Post by charitylynne79 on Oct 17, 2012 12:44:34 GMT -5
So I think it was about 2 months ago that I updated about my situation and it was decided that it was over between us. It's been a long time coming - it just finally happen to happen at that point. Relief. We have decided to stay in the apt until the lease runs out in June. We have separate bedrooms, etc. Still helps pa the bills, etc. I know some of you said he would be manipulative and other things with that situation, but it hasn't been. We make small talk, actually get a long, share the expenses of stuff, etc. And we were talking about who gets what the other night. So it's been working and it's a relief and I can move on. Yeah I have to admit - it really sucks and hurt. Last night it officially dawned at me that we are no longer together and yeah it kinda hurt. So that's how things are going.
I would like to find someone, as a friend, to hang out with occasionally, go to the movies with, maybe eventually have a physical relationship with, etc. Not having sex for quite some time sucks!!!! And hanging out with just your girlfriends sucks at times.
*Said with love* please do not find a guy to hang out with, even platonically, right now. Focus on you and healing. I also suspect adding opposite gendered "friends" to the mix will probably make the nice co-habiting relationship fall apart pretty darn quickly.
*Said with love* please do not find a guy to hang out with, even platonically, right now. Focus on you and healing. I also suspect adding opposite gendered "friends" to the mix will probably make the nice co-habiting relationship fall apart pretty darn quickly.
Doris is right.
And why does hanging out with just your girlfriends suck?
I'm concerned that you feel like you "need" the male attention and your girlfriends aren't enough. Girlfriends are awesome. I never get tired of hanging out with mine. Go out to a pick up bar and flirt a little if you really some sausage in your life.
*Said with love* please do not find a guy to hang out with, even platonically, right now. Focus on you and healing. I also suspect adding opposite gendered "friends" to the mix will probably make the nice co-habiting relationship fall apart pretty darn quickly.
QFT. You need to be in therapy and look into why you feel like you NEED male attention right now.
Post by jojoandleo on Oct 17, 2012 14:31:11 GMT -5
Agree with all above. Do not get a boy in your life-it WILL make your living situation hell. You should not date until you are no longer living with your ex. In fact, it will be near impossible to completely move on as long as you live like this. Get a therapist to figure out why you need male attention. Do not become Liubot. Learn how to be alone and love yourself.
I really don't understand why you guys don't work with the landlord to get out of the lease. If you can find a tenant the landlord approves of to sign a new lease, most will let you out of it. In fact in some states they HAVE to. I'm sure you could find someone before June. This co-habitation thing just seems ridiculous.
You've got to get out of that lease. You are not in a healthy situation. He'll be nice to you until you decide to stay with him, and then he'll be the same asshole he was before.
Work a second job if you have to, or move in with family/friends, but you need out of there.
You've got to get out of that lease. You are not in a healthy situation. He'll be nice to you until you decide to stay with him, and then he'll be the same asshole he was before.
Work a second job if you have to, or move in with family/friends, but you need out of there.
Post by charitylynne79 on Oct 17, 2012 15:16:03 GMT -5
Trust me there is no way that I will become Liubot. Thank you for all of your opinions. I at times like to branch away from my girlfriends, but right now it seems like they are the ones that I need the most. I guess because of all the stuff I have gone through with him, that I feel like I may want the attention because he gave me none. But right now, I have my friends, 50 Shades of Grey, new toy, and a therapist. Have had that for a while. And I will talk to her more openly tonight. Thanks for throwing in some touch love girls.