babies are hard!!!

[dakotadangerdog]

WHAT?!?! OMg!

I am not really very interested in kids in the first place, and I purposely read horror stories to help reinforce that. Seriously, with everything you read about how terrible pregnancy, delivery and PPD is, the first few weeks with a new born, all the shit that can go wrong OMG. I am so not interested. If I rEALLY REALLY wanted a kid I guess it might be but since I have little interest already... nope! No kids for me thanks.

Some older woman at CF told me I should have at least one kid, because without kids your life is incomplete. I was pissed.

[naeljun]

Yes pregnancy can be hard, labor sucks, crying sucks, shitty diapers suck and there are negatives to having a baby BUT having a baby and being a mother is a completely rewarding experience. I went though a point in my 20's where I didn't want to have children because I was too selfish. At the time, I didn't.

Sometimes I wish I didn't have a child now - when I want to go to the gym at 5:30 in the morning and remember that I can't because kid is sleeping in the next room or when I want to hang out with friends who are going somewhere really awesome but I would have to get a sitter.

At the end of the day though, when that little girl runs to me with her arms wide open and hangs onto me so tight, I know I made the right decision.

[achase123]

Those first few years are REALLY hard...I've noticed that things are easier now with P (he is three). I just remember when they are babies they are SO dependent on you for EVERYTHING. And they aren't super flexible when their little environment changes.

P can talk now so he tells me when he needs something (no crying for hours while I try to guess what's wrong). He also can do things for himself, somewhat, like he gets dressed in the morning or he can take his clothes off before his bath at night. I make him carry his plate to the sink when he's done with his meal. Little things, but they help a lot. He'll even turn off the TV when we're done with it for the night, etc.

I totally understand your hesitation though and having a child is a VERY personal decision. It's def not for everyone!

[roselis]

I agree with the posters above. Children are not for everyone, but being a mom is the best feeling for me. I look at my siblings and they know they don't want to be parents. However they are a great aunt and uncle to A.
That lady on the plane was omg rude! Never just settle for a guy. Ever.

[dakotadangerdog]

Oct 19, 2012 12:03:15 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

Oct 19, 2012 11:51:30 GMT -5 dakotadangerdog said:

WHAT?!?! OMg!

I am not really very interested in kids in the first place, and I purposely read horror stories to help reinforce that. Seriously, with everything you read about how terrible pregnancy, delivery and PPD is, the first few weeks with a new born, all the shit that can go wrong OMG. I am so not interested. If I rEALLY REALLY wanted a kid I guess it might be but since I have little interest already... nope! No kids for me thanks.

Some older woman at CF told me I should have at least one kid, because without kids your life is incomplete. I was pissed.

OMG people are so rude!!!

I am terrified of PPD and having a sick baby if I ever have one.. I don't think I would enjoy staying at home with a baby and could see myself getting really fat and depressed

I enjoyed spending time with my aunt and uncle.. they are like 78 and have been married for 54 years! My aunt told me marriage isn't all it's cracked up to be and to never settle for anyone. She said just to have fun and date lots of men because life is long and I should remain the adventurous girl I am.. she made me feel better than that mean lady on the airplane

Yeah, I told the lady "I like my vagina how it is, thanks" and walked away.

Listen to your aunt She is way smarter than the mean lady on the plane. Never settle, don't have kids unless you really want to, just live life and have a shit ton of fun!

[dakotadangerdog]

Oct 19, 2012 12:22:04 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

Oct 19, 2012 12:19:49 GMT -5 @roselis said:

I agree with the posters above. Children are not for everyone, but being a mom is the best feeling for me. I look at my siblings and they know they don't want to be parents. However they are a great aunt and uncle to A.
That lady on the plane was omg rude! Never just settle for a guy. Ever.

Yeah I think I will be a great aunt! Also my sister was being pretty mean to me so the whole trip was rough I enjoyed seeing my grandma though!

Even having a three year old seems unappealing to me. I think the only way I would do it is if I found an amazing man that would be a great father. I would not want to do it alone

Exactly. That's always been my rule, I see myself possibly considering 1 kid in the future, but I would only do it if I had a husband who REALLY wanted to be a dad and would be there 100% to help. If I had a kid with a guy who wanted me to do all of the work and barely be involved I would be PISSED.

[achase123]

Oct 19, 2012 12:20:53 GMT -5 dakotadangerdog said:

Oct 19, 2012 12:03:15 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

OMG people are so rude!!!

I am terrified of PPD and having a sick baby if I ever have one.. I don't think I would enjoy staying at home with a baby and could see myself getting really fat and depressed

I enjoyed spending time with my aunt and uncle.. they are like 78 and have been married for 54 years! My aunt told me marriage isn't all it's cracked up to be and to never settle for anyone. She said just to have fun and date lots of men because life is long and I should remain the adventurous girl I am.. she made me feel better than that mean lady on the airplane

Yeah, I told the lady "I like my vagina how it is, thanks" and walked away.

Listen to your aunt She is way smarter than the mean lady on the plane. Never settle, don't have kids unless you really want to, just live life and have a shit ton of fun!

"I like my vagina how it is"= best comeback ever.

[blackkitty]

Babies are like life, you can choose to focus on the good or on the bad. And whatever you choice you pick, it grows. I try to focus on the good.

[jojoandleo]

Anytime I think "Maybe one day I could want a kid" I meet one of those devil babies that does nothing but scream and vomit and I swear its head spins. One trip to the grocery store and I am like, "Ugh, no thank you. I want to get in, get out, and eat ice cream out of the carton in front of some RHWo wherever.

[jm5855]

You think babies are hard? They pale in comparison to a 12 year old girl...trust me.

When they are babies we want them to walk and talk. When they are older all we want them to do is sit down and shut up. Hahahahaha

[doriswe]

Oct 19, 2012 14:27:47 GMT -5 jm5855 said:

You think babies are hard? They pale in comparison to a 12 year old girl...trust me.

When they are babies we want them to walk and talk. When they are older all we want them to do is sit down and shut up. Hahahahaha

13 year old girls are TERRIFYING!!!!! :-(

[dakotadangerdog]

Oct 19, 2012 14:27:47 GMT -5 jm5855 said:

You think babies are hard? They pale in comparison to a 12 year old girl...trust me.

When they are babies we want them to walk and talk. When they are older all we want them to do is sit down and shut up. Hahahahaha

See that's the latest thing I keep in mind. Babies are cute but they turn into teenagers and that is SCARY

[jm5855]

Oct 19, 2012 14:28:29 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Oct 19, 2012 14:27:47 GMT -5 jm5855 said:

You think babies are hard? They pale in comparison to a 12 year old girl...trust me.

When they are babies we want them to walk and talk. When they are older all we want them to do is sit down and shut up. Hahahahaha

13 year old girls are TERRIFYING!!!!!

I can imagine.

My daughter had 11,000 texts last month. How the fark is that possible? She is in school all day. Outside of school she is in band and plays volleyball. She is a straight A student so I know she does her homework. I don't allow cell phones at the dinner table...seriously I can not figure out where she has the time for 11K texts. That is insane!!!

[doriswe]

Oct 19, 2012 14:41:09 GMT -5 jm5855 said:

Oct 19, 2012 14:28:29 GMT -5 doriswe said:

13 year old girls are TERRIFYING!!!!!

I can imagine.

My daughter had 11,000 texts last month. How the fark is that possible? She is in school all day. Outside of school she is in band and plays volleyball. She is a straight A student so I know she does her homework. I don't allow cell phones at the dinner table...seriously I can not figure out where she has the time for 11K texts. That is insane!!!

Holy crap! Please tell me she has unlimited text?!?

ETA: She needs to be careful or she'll end up with carpal tunnel!

[jm5855]

Oct 19, 2012 14:43:07 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Oct 19, 2012 14:41:09 GMT -5 jm5855 said:

I can imagine.

My daughter had 11,000 texts last month. How the fark is that possible? She is in school all day. Outside of school she is in band and plays volleyball. She is a straight A student so I know she does her homework. I don't allow cell phones at the dinner table...seriously I can not figure out where she has the time for 11K texts. That is insane!!!

Holy crap! Please tell me she has unlimited text?!?

Oh hell yes. I wouldn't want to slap on a 2nd mortgage just to pay my cell bill.

[marigoldgirl]

Oct 19, 2012 14:44:00 GMT -5 jm5855 said:

Oct 19, 2012 14:43:07 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Holy crap! Please tell me she has unlimited text?!?

Oh hell yes. I wouldn't want to slap on a 2nd mortgage just to pay my cell bill.

10,000 of those texts are LOL or Ha Ha or K

[doriswe]

Oct 19, 2012 14:48:28 GMT -5 marigoldgirl said:

Oct 19, 2012 14:44:00 GMT -5 jm5855 said:

Oh hell yes. I wouldn't want to slap on a 2nd mortgage just to pay my cell bill.

10,000 of those texts are LOL or Ha Ha or K

You forgot "idk"

[becwheat]

Being a parent is HARD! I don't always love it, but I love DD and she is at a great age.

I always wanted to be a mom though. My sister wants no part in it. I will also say I was not a fan of the baby stage. Honestly, I was sleep deprived and she was cute, but not very entertaining I am LOVING the toddler stage though. Even when she does something "wrong" it is kinda hilarious. Like when she pooped on the floor in the ten seconds I was turned around to grab her PJs... I mean that is talent! All I could do was laugh at her speed pooping skills. Of course I know you all are probably horrified by this...