I've been a dirty lurker for quite awhile, and finally decided to jump in and introduce myself.
I've been separated from H since May. Found out back in February, he was having an affair. I moved 1000 miles away, back home with my family. It's been a roller coaster the past few months, including talking about reconciling. (I know... bad idea!) But, in the end, I finally came to my senses, and am moving on. I think reading everyone's stories gave me the strength to know that I can do this, and I will be so much better off in the end. So thank you, wise ladies of SO!
I just recently got insurance again, so I'm planning on starting counselling (which is kind of overwhelming to choose a therapist). I'm truly trying to just focus on myself. Do things that make ME happy, and live life again.
Post by usedtobebear on Oct 16, 2012 11:36:09 GMT -5
Welcome, I'm glad you didn't take him back, I'm sure you will be better off in the long run! Good job focusing on yourself and doing what you need to do, I hope you keep feeling better and better, some days are definitely easier than others!! Hang in there! :beer:
Welcome, I'm glad you didn't take him back, I'm sure you will be better off in the long run! Good job focusing on yourself and doing what you need to do, I hope you keep feeling better and better, some days are definitely easier than others!! Hang in there!
So true! Luckily, the good days are finally outweighing the bad. I was sad to let go of the dream, but that's it... it was a dream. The reality was far from that.
Post by bullygirl979 on Oct 16, 2012 13:57:14 GMT -5
Welcome! As for choosing a therapist, I would suggest getting recommendations from another provider/friend/family member if you feel comfortable doing so.
Welcome! As for choosing a therapist, I would suggest getting recommendations from another provider/friend/family member if you feel comfortable doing so.
Thanks, I have asked friends & family, but they don't know anyone. I do have an appointment with my dr tomorrow, so hopefully she'll have a suggestion.
Welcome! As for choosing a therapist, I would suggest getting recommendations from another provider/friend/family member if you feel comfortable doing so.
Thanks, I have asked friends & family, but they don't know anyone. I do have an appointment with my dr tomorrow, so hopefully she'll have a suggestion.
Here's the strategy I used to find a therapist: I used my insurance carrier's website to search for people in my area, then I looked for women who were most likely close in age to me (most provide details re schooling/licensing dates). It worked out great - more than once because I had to move. It felt like I was talking to a friend and I was very comfortable.
Post by jojoandleo on Oct 16, 2012 17:24:52 GMT -5
Welcome! I love my therapist. You may have to go through a few before you find one you are comfortable with. Don't be afraid to keep looking if the first one doesn't*click* with you.