Do you know a lot of mommy martyrs irl?

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Oct 23, 2012 12:23:54 GMT -5 knitty said:

Oct 23, 2012 7:42:07 GMT -5 @lcap said:

I've been thinking about it and I honestly don't know anyone who says or implies stuff like 'life without kids is boring and meaningless' or that daycare is bad and SAHMs shouldn't have help, or just wait until you have #2, etc. I see it on the boards sometimes but I don't think that really counts. In real life, everyone I know puts the shiniest, happiest face they can on parenting which I think is partly why I'm attracted to this site, lol.

What kinds of things do the ones you know say? How do you react?

Those two things are not opposites, though. A martyr would be bitching and complaining about things. They wouldn't be saying how wonderful and meaningful their life is. And someone who thinks their way is the only and best would be most likely to put a happy shiny face on it.

Hmm, good point. I wasn't thinking of it like that. For the women I'm thinking of, I think it's partly about wanting to project the image of a "perfect" life for some and then probably also not wanting to look like a complainer for the others.

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[knitty]

Oct 23, 2012 13:04:08 GMT -5 @lcap said:

Oct 23, 2012 12:23:54 GMT -5 knitty said:

Those two things are not opposites, though. A martyr would be bitching and complaining about things. They wouldn't be saying how wonderful and meaningful their life is. And someone who thinks their way is the only and best would be most likely to put a happy shiny face on it.

Hmm, good point. I wasn't thinking of it like that. For the women I'm thinking of, I think it's partly about wanting to project the image of a "perfect" life for some and then probably also not wanting to look like a complainer for the others.

So, tearing others down because they're miserable?