I need to vent...

[llh0211]

My STBXH is really pissing me off. He's basically trying to cover his own ass and attempting to make me out to be the psycho ex-wife. Which honestly, couldn't be further from the truth. Luckily at least a few of the people he's trying to tell this to know that he's full of shit.

I've kept pretty quiet to most people, unless they're close to me about what's going on. His lies are seriously ridiculous. Cliff notes version: He had an affair, is continuing the affair (which is fine, whatever, I'm gone, and am done with our marriage) but he's still trying to tell me he loves me, wants to be with me, misses me, blah blah blah, and he tells me that he's no longer with the OW, when I know that he is. Why he won't just leave me the eff alone, is beyond me.

If you made it through all that, you deserve a cookie. I'm just so irritated at the latest round of lies I've been made aware of. I really need to just start the divorce process asap. I don't know why I'm dragging my feet. Ugh.

[kwpnjumper55]

I'm sorry you are going through this!

Let him tell his lies, truth will come out in the end! I know it pisses you off, but the best thing you can do is ignore it and FILE!! Drink a glass of wine (or 5) tonight and start the process tomorrow! It's a new dawn, and you gotta grab it by the balls!

[jennlin]

sorry he's being a butt! file tomorrow!

[FrozenSunshine]

Oct 24, 2012 15:23:26 GMT -5 llh0211 said:

My STBXH is really pissing me off. He's basically trying to cover his own ass and attempting to make me out to be the psycho ex-wife. Which honestly, couldn't be further from the truth. Luckily at least a few of the people he's trying to tell this to know that he's full of shit.

I've kept pretty quiet to most people, unless they're close to me about what's going on. His lies are seriously ridiculous. Cliff notes version: He had an affair, is continuing the affair (which is fine, whatever, I'm gone, and am done with our marriage) but he's still trying to tell me he loves me, wants to be with me, misses me, blah blah blah, and he tells me that he's no longer with the OW, when I know that he is. Why he won't just leave me the eff alone, is beyond me.

If you made it through all that, you deserve a cookie. I'm just so irritated at the latest round of lies I've been made aware of. I really need to just start the divorce process asap. I don't know why I'm dragging my feet. Ugh.

I'll share my cookie with you.

I've been in that exact spot if you want to PM me to talk.

[niq]

Boys suck. Good for you for getting him out of your life. Good that some of the people in his life know he's full of it.

[fiddles]

Ugh sorry you're going through that!! I agree with KW, let him tell his lies. It will eventually trip him up.

[llh0211]

Thanks, everyone. It's just infuriating. I left. I moved 1000 miles away. He can be with her all he wants, but let me go. And the lies... Like it's made me question so much! Has he always lied, and I just didn't know? Or is this a recent thing? My gut thinks it's not recent... Ugh.

[mkate710]

I don't have any advice, just lots of hugs. Definitely treat yourself to some good wine tonight!

[Deleted]

Oct 24, 2012 15:49:45 GMT -5 @jennuinne said:

Oct 24, 2012 15:27:19 GMT -5 kwpnjumper55 said:

I'm sorry you are going through this!

Let him tell his lies, truth will come out in the end! I know it pisses you off, but the best thing you can do is ignore it and FILE!! Drink a glass of wine (or 5) tonight and start the process tomorrow! It's a new dawn, and you gotta grab it by the balls!

Well said. And sorry you're going through this, it sounds awful. But, out with the trash and on to bigger and better things.

Exactly all of this.

Feel free to vent here any time.

[livinitup]

I honestly don't know how you resist the urge to record him and reveal it to the woman he's sleeping with. Not to get rid of her and him back, just to totally put the TRUTH out there and warn anothewr woman away. And fuck him.

Really. I don't know how you resist it.

[llh0211]

Oct 24, 2012 18:29:44 GMT -5 livinitup said:

I honestly don't know how you resist the urge to record him and reveal it to the woman he's sleeping with. Not to get rid of her and him back, just to totally put the TRUTH out there and warn anothewr woman away. And fuck him.

Really. I don't know how you resist it.

I've been tempted. Very much. But, in the end, it doesn't really matter. I don't owe her anything. And really, it won't accomplish anything productive. Let her figure it out on her own. Plus, I don't want to throw the person that is telling me stuff under the bus. He's a good guy. (He was the best man in our wedding, and I've become really close with him & his wife)

[jennlin]

hope you're starting the filing process! today can be a great day! you have all of our support!

[Deleted]

**HUGS*** Thank GOD you are getting away from this fuck! He is being a classic emotional abuser and manipulater!

[tacocat]

I am so sorry about all this! Ditto Jenn you have as much support here as you need.

[tacocat]

I am so sorry about all this! Ditto Jenn you have as much support here as you need.

[llh0211]

Thanks everyone. I really appreciate it. I have started the process. About time, right?

[jennlin]

Oct 25, 2012 12:10:23 GMT -5 llh0211 said:

Thanks everyone. I really appreciate it. I have started the process. About time, right?

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[sarack]

this has got to be hard, i'm so sorry you're going through this! sending vibes and hugs!