original question was directed towards people whose weight causes no physical impediment, she was asking about people so big the fat covers the sexual organs. I think.
And, this thread was informative because now I know about broomsticks and stuff. Assuming that's not an urban myth. And also, I think the indignation is a bit double standardy as I have heard people speculate multiple times about how a very thin person manages to get pregnant and no one ever misconstrues that into "OMG, someone asked why anyone would want to have sex with a skinny person, let me post my weight and how many people wanted to screw me before lunch today."
I don't give a fuck what she "meant" it's a cruel question and a BS one. So what if she got BS answers and pictures proving the point? She is an insensitive asshole. If you wouldn't walk up in public and ask someone a question, don't hide behind a computer and do it. That is the reason for the responses.
She said "really obese" and "morbidly obese" and people were pointing out that, technically, they fall under those terms.
OK, but after she acknowledged using those terms in error, it wasn't like there was any question about what she was talking about. The question really did not read like it was implying someone who is morbidly obese isn't sexually attractive, it read like she was asking how people with fat overlapping their sexual organs managed to physically have sex.
And this?!? Is all bull shit. Love how you are playing Devil Advocate and trying to reason and defend this. Seriously, WTF?
Post by mamasaurus on Oct 13, 2012 18:28:28 GMT -5
Re: booby's clarification:
I think the question was not worded well, and I found it insensitive. I also inferred that she was talking about couples with severe mobility issues because of their weight.
Not that I think people that large have no feelings or are undeserving of love/sex, but the woman in the story I repeated allegedly had a 40-pound, grade four panniculus and a husband who was a "feeder." I hope that if anyone here is in that situation, they get some help, and I don't mean "help" as in, "get skinny." I mean it as in, "get marriage counseling."
OK, but after she acknowledged using those terms in error, it wasn't like there was any question about what she was talking about. The question really did not read like it was implying someone who is morbidly obese isn't sexually attractive, it read like she was asking how people with fat overlapping their sexual organs managed to physically have sex.
And this?!? Is all bull shit. Love how you are playing Devil Advocate and trying to reason and defend this. Seriously, WTF?
Oh please. It's not like she came in and advocated for the KKK or something, which is what you are making this out to be. She did not appear mean spirited. And honestly, if someone is so big she can't walk (which is the degree of fat I think she was asking about) why isn't it valid to ask how other mechanics of daily life are carried out?
Look, the post was informative in a lot of ways. I think everyone is now clear that "morbidly obese" doesn't mean "so fat you can't get out of bed." But it's BS to come after her like she intended to be hurtful or mean, or to even pretend that you think she was actually questioning how people who are obviously in good shape, living active lives, have sex. That wasn't what she was asking.
I get what she was asking and I did acknowledge that. I originally posted because she was using the terminology incorrect. And to point out that all overweight people are not the same, so she should not categorize everyone as so.
It was a very insensitive question. But the "Nata" girl or whatever her name is was much worse than op.