The Talk Went Okay

[ECB]

As I tend to lurk here, I haven't said anything yet. But I'm really sorry to hear about all of this, but also glad to see that your talk went well. It's a start at least. Good luck w/ the next step!

[hubes]

That's good to hear. I hope that it all turns out okay. Did he say that he might go to counselling with you?

[sugarplum]

I haven't posted much, but I also wanted to say that I'm sorry for all the conflict for you lately. I'm glad the talk went well and hope that you guys continue to communicate better. Hopefully everything will get better more and more every day.

[jaylea]

I'm glad to hear.
I've been thinking about you.

[melindafelinda]

That sounds really good and productive. I'm happy that you have a good start towards working something out.

[looseseal]

I'm so glad, and hope things continue to improve for you guys. Open-minded communication is tough, at least IMO.

[wanderlust]

I am glad. I think you guys will work this out. A job loss is tramatic event and it is normal that a crisis would expose some of the underlying issues in a relationship. It doesn't mean the relationship is doomed, it just means you need to do a little work on it.

[bcv513]

I'm glad things went well.

[peachykate]

This is very good to hear, I hope you guys can continue to have productive conversations and work through things.

[lemondrop]

I'm glad your talk went well, and I really hope things work out for the best for you.

[Deleted]

Sounds like a very promising start!! I hope you both feel better about everything, even just a little, and that it all continues. Good job, you, for initiating this too!!

[RobotLegs]

This sounds like a good start.

[Kit]

This is good to hear. Sounds like things are (hopefully) on the mend. ((hugs))

[Deleted]

this is great. a start is a start and you can't get anywhere without starting. okay, this is sounding very self help book guru nonsense, but you get my drift. something is better than nothing, and that he thought about it before shows (to me) that you ARE more to him than a second paycheck.

[Deleted]

This is good news. I hope you'd continue to work on things and can hopefully both go to counseling. Communication has aways been our issue and we have done counseling a few times over the years. I hope you feel better about things.

[gozf]

I'm so glad it was a good, productive conversation.

[deanlicker78]

I'm glad it went well, I hope things start turning around for you.

I am also the one who shuts down when communicating, it drives H insane. I know how hard it can be to get past that.

[beebeeeater]

Did you say "I need sex" and "I need you to not hide my weed"?

I'm glad you talked but I hope there are more talks pending because you deserve a lot more than an admonition for not communicating well enough.

[lightbulbsun]

I'm glad the talk went well. I hope you continue to work through everything!

[Lauren88]

Communication can be such a big issue in marriages, it was in mine. That's why I wanted to go to marriage counseling, to learn to communicate better. I'm so glad the talk went well and I hope your communication continues to improve.

[Mrs.Beagle]

I'm glad things went well.

::::hugs::::

[alzi]

Sounds like a start! I hope you guys continue to communicate more effectively and work on things. ((hugs))

[annyong]

That sounds like a great start! I'm so glad he was receptive. Your communication style sounds a lot like ours.

And that's fantastic you slept in the same bed!

[Deleted]

May 21, 2012 9:48:14 GMT -5 eightangryreindeer said:

Basically I was like, I need you not to get all doomsday and crazy and then start checking up on me all the time and hounding me about stuff.

And he was like, well if you ever told me what was going on I wouldn't have to wonder about it and get crazy and panic.

And I was like, Huh. Damn skippy.

you are my husband and i am your husband. i'd be all "hey, let's go out for pizza!" and he'd just shut down for like 10 minutes. because, unbeknownst to me, he'd just redone our budget through like freaking 2027 and was recalculating in his head how much we've spent on food in the month so far and whether this fit into the revised food budget.

i had to learn to chill the fuck out and ask gentle questions and he had to learn to realize what he had and hadn't shared so that there weren't these gaping knowledge gaps between us that would result in me being all "wtf? why are you making WWIII about some goddamned pizza! my life is ruined! we will never have fun again AND I WILL STARVE!!" while he responded with "i do everything! WHY ARE YOU TRYING TO MAKE US POOR!?!?"

over some pizza.

i hope it's something like that for you guys. it trips us up sometimes still, but once we hashed it out seriously over the course of a few conversations, we had a much better starting point for understanding each other going forward.

[KKD]

The talk, the same room, it's all a good start. I hope the open communication keeps up and helps you both make a turn for the better.

[Nicole]

I'm glad to hear this.

I thought about you a lot over the weekend.

Thanks for updating and I hope things continue on the up and up from here.

[bleubook]

I think it's good that you didn't try to fit EVERYTHING into one conversation. That would be a symposium, not an ongoing dialogue. You both took a great step to more open communication. That's a very hard and very mature and healthy thing to do.

This post makes me happy.

[Vally]

sounds productive, and I hope you continue to feel better and less stressed.

[thebamker]

I've been trying to keep up on all of this but have definitely missed some stuff.

Regardless - I swear to all things that minus the fact that I have dropped three out the vag, we are the same couples living in different cities.

It's freaky!

Good luck. (I'm saying that to both of us. lol!)

[flex]

I'm glad you've started some healthy communication. And I'm glad you're going to counseling by yourself for now. Keep up the good work! (((hugs)))