OK, my turn. Help. Me. !!UPDATED!!

[Deleted]

Help you do what?

[fairydust]

Do you want to date? Try to hang out with friends if you're feeling lonely... that's the best thing to do. I love curling up with my dog and a good book but I also enjoy getting out and hanging with friends. I know when I need more of one or the other. I volunteer part-time at a winery as well and I've met some cool people. Do what makes you happy.

[stephbfan]

I agree. If you dont feel like dating, then just dont. I totally understand you because I was there. I felt like I should want to date but at the same time, I was not interested at all. For me it lasted almost two years. I started doing new things, picked up tennis and other things that made feel better about myself. I realized that I had lost myself in my mother role.

Just go out with your friends and have fun. You dont need to be dating to enjoy your life.

[BlueBayou]

If it isn't broke, don't fix it. Single time is to be cherished, its all about you time. I loved those yrs. Enjoy it!!

[naeljun]

I don't date. For the most part I'm OK with that. There are some days that I feel like I should want to go on a date but I don't really feel like it. I find it daunting and I am not looking to get remarried or have anymore children so why not just enjoy the time I have with my friends and DD.

[Deleted]

I know there is a pressure to date here in the States, especially in medium to small communities. I say do what makes YOU happy. You don't have to date. I've been separated from XH since June 2011 and divorced since April 2012 and I haven't dated yet. I just enjoy being single and I can do whatever I want without having to sacrifice my own happiness. There are so many things I didn't do (go to a prestigious school, do a pro master's degree paid for by my old company, travel...) because I was married that I don't want anyone to be "in my way" again before I reach my goals.