This just doesn't get easier

[janedoe]

Poof

[jojoandleo]

Do what is best for you. You don't have to do the "smart thing" financially if it is NOT the smart thing emotionally. *hugs*

[thebamker]

Oct 27, 2012 17:06:55 GMT -5 janedoe said:

It's only been a few days since h and I decided to split.

You're only a few days in... it does get easier. Do what you think is best.

[jojoandleo]

Break ups are hard. You think about everything you wanted and thought you had and listen to crappy music which you belt out drunkenly. You think your life as you envisioned it is over. You think "What did I do? Is this my fault?" Then you miss him and glorify him and forget all his faults.

Then, one day, you wake up and realize, fuck this mopey shit! I deserve better. Dammit, I am awesome! Then the glory of the ex falls and you remember how he always left the toilet seat up and how he used to tell you to get over things you were upset about. You realize you are happier alone and you get the bounce back in your step.

It's a process. If you weren't sad and if it wasn't hard, you wouldn't get to the break through at the end. You can vent here anytime.

[janedoe]

He's been texting me saying the kids don't deserve this and how he is worried how they will end up all because I'm looking for "a new baby daddy". I feel like he didn't listen to everything else aside from having more. Plus I do worry about the kids. Ugh

[jojoandleo]

Oct 27, 2012 19:47:01 GMT -5 janedoe said:

He's been texting me saying the kids don't deserve this and how he is worried how they will end up all because I'm looking for "a new baby daddy". I feel like he didn't listen to everything else aside from having more. Plus I do worry about the kids. Ugh

Ignore him. He's hurt too and lashing out. My parents divorced when I was five and I am doing just fine. As long as you two don't talk crap about each other to the kids, all they will know is they get 2 Christmases.

[janedoe]

Yea, I think he is just hurt. There is absolutely no men in my life besides my dad. I'm not looking to go find someone new right away and I know he is just saying it to be rude. Even though I know it, it still sucks and I feel bad

We actually communicate very well (typically). Never fought in front of the kids and he preferred to be a jerk in private. I think counseling might help though since this is so driven by emotion

[prettyinpearls]

EXACTLY what JoJo said. She hit the nails on the head.

Keep your chin up and remember that this entire process is one crazy rollercoaster.

[turtle1120]

Hugs to you! Hang in there. It DOES get better. We will all promise that to you. There's not a single person on this board who wasn't able to eventually pick up the pieces and move on.