Wedding rings and kids?

[calitime]

I'm looking toward the future and trying to start thinking if I should keep my wedding rings for my daughter or sell them. I wonder if she would appreciate them or if it would be weird to get them because we divorced?

I have two sets of rings, also. One was my actual e ring and wedding band. H and I were super poor when we first got married and that was what was affordable. A couple years later we had a lot more money and we were "starting fresh" (ha!) after some crazy shit. He bought me a bigger ring that is gorgeous and antique styled. This was the ring I wore as a wedding ring after that. I really don't know if I should save the pretty one for my daughter or sell everything.

What did other people do with theirs?

[Bernadine]

If I had a daughter, I think I'd save mine for her.

[lovelybb]

D has his ex-wife's. She left them behind when she left (along with the kids for that matter), but he's keeping them for the girls in case they might want them.

[chrissie3416]

I sold my engagement ring (mostly b/c I needed the $) and kept my band. It is a non-traditional band and I plan to give it to my DD when she turns 16.

[doriswe]

I have mine...but I paid for them (in a round-about way). Currently, they're sitting in a ring box coffin (true story). I doubt I could get much for them, so I might turn it into something else down the road.

[blackkitty]

I sold mine, but I don't have a daughter. I doubt I would've done anything differently though. Why pass on a symbol of a failure?

[Bernadine]

Oh, and since I don't have a daughter, I'm selling mine.

BK- I k now what you mean about the symbol of failure, but I think it could also be a symbol of the love that a kid's parents once had for each other?

[roselis]

I gave our set back to xh since it was an heirloom set. First his grandma then his moms. He has said he will save it for A. If A asks about it, I'm going to highly suggest getting a new set. That set has been through 3 marriages now, 2 of which ended in divorce. Bad juju there

[prettyinpearls]

I sold mine -- even if I had a DD I wouldn't have kept the rings, as they weren't anything fabulous. In fact, they were purchased the next morning after the proposal (I should've taken a proposal w/out a ring as a red flag....) on a whim because XH had to get back home (we lived an hour apart at the time) for a family lunch. No thought or research was put into the purchase of the ring whatsosever.

[DirtyMartini]

My mom gave me hers (she divorced my biological father when I was 6 months old, abusive) when I turned 18. Actually, what happend is my graandmother told my mom she would keep it for me. So, on my 18th birthday they got it set in a beautiful new setting. Maybe I'm weird, but I love having it just because it was once my mom's.

I am keeping my wedding band (cheap ass motherfucker of a STBX never got me an engagement ring) for my kids. If they want it, fine. If not, throw that shit away. It's probably cheap anyhow.

[naeljun]

I had my diamond reset into a pendant that I will give DD when she graduates from college. If she chooses a different path, I will give it to her when when she turns 21.

I wear the pendant regularly. It doesn't hold any sentimental value. We picked it out and bought it together. I sold the setting and my band.

[calitime]

I'm so torn between wanting to save it for her because it was mine and its beautiful, or sell it because of everything it stands for. I picked it out myself, H picked out the first ring and it wasn't my style but I loved it anyway. Now I know I definitely won't keep the first set but the second is very nice.

[Deleted]

Mine will go to my daughter. You will never get the $$ that it is worth so I'd rather my daughter have it. She can reset the diamond.

[charitylynne79]

I am waiting until the spring time to take the rings and sell them both - mine and his. I am the one who paid for everything.

[cfc1chelsea]

I'm doing something similar to naeljun. I'm going to have my ring reset as a diamond pendant, and give it to DD. Not sure when....16th birthday, high school graduation, maybe some other time.

I know it can be a symbol of "failure", but I choose to look at it as something that DD can have as a symbol of happier times.

[naeljun]

My thought on this too is that I don't want DD to have to wait for a man to give her a diamond. I want to be the first one.

[dakotadangerdog]

I don't understand why ppl want to give their rings to their kids. Yay for wedding rings from failed marriages??? Maybe getting it reset makes sense. But if my parents got divorced I don't think I would really care for my mom's wedding rings. (well, I would want my moms, hers are huge and I'm sure I could get a decent amount of money out of them!)

[Deleted]

My e ring stone is actually the stone from my grandmothers e ring. We just had it reset. My grandparents were married over 50 years when my grandpa passed away. My grandmother gave me her rings and told me she wanted me to have them and make them into something I would enjoy. So now that's exactly what I plan to do...maybe a pendant or a right hand ring. The stone is sentimental to me because my grandmother wore it for so many years and that will never change.