Permanent BC?

[Deleted]

Do you think you or your H will have some type of permanent sterilization procedure performed when you think you are done having kids? What do you think you will have done?

[mrssandro]

I will most likely do Essure when we are done.

[Deleted]

My H says he is 100% done and I thought I was too (I really, really don't want to go through another pregnancy or fussy newborn period) so I made an appointment to have the Essure procedure done next month. As I get closer to it though I'm starting to have second thoughts. If I could somehow produce a three year old (preferably female) child in four years time I would do it. But obviously that's not possible. And it would be great to have the procedure done now because we already hit our healthcare deductible for the year so it's kind of "free" in that sense. The chances of our having another baby are so slim for a variety of reasons. I'm just being silly right, I should get it done.

[Saudade]

My H will have a vasectomy. He said that I took care of BC before kids and pregnancy and it's the least he could do. We'll probably wait a few years after having our "last" kid to make sure we don't want any more.

[fortmyersbride]

Right now I'd say it's highly unlikely. We're both "ok" with the possibility of a surprise third. Plus, we both feel that in the event that we lost a child or one of us passed and the other remarried, we wanted to leave the possibility of additional children out there.

[Deleted]

We will in all likelihood be done after this one. I guess we will need to look into pros/cons, cost, recovery time, etc. between vasectomy and Essure. I don't know much about it now.

[ijack]

I'm having an ablation done next month, which isn't BC, but is only done if you're sure you never want to be pg again. H will likely get a V next year.

[satama]

If we ever have a third, DH will get snipped. But we keep going back and forth, if we get to forty and dont have a third by then, I think he will get the surgery then.

[gibbinator]

He plans to get the snip. I was kind of surprised it didn't take any convincing. I just mentioned a fee weeks ago what was the plan for bc when we're done with kids and he just straight out stated "I'll get a vasectomy, the recovery's easier." Cool

[carolinagirl831]

Dh says he is willing to get a vasectomy.. but we won't do it until we are sure.. We are 30 now, maybe when he's 40? I don't know hard to say at this point

[h]

We are thinking DH will get a vasectomy at some point after the child I am carrying now is here and healthy. This is our surprise third, and while we are thrilled to be having him or her, we are not sure that we would be equally thrilled with a surprise fourth. Also, given our ages (we'll turn 36 and 37 shortly after this kid is born) and the fact that we will already have three kids, we both agree that even in the event of divorce or death, it is unlikely either of us would want more children.

If for some reason one or both of us is having a tough time getting comfortable with the finality of a vasectomy, I will get an IUD.

[Deleted]

After our next kid, I'll get Mirena to buy us 5 years to consider our options. Near the end of that if we're still happy with 2, DH will get snipped.

At least that's my plan. I have told it to him. He is not enthusiastic, but I think he owes me one for birthing the children.

[rootbeerfloat]

H had a vasectomy (two, actually, poor guy).

[savannah11]

DH had a vasectomy when DD was 3 months old. It is very nice to not worry about birth control.

[hocus]

I have an IUD and 8 more years until it needs to come out. At that time we'll look into something more permanent. I'm 99% sure we're done with 2 but I don't want to make the decision right now incase things change. In 8 years I know we'll be done.

[hilwithonelary]

We've agreed that DH will get a vasectomy once we're sure we're done having kids. We think we might be done, but haven't totally ruled out a third. It will probably be 3-4 years before we make any permanent decisions.