Post by bookworm85 on Oct 20, 2012 19:14:42 GMT -5
I want to stop so bad. I have dreams about him. Everything seems to remind me of him. I miss him so much. Why do i still love a person who hurted and betrayed me. Time does not heal all wounds
Post by turtle1120 on Oct 20, 2012 20:26:38 GMT -5
Awwww, I'm sorry that you're having a rough time right now. It's ok to cry. I cried myself to sleep for a month or two. When you're in the worst of it, it seems like things will never get better. But it will. I promise you that. Hang in there.
time does heal...but it hasnt been enough time....the amount of time is different for everyone. crying will help you heal. get yourself to therapy if you havent gone already you WILL be ok
Post by explorer2001 on Oct 20, 2012 22:06:26 GMT -5
I'm sorry you are having a hard time. Hugs. Let yourself cry when you need to cry. I promise you won't cry forever. You might cry until you are so dehydrated you have no tears left and a pounding headache, but eventually you will stop crying. Then at some point later, you might need to cry again. There is a lot to mourn and as a pp said there isn't nearly the same support system for divorce as there is for a death. It so many ways the rejection, betrayal, etc are worse and not a well understood by people in general. Also as a pp said, there were good times and good reasons to be where you were at one point, you wouldn't have been there if it had been all bad all the time.
I know I still have times (years later) where I mourn not having the dreams and life I thought I should have and always wanted. There are times when I wonder if I will find the right person someday, if I will have the kids I've always wanted, how effing long it will take to recover financially, etc. But those things are my life now were there is hope again and progress being made. Those aren't things that have been permanently taken away.
I hope you can find the support and TLC you need, here and IRL. Hugs. You are strong. You can get through this. One day and one cry at a time.