Being too sensitive?

[Deleted]

Can you rent a cheap car? Is that plausible?

[dakotadangerdog]

Zip car?

[Deleted]

I can see this being frustrating and I'd be annoyed/hurt too. However, I don't think it has anything to do with you. It sounds like everyone else already sort of has their routines in place and that got all disrupted when your ride moved across country.

[turtle1120]

Why did you get rid of your car? Can you get another one?

No offense, but I find it strange when adults don't have cars and then expect others to drive them around. Not having a car is your choice, but you also need to take responsibility for getting yourself places without relying on others.

[ECB]

Well, I don't think it's fair to expect everyone else to be your ride because you made the choice to give up your car. So... some of this is you being too sensitive.

I don't know how often you go vs they go and what it involves to give you a ride, but it might really be a PITA to have to worry about that too.

BUT I do side-eye the friend who won't give you a ride because she wants alone time. Maybe there is something to their situaiton that they get NO alone time and this really is "it' for them, and maybe if that's the case, I can be forgiving. But I personally can't see telling a friend who has limited options "no" because I need alone time.

However - that aside, start looking into rental car options, perhaps.

[lookingup]

Oct 22, 2012 16:21:06 GMT -5 ECB said:

Well, I don't think it's fair to expect everyone else to be your ride because you made the choice to give up your car. So... some of this is you being too sensitive.

I don't know how often you go vs they go and what it involves to give you a ride, but it might really be a PITA to have to worry about that too.

BUT I do side-eye the friend who won't give you a ride because she wants alone time. Maybe there is something to their situaiton that they get NO alone time and this really is "it' for them, and maybe if that's the case, I can be forgiving. But I personally can't see telling a friend who has limited options "no" because I need alone time.

However - that aside, start looking into rental car options, perhaps.

This couple is on their way to spend the weekend in a house FULL of other people. It doesn't seem unreasonable to me to want a few hours alone as a couple.

I have to agree with Turtle on this one.

[starburst604]

Oct 22, 2012 16:18:22 GMT -5 turtle1120 said:

Why did you get rid of your car? Can you get another one?

No offense, but I find it strange when adults don't have cars and then expect others to drive them around. Not having a car is your choice, but you also need to take responsibility for getting yourself places without relying on others.

I'm kind of in this camp. I know a couple of friends without cars and they use zip car as needed.

[turtle1120]

Like someone else suggested, maybe look into Zip cars? They're all over the place in the city and must be convenient because people use them all the time. Something like that or renting from time-to-time is still cheaper than owning a car.

I wouldn't let it hurt your feelings, and I wouldn't take it personally. You just need to figure out a solution.

[starburst604]

I know it's tough having a car in the city. When I lived in Southie I about lost my mind with the parking shit and I know it's much worse everywhere else. I think it's just a gamble you take when you go carless that you might have to rent one from time to time. Hopefully next time someone can carpool.

[blackkitty]

That sucks, how often do you offer to help other people?

[Deleted]

Are you paying for this house?

[jade28]

Eh I'd be pissed if I were you. They all knew the situation you would be in when you gave up your car and assured you that it would work out. Also, you carpooled countless times when you had a car. I don't think it's unreasonable to expect the favor returned now. I mean for flips sake it's carpooling to the same destination. It can't be that much of an inconvenience and it sounds like it's something that is part of being involved with this house. Your friends are selfish IMO. They were fine taking from you but now won't give back. So sick of people like that.

[starryfish]

Are your friends staying at your house? If so i would be PISSED that they stay at my place but cant give me a ride!

Also, HOTWIRE is super duper cheap. Just be sure to make it exactly 24 hour time increments for renting as that is when its the cheapest.

[blackkitty]

Wait, these people are going to your house and won't give you a ride? No way

[starburst604]

I'm reading it as she and the friends all rented the house together for the fall/winter?

[lys]

Sorry to say, but your transportation problems are not their problem.
Rent or buy a car and stop depending on others. WHY did you get rid of your car?

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Oct 27, 2012 17:34:39 GMT -5 lys said:

Sorry to say, but your transportation problems are not their problem.
Rent or buy a car and stop depending on others. WHY did you get rid of your car?

Ladies: This is an example of why you should read the entire post before posting a bitchy response...