Follow up to Weird Text

[emma245]

I dont know if anyone remembers my post last week about the guy commenting on my natural blonde hair color. Well I got curious (and tipsy) and texted him "is that a compliment?". He said yes, absolutely. So I thanked him and left it at that.

On our date, I talked about how Im obsessed with going to Thailand but cant really afford it right now. Saturday he texts me "BTW, I read an article about Thailand today and thought how sad it is you cant go until youre 35. Ive been twice and will have probably gone again by then"

Another WTF text! I did not respond and plan on not responding at all but f#$% he is weird!!

[achase123]

WHAT??

He's weird.

What happened with the younger guy? Did you hook up this weekend? Sorry if you already updated with this.

[Deleted]

OMG. He sounds crazy annoying. Like what is with all of the passive aggressive texts?

[emma245]

I know its so odd. TV younger guy is out even for hooking up purposes. We were supposed to hook up and then he disappeared all weekend which I find shady as hell so I refuse to even hook up with him. When he texted me "good morning" this morning, I wrote back we are never ever hooking up sorry! HAHAHA

[bullygirl979]

What a doucher that guy is! Do not engage any more!

[ECB]

I oddly think he's trying to be empathetic somehow, but he's very awkward with it. He doesn't get that saying he's been twice really kind of rubs it in instead of saying "man- it sucks".

[emma245]

Oct 15, 2012 17:25:43 GMT -5 ECB said:

I oddly think he's trying to be empathetic somehow, but he's very awkward with it. He doesn't get that saying he's been twice really kind of rubs it in instead of saying "man- it sucks".

Yeah I mean I talk about going to Thailand like its a goal of mine and I told him Im trying really hard to work on a savings fund for it, blah, blah. I felt like it was more of a mean text than anything.....and I dont need it rubbed in my face.

[naeljun]

Just plain odd.

[jojoandleo]

This is the guy who couldn't believe you were a natural blonde and was all socially awkward last time? Yeah, I am going with dude has ZERO social skills and says assy things because he he doesn't know what to say to women.

[emma245]

Oct 15, 2012 18:40:13 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

This is the guy who couldn't believe you were a natural blonde and was all socially awkward last time? Yeah, I am going with dude has ZERO social skills and says assy things because he he doesn't know what to say to women.

Yep thats him! I kind of feel bad in a weird way because maybe he is just socially not with it. But I am over his weirdness

[emma245]

Thanks dynamoo. I might have to hit you up for Thailand questions when I finally can get some $$ saved. Im aiming for next fall/winter 2013 or 2014.

Thanks for the kind words!

[redredwine]

Coming in late to this, but WTF??? I'd totally say "Next" at this poitn and ignore any further texts. Besides, it's not like you even felt any kind of attraction, right?

[emma245]

Oct 16, 2012 15:21:04 GMT -5 redredwine said:

Coming in late to this, but WTF??? I'd totally say "Next" at this poitn and ignore any further texts. Besides, it's not like you even felt any kind of attraction, right?

Right I definitely didnt respond and dont plan to......no attraction at all and even less now (if thats possible).

He did make me motivated to stick to my savings budget though. HA!

[blackkitty]

I don't know, maybe he has Aspergers. People with aspergers are very matter of fact. I don't think he meant anything mean by it.

[jojoandleo]

Oct 17, 2012 8:47:38 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

I don't know, maybe he has Aspergers. People with aspergers are very matter of fact. I don't think he meant anything mean by it.

I don't think he meant anything by it either, but I could not date someone that socially inept. I wouldn't want someone constantly telling me things like, "I find it hard to believe you did so well in that class" or "It's sad you are so tired all the time, I have no trouble sleeping and will sleep well tonight as well." It would make me want to stab them with a butter knife, even if it wasn't meant to be rude.

[stephbfan]

Oct 17, 2012 8:59:27 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Oct 17, 2012 8:47:38 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

I don't know, maybe he has Aspergers. People with aspergers are very matter of fact. I don't think he meant anything mean by it.

I don't think he meant anything by it either, but I could not date someone that socially inept. I wouldn't want someone constantly telling me things like, "I find it hard to believe you did so well in that class" or "It's sad you are so tired all the time, I have no trouble sleeping and will sleep well tonight as well." It would make me want to stab them with a butter knife, even if it wasn't meant to be rude.

I had a friend like this. He really had problems and was taking medication for it. I was his friends for years until I could not take it anymore.

OP, I think you are right. Even if he doesn't mean to be mean, that's the way he is coming across.

[GilliC]

I agree with jojo. Some people are naturally socially inept, but if it makes me uncomfortable, I don't really want to date them. Maybe it's short-sighted of me, but there are reasons I have an ex. Sometimes personalities just don't work well together, and I would struggle to deal with someone like this in an emotional relationship.

[blackkitty]

I don't think you need to date him but some of the names people are calling him I think are unnecessary. Interacting appropriately socially doesn't come naturally to all people. He could have a disability.

[jojoandleo]

I didn't see a lot of name calling, more just "NEXT" which I think is fine. I think maybe one or two people called him a douche/ass/etc., but his text DOES sound assholish.

We never know if people have disabilities, but when people say assy things, they tend to be called an ass. I feel bad for the guy since he is obviously socially inept, but if some stranger said these things to me, my first instinct would be to say ,"What an asshole!"

[blackkitty]

Oct 17, 2012 10:24:13 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

I didn't see a lot of name calling, more just "NEXT" which I think is fine. I think maybe one or two people called him a douche/ass/etc., but his text DOES sound assholish.

We never know if people have disabilities, but when people say assy things, they tend to be called an ass. I feel bad for the guy since he is obviously socially inept, but if some stranger said these things to me, my first instinct would be to say ,"What an asshole!"

You forgot crazy! lol

[GilliC]

It's also possible that he's just an ass.

I dated a guy last year who was socially inept. Eventually I broke it off, because I couldn't deal with it. But in his case, he was socially inept because he was a jackass and didn't really understand that people didn't like it when he behaved like a self-centered arrogant jerk. I think he just thought he was being brutally honest.

I feel sorry for him, but it doesn't change the fact that he was an ass.