I won't be online on Friday, but I want to confess something anyway. It's not really flameful. Maybe just a-little-too-warm-for-comfort-ful!
I'm going out of town next week, and XH is feeding the cats (we're on good terms, he lives very close by, and at least one of them we got as a couple, so it's kind of his too, even though she doesn't like him).
My confession is that I have been seriously cleaning my apartment over the last few evenings, mostly because I don't want to look like a slob and have him thinking "good riddance" when he's in my place. His girlfriend has no job, so she can stay home all day and keep their place looking awesome, so I expect his standards have gone up since I moved out! I shouldn't care what he thinks. But I do, because dammit! I want him to think that I have the more awesome post-split life! Because I do!
I am the same way too. When my ex is coming, I want to look good so he knows what he is missing. I also clean my apartment, now I wish he came more often so I have that kick in the butt to clean more lol.
If I ever thought my XH would see my place again, I'd probably do this too. More because he always nagged that I was a horrible housekeeper than anything.
My xh says the same thing about me even though he was not great at it himself. It bothered him that I wanted to decorate our place...
Now he sees my place all decorated up and while he be the first to say it is not his style, I can tell he sense the uplifting and peaceful feeling to it.