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[Ashley&Scott]

ojo- there are twins that regularly come to my group. Our LC holds one twin while their mom nurses the other

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Dads were not normally welcome at either of the groups I attended. LLL has a "father's friendly" meeting one in four times; there are usually a couple dads at that.

[badtzmaru22]

I wouldn't want a man there, although I think it's great that a dad would want to be supportive in that way. Thinking about it though, I would be ok if another woman was there supporting her partner, or someone's mom there to help her daughter.

[SusanBAnthony]

Oct 25, 2012 20:39:41 GMT -5 badtzmaru22 said:

I wouldn't want a man there, although I think it's great that a dad would want to be supportive in that way. Thinking about it though, I would be ok if another woman was there supporting her partner, or someone's mom there to help her daughter.

Its too bad that in our culture many women feel uncomfortable nursing in public and nursing in front of men. BUT obviously tons of them do (at least at first), and it is what it is, so male support is just not very feasible in groups.

Honestly even in cultures where nursing boobs hanging out is totally acceptable, I would guess it is likely the moms/aunts/friends helping a new mom nurse, not the dads.

[Deleted]

Not only would it be uncomfortable from a modesty standpoint, but if I were there by myself and struggling and some other woman shows up with her super supportive husband while mine was at home or wherever and not there... then I'd have one more thing to struggle with/feel bad about.

[water*drop]

Dads/husbands aren't allowed to stay at ours, but if the mother doesn't feel comfortable without him, the LC will meet the couple in a separate room for a few minutes to check latch, etc, after everybody else is situated.

I went for the first time when DD was 6 days old. My husband waited in the lobby with the husband of the woman who has a baby two days younger than mine. They traded horror stories.

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I NIP but I wouldn't want to be helped w/ my breasts in full view with a man there watching. Call me a prude.

[aspentosh]

I don't think it would bother me. I never went to a support group, but if I felt the need to do so I would much prefer for DH to be there so he could see/hear all the hints and tips and help me then and there.

I am a pretty private person, but honestly if a DH is there with his wife who is struggling with BF, I am sure he is 100% concentrated on helping her and not checking out other women. (This from experience with DH when we were NIP early on)

[Deleted]

I took a BFing class at the hospital before I gave birth (the class was designed for learning about BFing pre-baby). The hospital wouldn't let DH come to that, and I was pretty annoyed. I wanted him to learn about BFing so he could support me once DS was born. And since we were all still PG, there were no boobs out.

But having actually breastfed now, NO WAY would I be okay with a husband coming to a LLC meeting or something similar, for all the reasons everyone else mentioned. I know that husband isn't oogling the other women, but still. I felt incredibly ugly in the early days of BFing, with huge leaky boobs and lack of showering and sleep. The meeting would have been uncomfortable enough, if there had been a man there I would have walked out.

[Brie]

Oct 25, 2012 22:44:58 GMT -5 L said:

I NIP but I wouldn't want to be helped w/ my breasts in full view with a man there watching. Call me a prude.

This. I am fine with NIP and have done it several times already. But at the group several women were having nipple blisters or cracks looked at by the LC or similar and were showing a lot more than they would just NIP.

[karinothing]

Our LLL groups always have men, it never occured to me that this would be a bad thing. I assumed they were there to support their wives. But I have no issues with NIP or well nudity in general.

ETA: Let me add, that I 100% understand why others wouldnt feel comfortable with men there. I just have no shame lol.