I always feel guilty on FB when one of my friends

[CloudBee]

I never wish a happy bday after I see an update like that. Sometimes I will post a similar update a day or two after my bday, though.

[Willis Jackson]

I have a general policy that I don't wish people Happy Birthday on FB. I'm not on every day so I know I'll miss people and I don't want them to notice that I'm wishing other people Happy Birthday.

I know I'm making this more complicated than it needs to be.

[kittycatlove]

Ha, that just happened to me this week. I guess I'm on the shit list for not wishing said friend a Happy Birthday.

[raangoli]

May 22, 2012 9:58:41 GMT -5 Willis Jackson said:

I have a general policy that I don't wish people Happy Birthday on FB. I'm not on every day so I know I'll miss people and I don't want them to notice that I'm wishing other people Happy Birthday.

I know I'm making this more complicated than it needs to be.

I don't either. If I can't remember your birthday without FB prompting me, then you're not someone I'd likely wish a Happy Birthday to anyway.

[salimoo]

This is why I get pissy when people do this at, like, 9am. Give people a chance to catch up!

[Deleted]

You are reading too much into this. It is not an asshole status update.

[shell403b]

May 22, 2012 10:11:39 GMT -5 @redbellpeppers said:

You are reading too much into this. It is not an asshole status update.

For some people, it is (an asshole status update, that is). Maybe I need to be friends with other people. Non-asshole people.

[sunshine608]

May 22, 2012 9:58:41 GMT -5 Willis Jackson said:

I have a general policy that I don't wish people Happy Birthday on FB. I'm not on every day so I know I'll miss people and I don't want them to notice that I'm wishing other people Happy Birthday.

I know I'm making this more complicated than it needs to be.

I'm the same way. I used to do birthday wishes as soon as I logged into FB in the morning.

I also had more free time on my hands, but these days I skip it completely. The only exception is my sister and I do that through my status message.

[Deleted]

May 22, 2012 10:24:00 GMT -5 @msstarry said:

www.slate.com/articles/technology/technology/2011/08/my_fake_facebook_birthdays.html

lol. My sister forgot to log out of her facebook at our parents house once. I changed her birthday. It was amusing to watch.

[jenny1223]

May 22, 2012 10:24:00 GMT -5 @msstarry said:

www.slate.com/articles/technology/technology/2011/08/my_fake_facebook_birthdays.html

Haha! DH hates people wishing him happy birthday on facebook especially when it's people he hardly knows. So he changed his birthday to Feb 29th hoping it would only show up every 4 years (it doesn't, it pops up on FB on the 28th). So know he has a bunch of people wishing him HB in February rather than June every year. It's pretty hilarious.

[Deleted]

May 22, 2012 10:12:35 GMT -5 v said:

I wouldn't feel bad. Under rare circumstances only do I wish someone a happy birthday on Facebook... if I want to wish the person a happy birthday, I'll send an email or text message. I find "thanks everyone for the birthday wishes!" messages to be kind of AWish anyway. I don't have my birthday listed on facebook so I can avoid that whole scene.

I never thought of it that way, but I certainly see how one could.

I like to do a generic thank you because I do not want to thank each person separately (which I have seen done). this year I said something like, "thank you for all the birthday wishes! currently mourning the loss of my 21st birthday with ___ & ___" - but I posted it at ~1am the next day if it helps, ha.

[jinnifah]

I see it as a good solution to spending an hour individually thanking each person who posted on my wall. Of course, I can totally see how they're also aw-ish since it "reminds" people that they forgot you. Six of one, half dozen of the other

[fbf2006]

May 22, 2012 10:11:39 GMT -5 @redbellpeppers said:

You are reading too much into this. It is not an asshole status update.

I actually find this thread odd. I think people are taking facebook way too seriously. I don't think anything when someone posts a status update to say thanks at all. I don't know why anyone should feel guilty. I wish some people happy birthday and I don't wish others the same for various reasons (i didn't log in that day, i just don't feel like it, whatever). It's not a big deal.

[heygrey]

people wish me a happy birthday and i don't respond at all. that makes me an ass.

[fbf2006]

May 22, 2012 11:28:18 GMT -5 heygrey said:

people wish me a happy birthday and i don't respond at all. that makes me an ass.

I don't respond either and I think that's perfectly fine. I'm certainly not going to respond to each person and I don't really like creating status updates so I'm not going to do it that way either.

[MadamePresident]

I have friends who will "like" the comment to acknowledge that they saw/read it.

A "thank you" status is an acceptable way of thanking people who remembered / had fb remind them. I don't think its meant as a slight against those who didn't. I mean I don't track of who does and does not wish me "Happy Birthday" on fb. Then again, I'm a reasonable adult.

[jigsy]

I just did this today, I hope my friends don't think I'm an ass...I just wanted to say thanks to the people who did wish me a happy bday...I don't care if people didn't, but I think it's nice to acknowledge other niceness.

[chessie]

May 22, 2012 10:11:39 GMT -5 @redbellpeppers said:

You are reading too much into this. It is not an asshole status update.

Agree with this. Its FB come on! If you have any serious event, or comment to me your not going to FB me. Its a silly open forum for friends, distance family, etc to share crap, random crap. My close friends will call me directly or see me on my bday, I could care less who posts on my wall. I swear people read too much shit into this. I delete any event, people send me though- thats where I draw the line.