I need to take one for the team, right?

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Long story short H's BFF can't be buried in China, so they're bringing home this body this week. He'll be buried here on Saturday and the memorial service is on Sunday.

H has been asked to speak during the memorial service.

The memorial service is at the same time as my b pics. I contacted JGG this morning to see if we can move it up earlier in the day and she said that she doesn't have access to the space till the time that we're doing the pictures.

I need to move my pictures, right?

[dawnyp]

Yes. You need to be there for your H.

[fiddles]

Yup...sorry.

[Deleted]

I can't show up late to a funeral, can I?

[InBetweenDays]

Without question. Sorry.

[amandasw]

Oct 22, 2012 10:43:01 GMT -5 @uwhuskygirl said:

I can't show up late to a funeral, can I?

depends on how late - what exactly is the timing? how long would it take you to get from one to the other?

ETA: is there a penalty for rescheduling? I assume she would make an exception for this if there is normally some kind of fee.

[mkate710]

Yep, sorry they conflicted I'd say your H gets the whole day though. If I had to speak at my best friend's funeral, I would want H's hand within clutching distance before, during and after.

[karebear219]

Sorry husky. I would have a hard time moving the appt too.

[georgeharrison]

Oct 22, 2012 11:12:44 GMT -5 mkate710 said:

Yep, sorry they conflicted I'd say your H gets the whole day though. If I had to speak at my best friend's funeral, I would want H's hand within clutching distance before, during and after.

I agree with this.

I am super bummed out for you, though. You have been waiting a long time for these pics.

[picksthemusic]

Yep. Sorry.

[Deleted]

I feel like such a bitch because I'm so bummed. I know that I need to be there for him, but I was looking forward to these too.

Maybe B pics just weren't meant to be.

[georgeharrison]

Oct 22, 2012 11:23:36 GMT -5 @uwhuskygirl said:

I feel like such a bitch because I'm so bummed. I know that I need to be there for him, but I was looking forward to these too.

Maybe B pics just weren't meant to be.

There is nothing wrong with you being disappointed that your plans have to be changed. That doesn't make you a b for sure.

[amandasw]

Oct 22, 2012 11:23:36 GMT -5 @uwhuskygirl said:

I feel like such a bitch because I'm so bummed. I know that I need to be there for him, but I was looking forward to these too.

Maybe B pics just weren't meant to be.

aww, why do you say that? is it hard to move them?

[Deleted]

Oct 22, 2012 11:36:50 GMT -5 @amandasw said:

Oct 22, 2012 11:23:36 GMT -5 @uwhuskygirl said:

I feel like such a bitch because I'm so bummed. I know that I need to be there for him, but I was looking forward to these too.

Maybe B pics just weren't meant to be.

aww, why do you say that? is it hard to move them?

This is the second time I had to move them. (I was still too fat the first time.) And I don't know when JGG can fit me into her schedule.

My pics would start at 3 and the memorial service is at 4. I don't think I can make it. And I'd end up going to the memorial looking like a whoar.

/pity party for 1

[fiddles]

Hey don't feel bad for being upset that you're going to have to reschedule your pics. It's something you've been looking forward to! It's okay to feel bad.

Email/call the photographer and tell her about the situation. Perhaps you'll feel better once you have the pics reschedule?

[jennlin]

Oct 22, 2012 11:12:44 GMT -5 mkate710 said:

Yep, sorry they conflicted I'd say your H gets the whole day though. If I had to speak at my best friend's funeral, I would want H's hand within clutching distance before, during and after.

yup..sorry. reschedule the pics, h gets the whole day. jgg is super flexible..just email her and get it out of the way.

[mkate710]

There is NOTHING wrong with being disappointed that you have to reschedule. The timing sucks, and there's no way you could have anticipated this. Don't beat yourself up!

[amandasw]

Oct 22, 2012 12:13:57 GMT -5 mkate710 said:

There is NOTHING wrong with being disappointed that you have to reschedule. The timing sucks, and there's no way you could have anticipated this. Don't beat yourself up!

ditto!

I'm not saying the obvious like everyone else because you obviously know the answer - I'll just join your pity party

[Deleted]

I'm sorry for being dumb today. My team and I had one of the worst days ever today and everyone was in a crabby mood. Tell me what to do.

I tried to move the pics, but the hotel room is non-refundable. I assume its around $200. If I cancel I feel responsible for paying it. Right now, my $500 pics are more like $700 ($100 for new bra/undies, $100 for hair/make up) and if I reschedule then its going to be like $900 after I add up everything.

The memorial service is pending the burial which is pending arrival of the body. Nothing is for sure yet and no one knows for sure if this is happening this weekend because I don't think the body has left china yet.

I've already canceled my hair and make up apts, but now this additonal $200 is getting harder to swallow. Should I just pay the hotel and scrap the entire thing? We can afford to take the $200 hit, but it just sucks, especially with out upcoming trip to nz.

Wwsnd?

[amandasw]

man, that's tough. Does your H know about the bpics? I know they are for you, but I wasn't sure if he knew you were doing this for yourself and would be able to give input about all this and say how he feels. IMO memorials aren't a hard and fast rule for everyone and everyone responds to death differently. It may seem trivial to some people that you want these bpics, but considering the money you've invested, I don't think it's the type of thing to just blow off. Especially since things aren't really confirmed (what if it all ends up being Sunday?). It's only Mon, so I wouldn't make any decisions yet. I'm really sorry about all this

[tacocat]

Can you call the hotel and see if there is any wiggle room on the fee? Especially if you are going to reschedule?

[tacocat]

Oh and don't feel badly, it is perfectly ok to be upset!

[amandasw]

Oct 22, 2012 19:39:09 GMT -5 tacocat said:

Can you call the hotel and see if there is any wiggle room on the fee? Especially if you are going to reschedule?

this is true, maybe they would be understanding if you explained the circumstances. Also, like I said, it's still only Monday and I doubt the hotel will have a problem if you called as late as Thursday.

[sarack]

i would call the hotel too. i'm sorry! i was SOOO excited about your pics!

[Deleted]

I didn't book the room.

I already emailed JGG telling her I need to cancel and that I would pay for the room. She didn't ask, but I felt bad, so I offered.

I don't know when I can reschedule for now.

[sarack]

i'm sorry!! i wonder where she was doing them? or do you know?