Tell the couple? wedding related

[shortstax]

DH and I received a wedding invite this week for a casual friend. I called the hotel listed in the invite to book a room in the reserved room block. Invite said, "request room with the Smith/Smith wedding."

Hotel said that no such group exists. It sounds like a misunderstanding.

I think I should send the groom (it's dh's casual friend) an email to let him know in case he wants to call the hotel. DH says to drop it and we'll just book a room later.

Would you tell the couple if the hotel in the invite didn't have a room block under their name?

ETA - I clarified with hotel that no room block exists, it's not that their room block has been filled.

[mrssavy42112]

I absolutely would. Perhaps there was a misprint on the invite & now all of the guests will be calling the wrong place.

[fbf2006]

Why not? I'll say something.

[gibbinator]

I would tell them. They obviously thought something was arranged and it may be a nasty surprise later on if no one tells them

[leapfrog]

I would definitely mention it to the couple.

[shortstax]

At first, I thought that perhaps we were B list invites and the rooms were already filled.

Maybe I'll call again tomorrow. If I get the same response, I'll email groom.

[winnied]

Definitely say something. My best friend had this problem with the hotel she used and it was helpful getting things cleared up sooner rather than later.

[heyrebekah]

I would tell them so they can clear it up with the hotel.

Smith/Smith... are they sure they aren't brother & sister?

[mrssavy42112]

Oct 17, 2012 15:03:34 GMT -5 shortstax said:

At first, I thought that perhaps we were B list invites and the rooms were already filled.

Maybe I'll call again tomorrow. If I get the same response, I'll email groom.

I don’t understand that rationale. Did you receive the invites really close to the wedding date? Either way, I don’t know why the hotel would lie and say the block doesn’t exist if the truth was it was already full. Definitely notify the couple.

[Ashley&Scott]

Definitely tell the couple. If the block was full then they would say it's full, they would not say it doesn't exist.

[SJ]

I would definitely mention it!

[wannabe]

For sure. They can probably clear it up with one phone call.

[hannamaren]

Maybe you have to call the hotel 1-800 number for the whole chain. We had to do that for a wedding we went to in the summer. CrownePlaza.

[flygirl22]

Did they say in the invite that they reserved a block of rooms? Or did it just list this hotel (or maybe more than 1). Some people don't reserve a block, especially it is not during a time when hotels would normally fill up.

[shortstax]

Oct 17, 2012 15:12:43 GMT -5 mrssavy42112 said:

Oct 17, 2012 15:03:34 GMT -5 shortstax said:

At first, I thought that perhaps we were B list invites and the rooms were already filled.

Maybe I'll call again tomorrow. If I get the same response, I'll email groom.

I don’t understand that rationale. Did you receive the invites really close to the wedding date? Either way, I don’t know why the hotel would lie and say the block doesn’t exist if the truth was it was already full. Definitely notify the couple.

Wedding is in 1 month, that's why I thought maybe B invites

Invite specifically says they have a block, so I'll send an email.

[mrssavy42112]

Oct 17, 2012 15:30:55 GMT -5 shortstax said:

Oct 17, 2012 15:12:43 GMT -5 mrssavy42112 said:

I don’t understand that rationale. Did you receive the invites really close to the wedding date? Either way, I don’t know why the hotel would lie and say the block doesn’t exist if the truth was it was already full. Definitely notify the couple.

Wedding is in 1 month, that's why I thought maybe B invites

Invite specifically says they have a block, so I'll send an email.

Well, etiquette is 4-6 weeks before the wedding, although I know a lot of people send it out a lot earlier (especially if you have to travel far). Hopefully it gets cleared up quickly.

[grk2012]

Another "tell them." The b/g may be doing out-of-town goodie bags for guests, and if the hotel isn't *booking* their guests when they call, it'd be a waste of money. Also, one of the hotels we stayed at for a friend's wedding gave them a deal that the honeymoon suite would be comped only as long as they filled the block of reserved rooms.

[dexteroni]

Of course. I don't understand the logic behind not saying anything. I'm sure they would want to know that the hotel doesn't have their info.

[mariesd]

Lurker here -- but this happened with one of the hotels I'd set up a block at before our wedding. The best man was told the same thing as you -- no block exists for those people -- and he called me.

The hotel told me he must've called the wrong hotel, because they were seeing my block and in fact 7 of the 10 rooms had already been booked.

The Best Man had already booked at our other hotel, but I called back later to see if the block had sold out, and they told me that no rooms had ever been booked under our block.

So at least in my case -- they were just a really disorganized hotel. But I was still glad the best man told me.

[Balki.Bartokomous]

How is this even a question? Of course you tell them. Common courtesy.

[flatlan]

Tell them!

[kellbell191]

Tell them. This happened to us. We had booked a new hotel and they messed up. Had someone not told us all of the guests would have lost the special rate we had worked out and it would have cost them another $50-$100