s/o of s/o sexual health and history

[doriswe]

How do you know your partner is "clean"? Do you ask for a paper copy of STD test results? Do you just take them at their word?

[bowies]

I throw him in the lake - if he floats, he's riddled with the clap, and if he sinks, he's clean.

[formerlyak]

Honestly? Before fi and I had sex without a condom we did both get STD tests and share our results.

Fi and my ex are the only people I've slept with without a condom. Ex and I were also both tested.

[doriswe]

Oct 18, 2012 11:40:35 GMT -5 bowies said:

I throw him in the lake - if he floats, he's riddled with the clap, and if he sinks, he's clean.

This is perfect!! Except lakes are going to freeze soon....then what?

[doriswe]

FWB and I exchanged paper copies of test results prior to getting busy.

ETA: My BFF actually took her bf to the clinic to get tested together.

[achase123]

When I was with C he disclosed that he'd had quite a few sexual partners. I asked him to get the full board of tests done and he showed me the results.

I'd been tested twice after splitting from XH (because some things don't show up until after about 6 mos).

[gozf]

I've never asked to see actually results.

[bowies]

Oct 18, 2012 11:41:59 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Oct 18, 2012 11:40:35 GMT -5 bowies said:

I throw him in the lake - if he floats, he's riddled with the clap, and if he sinks, he's clean.

This is perfect!! Except lakes are going to freeze soon....then what?

If he bounces, he's got the herp.

[doriswe]

Oct 18, 2012 11:50:21 GMT -5 bowies said:

Oct 18, 2012 11:41:59 GMT -5 doriswe said:

This is perfect!! Except lakes are going to freeze soon....then what?

If he bounces, he's got the herp.

I thank you for this information!!!

[starburst604]

I didn't really ask for proof, but T happened to have his physical a couple of weeks after we met so he had them done and showed me results. I had had mine done during my last relationship, about 6 months prior. I hadn't slept with anyone in between so we considered that reliable enough. I confirmed that at my next physical.

[dakotadangerdog]

I wouldn't sleep with someone if I couldn't even trust them to be honest about their test results. Needing to see the paper copies sounds a little extreme...

[stephbfan]

With the ex, I had my tests done and asked him to do the same. We both showed each other the results. We still kept using condoms though.

I might sound weird but I'm so used to them that I feel weird doing it without them. Oh and the one and only time we did it with no condom, I got pregnant with DD.

[doriswe]

The last two guys I've been with have had vasectomies, so we didn't have the need to use condoms.

I plan to use protection moving forward but still feel like knowledge is power, kwim?

[heavenly]

One of my ex didn't have insurance, so we both went to planned parenthood and got tested together.

I strongly encourage just getting tested at the same time and show each other the results. If the guy already has a test result, just make sure it is recent as health is subject to change.

[missbetty1]

I ask when were they last tested, I then ask that they get retested and I require paperwork proof...they happily oblige...