Does your H have any opinion at all on the minimum # of mos you should BF?
On the other BF post, I answered H didn't care when I stopped BF. Yes, he didn't care how far past 1yr. But he seems to have a very strong opinion of hitting 1yr or until baby can have whole cow's milk.
BF was successful with DD; not a drop of formula. But it was a lot of work and stress. I probably put a lot of pressure on myself to hit 1yr. With this baby, I want to remove the pressure. In fact, I'm thinking I'll be fine with supplementing to lessen the stress of pumping and it's okay if I give up before 1yr. DD's infant year was a nightmare and I'm trying to find ways to make this baby's infant year better.
When I told H that I'll be more open to supplement next time and willing to give up earlier, his response, "no it's for the baby."
Bf'ing was really hard for me, and DH was pretty aware of my struggles. I think I out enough pressure on myself that he didn't have to, meaning that I insisted on BF'ing to one year. However, we ended up supplementing around 9 months, and what was DH going to do about it? Right? The baby has to be fed!
Anyway, I'm confident that he understands that I'll do whatever it takes to take care of the baby and myself. If you need to stop nursing for your own sanity, I think DH has a fit to encourage you to pump. But demanding that you continue nursing seems like overstepping some boundaries, IMO.
I would ask him what he was going to do to make it happen. And not in a snarky way. If this was HIS goal, what would he be willing to do to make it work? Becuase just pressuring me to "make it work" would not be okay. Would he wake-up in the middle of the night when the baby cried to bring her to me,stay awake while I nursed to supervise the baby as I fell back to sleep? Walk back to the crib, sooth the baby back to sleep? Would he do more drop/off, pick/ups to day care so I could sleep later? Would we budget for professional massages? Would I sleep in on weekends? Would he clean all of my pump parts every night or lug my bags into and out of the car? More foot massages, cooking, cleaning - anything to let me be more relaxed and better able to reach his BF goal?