Drinking wine and super emotional

[flipflopsandwine]

H leaves tomorrow afternoon for his first business trip ever. He will be gone till Friday and then leaves again Sunday through the next Friday. We've never spent a night apart. More than my feelings I keep getting teary thinking about DS. H and DS are sooooooo close. H does bedtime with me every night and DS is always asking about him during the day. I KNOW it will be fine and we can video chat but it still kinda sucks!!

OK I'm done whining.

[ralphlauren]

He is only going away for a few days..you will both be just fine

[kdmac]

That sucks! Hopefully video chat will help DS and you get through

[girlfriday11]

You can starfish the bed!!!

[flipflopsandwine]

Yeah it will be all ok! girlfriday, you make a good point! Lol

I'm going to go spend a few days at my parents. (they only live about 20 mins away) my dad fell today and split his knee cap in 2. So, he will have surgery this coming week.

[sawyerthedestroyer]

I use business trips as an excuse to get in some extra time with my folks.

PLUS - you get the whole bed to yourself! I loooooove getting the whole bed to myself.

[eb777888]

I'm sorry

FWIW: H started traveling four days a week a few weeks ago. He went from working from home to this crazy traveling schedule. He and S are very close, H puts him to bed every night, wakes up with him in the morning for breakfast-- just as close to H as he is to me. So far the traveling has been fine. Yes, he misses H, but it's totally manageable as long as I keep him busy and have pleny of planned (simple) activities for him.

I also try and enjoy the time alone and the time I have alone with S. I feel like we're closer now that we spend so much one-on-one time together. Then when H comes home for the weekend, we make it really special with fun family activities. So far, it's working. I'm really trying to stay positive about the whole situation because I know, it's not easy.

[flipflopsandwine]

Thanks for sharing that with me, eb. even though I know I'm being kinda ridiculous about it all its nice to be reassured that it'll all be ok.

Btw, is it storming out your way yet? We are getting some thunder and lightning now. Earlier the wind was so crazy that our power was going in and out.

[girlfriday11]

You can talk to me this week. My BF is working 14-16 hour days right now so I'm always alone. We can drink and starfish together! But separately lol.

[gretchenindisguise]

Things I Love when H is OOT.

1. Starfishing the bed.

2. Hogging all of the covers.

3. Deciding what to have for dinner without having to ask.

4. Eating soup for dinner (see #3).

5. Doing things my way. Bedtime is not a time to rile L back up. H thinks otherwise sometimes.

6. Not picking extra undies up off the floor. picking up mine is hard enough, I don't need to see H's there too.

7. Watching trash tv without sneers. Yes. I am watching RHOanycounty, what's your point?

[flipflopsandwine]

Oct 14, 2012 0:32:06 GMT -5 girlfriday11 said:

You can talk to me this week. My BF is working 14-16 hour days right now so I'm always alone. We can drink and starfish together! But separately lol.

Lol I'm in! I am sure I will be on here every night.

[flipflopsandwine]

Ohhh the trash tv is a good point! H haaaaates that stuff and I can't get enough. Ha!

[eb777888]

See, I don't think it's ridiculous. I had some anxiety and a heavy chest just thinking about him leaving and it's wwwwwway easier than I imagined.

And yes, we have some nasty storms just starting. It's getting ugly outside. Are you in the south?

[girlfriday11]

Yay!

[flipflopsandwine]

Oct 14, 2012 0:34:20 GMT -5 eb777888 said:

See, I don't think it's ridiculous. I had some anxiety and a heavy chest just thinking about him leaving and it's wwwwwway easier than I imagined.

And yes, we have some nasty storms just starting. It's getting ugly outside. Are you in the south?

Yeah I remember we chatted a couple weeks ago here and you said you were in the metroplex. I'm in The Colony. It just started raining hard out there!

[girlfriday11]

Gretchen is a wise woman.

[eb777888]

Oct 14, 2012 0:33:11 GMT -5 gretchenindisguise said:

Things I Love when H is OOT.

1. Starfishing the bed.

2. Hogging all of the covers.

3. Deciding what to have for dinner without having to ask.

4. Eating soup for dinner (see #3).

5. Doing things my way. Bedtime is not a time to rile L back up. H thinks otherwise sometimes.

6. Not picking extra undies up off the floor. picking up mine is hard enough, I don't need to see H's there too.

7. Watching trash tv without sneers. Yes. I am watching RHOanycounty, what's your point?

Seriously.

I dare say, it's kinda nice. Having the bed to myself, simple dinners and a REALLY easy house to clean at the end of the day. There is definitely an upside to being alone for a few days a week.

[flipflopsandwine]

Y'all are definitely helping me feel much better about all this!!

[eb777888]

Oct 14, 2012 0:35:38 GMT -5 flipflopsandwine said:

Oct 14, 2012 0:34:20 GMT -5 eb777888 said:

See, I don't think it's ridiculous. I had some anxiety and a heavy chest just thinking about him leaving and it's wwwwwway easier than I imagined.

And yes, we have some nasty storms just starting. It's getting ugly outside. Are you in the south?

Yeah I remember we chatted a couple weeks ago here and you said you were in the metroplex. I'm in The Colony. It just started raining hard out there!

Oh yeah!!!
We ventured out to Dallas tonight and I was worried about getting stuck in the tornadoes that were predicted earlier but it turned out to be a good day. Now, not so much! Tomorrow should be nice, though.

[gretchenindisguise]

Oct 14, 2012 0:36:11 GMT -5 eb777888 said:

Oct 14, 2012 0:33:11 GMT -5 gretchenindisguise said:

Things I Love when H is OOT.

1. Starfishing the bed.

2. Hogging all of the covers.

3. Deciding what to have for dinner without having to ask.

4. Eating soup for dinner (see #3).

5. Doing things my way. Bedtime is not a time to rile L back up. H thinks otherwise sometimes.

6. Not picking extra undies up off the floor. picking up mine is hard enough, I don't need to see H's there too.

7. Watching trash tv without sneers. Yes. I am watching RHOanycounty, what's your point?

Seriously.

I dare say, it's kinda nice. Having the bed to myself, simple dinners and a REALLY easy house to clean at the end of the day. There is definitely an upside to being alone for a few days a week.

Ok, so I'm not the only one that has a cleaner house when H is out of town? I feel like i'm insane, like how it is harder to keep it clean with an extra adult around? I just don't get it.

[flipflopsandwine]

Oh I'm sure it'll be much cleaner around here. H is messy!

[girlfriday11]

Oct 14, 2012 0:40:35 GMT -5 flipflopsandwine said:

Oh I'm sure it'll be much cleaner around here. H is messy!

Ditto. Now if only I could get my kid to go out of town...

[eb777888]

Oct 14, 2012 0:38:03 GMT -5 gretchenindisguise said:

Oct 14, 2012 0:36:11 GMT -5 eb777888 said:

Seriously.

I dare say, it's kinda nice. Having the bed to myself, simple dinners and a REALLY easy house to clean at the end of the day. There is definitely an upside to being alone for a few days a week.

Ok, so I'm not the only one that has a cleaner house when H is out of town? I feel like i'm insane, like how it is harder to keep it clean with an extra adult around? I just don't get it.

Oh, I totally give H shit about how easy it is to keep the house clean when he's gone. H has a tendency to throw his dirty clothes on the floor, leave change/receipts/random trash in random places and when he's home, I cook bigger meals. IDK, H definitely isn't a pig or anything but it's so, so easy keeping the house spotless when he's gone. Maybe it's just easier cleaning up after two than three.

[flipflopsandwine]

Oct 14, 2012 0:41:57 GMT -5 girlfriday11 said:

Oct 14, 2012 0:40:35 GMT -5 flipflopsandwine said:

Oh I'm sure it'll be much cleaner around here. H is messy!

Ditto. Now if only I could get my kid to go out of town...

A few days with the grandparents perhaps?

[gretchenindisguise]

Oct 14, 2012 0:42:42 GMT -5 eb777888 said:

Oct 14, 2012 0:38:03 GMT -5 gretchenindisguise said:

Ok, so I'm not the only one that has a cleaner house when H is out of town? I feel like i'm insane, like how it is harder to keep it clean with an extra adult around? I just don't get it.

Oh, I totally give H shit about how easy it is to keep the house clean when he's gone. H has a tendency to throw his dirty clothes on the floor, leave change/receipts/random trash in random places and when he's home, I cook bigger meals. IDK, H definitely isn't a pig or anything but it's so, so easy keeping the house spotless when he's gone. Maybe it's just easier cleaning up after two than three.

This makes me feel so much better.

I think part of it for me is that I'm also lazier when H is around. If he's sitting, then i want to be sitting too. But if he's not, then I'll keep myself occupied, kwim?

[girlfriday11]

Oct 14, 2012 0:43:48 GMT -5 flipflopsandwine said:

Oct 14, 2012 0:41:57 GMT -5 girlfriday11 said:

Ditto. Now if only I could get my kid to go out of town...

A few days with the grandparents perhaps?

Nooooo I would miss him! But it wouldn't kill him to be a little neater. Ha

[eb777888]

Oct 14, 2012 0:44:47 GMT -5 gretchenindisguise said:

Oct 14, 2012 0:42:42 GMT -5 eb777888 said:

Oh, I totally give H shit about how easy it is to keep the house clean when he's gone. H has a tendency to throw his dirty clothes on the floor, leave change/receipts/random trash in random places and when he's home, I cook bigger meals. IDK, H definitely isn't a pig or anything but it's so, so easy keeping the house spotless when he's gone. Maybe it's just easier cleaning up after two than three.

This makes me feel so much better.

I think part of it for me is that I'm also lazier when H is around. If he's sitting, then i want to be sitting too. But if he's not, then I'll keep myself occupied, kwim?

THIS IS SO CRAZY! yes! exactly! So when H was working from home, I got a little lazy. IDK, just having him at home made me lazier. I noticed the rare days he went into the office, I got a shitload of stuff done. It was so.odd.
So yes, with him not only not at home, but in a different state, I get way more done and have so much more energy. I mean, yes, we have our rough days, but overall it's really not bad at all. Definitely manageable and there's a lot of positives to some time apart.

[mrsjuleshs]

Mine is gone 1 week at a time every other week. Much better than 3 on 3 off but it still sucks. Though having the bed to myself is pretty awesome.

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Oct 13, 2012 23:37:35 GMT -5 sawyerthedestroyer said:

I use business trips as an excuse to get in some extra time with my folks.

Yep.