I'm so irritated...

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...and disappointed. Guy I've been seeing for a month is confusing the hell out of me. We can go a few days without any communicating. And I will have to start it. But when we hang out its great. Last time I went over to his house all I got was a hug. No kiss. I was over there for less than an hour. We've had sex already. It's totally mixed signals and I'm thinking he's trying to take the easy way out? And he feels guilty if he ends it because my dad just died three weeks ago? I'm not sure.

And now I'm torn between texting him now and seeing if we can hangout and talk face to face about it or just dropping him. I'm sad because I was really into him.

[bullygirl979]

What do you have to lose by talking to him about it? Personally if you are into him, I wouldn't just drop it. TBH, it sounds like you might be more into him than he is into you....but I would see talk to him to see what is up.

Hugs!

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I am really into him! I think you hit the nail on the head.

[naeljun]

He doesn't sound into you though. I would talk to him about it.

[thebamker]

Maybe your dad's death (I'm sorry btw) is making him feel weird about your relationship. Some people are uncomfortable about death and grief. Maybe he thinks he should give you space or he isn't good with being supportive in these situations.

I'm kind of like that and if I was dating a guy for a week and one of his parents died, I would be completely wigged out and I wouldn't know what to say/do. I wouldn't know if I should talk about it, not talk about it, call often, give them space... etc.

I think you should be honest and talk to him about it.

Good luck!

[stephbfan]

Oct 27, 2012 19:00:45 GMT -5 dynamoo said:

I have different advice...but maybe that's why I'm still single so with a grain of salt......

. If a guy is into you, he will make the effort. If he's not and doesn't make the effort, his loss.

This is what I do too. Its not that I want to do all the effort but things should be equal. If after, I have been clear about wanting to hang out more with him, he doesnt take the time to pick up the phone, I just move on.

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We ended up meeting up at a bar. He has legit been busy. Put I point blank asked him and we went for drinks tonight and tomorrow we have dinner plans. I think he realized he needs to put forth more of an effort.