WR: Assess the etiquette

[katieb4tom]

I just checked the three wedding registries for upcoming shower and ceremony. The largest of the three registries has five items on it. All the other items across the three registries are gift cards. Is this equivalent to asking for cash or is it okay since you registered?

[anna7602]

That is the equivalent of asking for cash. I think I would prefer if only the registry with five items on it existed.

[Mrs.Beagle]

Is that what's left or all that they registered for?

If that's everything they registered for, then yes, they want cash.

ETA: Comprehension fail. I think it's strange that they reigstered at places, but only for gift cards.

[thatgirl2478]

ugh - I have a similar wedding shower to go to this weekend... I usually buy a gift for the shower and cash for the wedding. Their 'registry' has the most random stuff on it (a portable washer, a basket ball hoop & backboard, tools, water filters, a heated mattress pad, a $500 set of cookbooks).

I'm tempted to just go shopping and get them something useful because I fear they are morons.

[raangoli]

That is going to be one boring wedding shower!

[madladybride]

Sounds like a gift-card grab. I'd be tempted to buy them something that they didn't ask for and "forget" the receipt.

[katieb4tom]

Okay, full disclosure--I am planning the shower--do I say something to the bride?

[juris11]

May 22, 2012 9:23:13 GMT -5 katieb4tom said:

Okay, full disclosure--I am planning the shower--do I say something to the bride?

I would probably play it dumb. Say "Oh, by the way, I have been getting a lot of questions about your registries. I think you need to review them and add some more stuff. People said they are getting low on items and they are trying to buy for the shower."

[ECB]

May 22, 2012 9:26:27 GMT -5 @littlemoxie said:

May 22, 2012 9:23:13 GMT -5 katieb4tom said:

Okay, full disclosure--I am planning the shower--do I say something to the bride?

yes.

Ditto. People aren't going to come to a shower w/ a gift card. If she doesn't want gifts, she shouldn't have a shower. If she wants a shower, then she needs to register for stuff that she wants - OR to perhaps at least give her a higher chance of being able to return the stuff she doesn't want.

What she's going to get right now is a bunch of stuff that people are TOTALLY guessing at she'll like, and it will be VERY hit or miss if she gets any gift receipts.