Kids and marriage seperation

[SusanBAnthony]

My sister and her H (beloved aunt and uncle to my kids) are coming to visit us over Memorial Day weekend.

It is a very strange situation. They are seperated-ish, but have been living together for the last 2 months as they are finishing up a lease. Things are completely amicable, and they may or may not end up divorcing. They are moving apart from each other for the summer and fall, at least. The reason that they are taking this trip together is long-winded, but it boils down to them sharing a car, so sis's H is coming along with her bc otherwise he is stuck at home with no car.

Its just.... weird. It is hard to be around BIL. I like him a lot, but if they end up divorcing, we likely won't see him anymore (don't lie near him and they have only been together 4 years so it isnt like we have decades of history).

DH and I can deal fine, we can all act like adults, and it isn't too awkward. But I am stumped about the kids. Do I tell them about the separation? This may be the last time they see their uncle as the official living apart separation starts after this trip.

Has anyone dealt with this How did you handle it?

[jennlin]

no, i wouldn't tell them about the separation. i think they're not quite old enough to grasp marriage just yet....unless the 4.5yr old is super advanced..just continue calling him uncle, and if you don't see them often, then he'll forget about him next time anyway.