My first clinger, and not Patrick.

[jm5855]

Last night I cut off things with the FWB.

Let me walk you through it:

Had a nice phone conversation, I explained my reasons, she understood, and we wished each other the best of luck.

For the next 2 hours I am getting texts like these:

Are you sure this is what you want?
Well anyways maybe will see you out sometime.
It just seems so sudden.
Is there something I did or didn't do?
You are making a rash decision.
Sorry to bug you, take care.
Honestly you never wanted the friendship part, you only wanted the benefits part. You know it's true. (It's not 100% true)
Why can't we fuck one last time?
I think you are making a mistake, but I will leave you alone now.
Can I come over?

Later I am doing shit around my house and miss 3 calls from her that are all 7 minutes apart. So of course I get a nasty text from her:

Dude? Seriously!? You plan to fucking ignore me now?

She calls again and I answer and she is crying and basically vents on me for a few minutes.

This morning a text from her:

Sorry for last night. I hope all your dreams come true.

I repsond and say no worries and that I hope the best for her.

She responds right back:

Can't we just meet for a drink and talk about things?

Peeps on this board that said FWB are dangerous and rarely end well were correct...lol. For the record this arrangement was originally her idea but I realize I deserve much of the blame for agreeing to it.

[starburst604]

I guess you don't have a micropeen after all!!!

[bullygirl979]

::::golf clap:::::

Well played, my friend, well played.

[naeljun]

Oct 25, 2012 12:37:05 GMT -5 starburst604 said:

I guess you don't have a micropeen after all!!!

or if he does, he really knows how to use it.

Sorry JM for the crazy cakes experience you had.

[roselis]

Yikes. Good luck....

[jojoandleo]

I had a guy I dated that I cut it off with and for a full year after that I was STILL getting texts/messages from him just wondering how I was doing/wanting to meet up "as friends".

So, HAVE FUN! These stage 5 clingers don't give up easy. Just ask Patrick.

[heavenly]

Thanks for reminding me again why I don't have a fwb... it is getting harder these days. lol!

[starburst604]

Reading the texts makes me all uncomfortable and embarassed for her. I know there have been times I've said more than I should to a guy and regretted it but never like THAT.

[turtle1120]

Oh dear.

Don't take any more calls from her and ignore her texts for now. If it gets really bad, ask her not to contact you anymore.

[starburst604]

Oct 25, 2012 12:43:10 GMT -5 jellymankelly said:

I'm thinking she didn't want to be your FWB and thought she'd end up being your girlfriend.

(Side note: I call B my BF around here, but am I the only person weirded out by people over 30 using "boyfriend" or "girlfriend?" It seems so....I don't know. Young?)

Yup, only just recently have I started feeling self-concious about the "BF/GF" title. It's silly really because what are we supposed to call them? My partner? My FRIEND? My dad has introduced his gf as his friend for years. Makes me laugh.

[turtle1120]

Hey JM - what ever happened with the other chick? The one you had been on a bunch of dates with. Are you still seeing her?

[udscoobychick]

Oct 25, 2012 12:43:10 GMT -5 jellymankelly said:

I'm thinking she didn't want to be your FWB and thought she'd end up being your girlfriend.

(Side note: I call B my BF around here, but am I the only person weirded out by people over 30 using "boyfriend" or "girlfriend?" It seems so....I don't know. Young?)

Haha...doesn't bother me, but BF said it was difficult for him to think of himself as "boyfriend" at first because he had been "husband" for so many years!

[jm5855]

Oct 25, 2012 12:43:10 GMT -5 jellymankelly said:

I'm thinking she didn't want to be your FWB and thought she'd end up being your girlfriend.

(Side note: I call B my BF around here, but am I the only person weirded out by people over 30 using "boyfriend" or "girlfriend?" It seems so....I don't know. Young?)

I sensed that too.

[jm5855]

Oct 25, 2012 12:48:13 GMT -5 turtle1120 said:

Hey JM - what ever happened with the other chick? The one you had been on a bunch of dates with. Are you still seeing her?

We are hanging out tonight, think it will be our 5th date. She has started to loosen up a bit and shown a more aggressive/fun side to her that I didn't think was there. If something serious blossoms out of this I will be glad I didn't dismiss her right away.

[lovelybb]

Oct 25, 2012 12:43:10 GMT -5 jellymankelly said:

I'm thinking she didn't want to be your FWB and thought she'd end up being your girlfriend.

(Side note: I call B my BF around here, but am I the only person weirded out by people over 30 using "boyfriend" or "girlfriend?" It seems so....I don't know. Young?)

It's kind of weird for me too... I tell D I'm his "chosen one" but he calls me his girlfriend. I call him boyfriend or DILF (in private of course)... what else is there? His mom calls me his fiance... ha!

[turtle1120]

Oct 25, 2012 12:52:58 GMT -5 jm5855 said:

Oct 25, 2012 12:48:13 GMT -5 turtle1120 said:

Hey JM - what ever happened with the other chick? The one you had been on a bunch of dates with. Are you still seeing her?

We are hanging out tonight, think it will be our 5th date. She has started to loosen up a bit and shown a more aggressive/fun side to her that I didn't think was there. If something serious blossoms out of this I will be glad I didn't dismiss her right away.

I'm glad to hear things are going well! Have fun!

[jm5855]

Dammit with all the crazyness regarding the CEO of Proboards I just realized the title of my post should have been "My first clinger, and not Patrick."

Title post fail on my part...ugh.

ETA. Nevermind I fixed it...lol

[achase123]

I guess you were doing something right, JM

Sorry she's gone stage 5 on you. I'd ignore from here on out.

[Bernadine]

At 30, I'm also hating the bf/gf thing. But everything else sounds equally dumb.

[doriswe]

I'm sorry...but I find it funny....wanna know why?? Cuz you were all "give OZ a chance...doooo eeeettt". Payback's a bitch, my friend!

Seriously, though...that sucks...does she know where you live? She's not going to boil a bunny in your kitchen or anything, is she?

[kaneen]

Yikes, I'm embarassed for her.

[BookLover]

Wow! Somebody forgot to take her meds it seems.