Update about the New Guy

[letyourselfgo]

So, for the last week.....Mr. T (His Last name begins with the letter "T"....he doesn't look like Mr. T) and I have been pretty close to inseparable.

We spent hours together almost every day, he'd walk me the 3/4 mile to the bus stop and pass me up to the bus when it arrived, we'd eat lunch or dinner together with friends....

Friday night, we spent the night in a friend's dorm room and studied....and shared the airbed on the floor. During the night, we held each other and kissed....our first kiss and then some. He's such a good kisser!

We talked later, and he said "I feel like what is between us is so normal. When you know, you know. I am so happy when we spend time together, I enjoy spending time with you. But....I think that it isn't healthy to spend hours a day, every day together when we met just a week ago. That's how burnout happens. I don't want that to happen, do you?....let's see each other on Tuesday afternoon.

He completely said what I was thinking: I feel like I'm HOME, when I'm with him....and I was worried, having no experience with this really: "Is this normal, to feel like this so SOON? Is it normal to fit with someone right from the get go? What about living and doing the things that make me go and my responsibilities? Perhaps we should slow it down. I really, really like him. He's said how much he really, really likes me....."

I appreciate his maturity (and mine....I'm willing to slow the hell down with a guy for once! Yay!) in this matter.....and I said in response what I was feeling, and that I thought that this was a good idea.

So....that's the update.

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Slow is never a bad thing! I'm so glad you found someone you're comfortable with!

[bullygirl979]

How old are you?

[letyourselfgo]

Yes, this is the young guy and I'm 28 (as someone mentioned) and in school.

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Oct 14, 2012 21:10:08 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

Not gonna lie, this sounds like codependency. Are you making friends at your new school? How are classes?

Yea I gotta agree. This just doesn't sound healthy. And the age difference at these ages just seems awkward. It'd be different if it was like 28 and 36 or something. I mean the kid was in high school two years ago. Sleeping on a dorm room floor? Do you have friends at school closer to your own age?

[letyourselfgo]

I've made several female friends....I met Mr. T through them....they range in age from 20 (and she's the chick that everyone just tolerates.....to 26. I've become pretty close to the 23 year old whose dorm room we were in and the 26 year old that I met early in the semester. They all live in the dorms. Heck, I would have too, had they not been filled by the time I was accepted to this school. I don't like living so far from school....especially because I spend lots of time there studying and eating on campus and hanging out and don't get home until after midnight almost every night.

I haven't run into any other chicks older than that. Almost everyone else I've met is much younger.


Classes are fine, great grades so far and I'm very happy....except that class I mentioned earlier with the last-minute professor. I feel like no matter what I'm doing, I'm not retaining the material for it. I keep trying though.

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Guy, they realize they are spending a ton of time together and are dialing it back per the OP.

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Yea it just sounds like a very "college" relationship.

[letyourselfgo]

Oct 14, 2012 21:36:48 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

Are you working?

Yes, but it's only commission and a few hours a week (Sales Coordinator for a local Synagogue's Event Center)

[letyourselfgo]

Oct 14, 2012 21:37:15 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

It just sounds like you're spending a ton of time with him. I know this is typical in college so just try not to get codependent. What about sororities? Organizations? You're there for you so get involved!

I'm involved in lots of activities: A service org, school student booster club, African-American student club, Theater Honor Society and their fundraisers and activities....then pilates, yoga, and zumba....I'm usually pretty busy.... on top of schoolwork and then spending time with my friends....but still like to keep a balance.