Tell me I did the right thing & don't sound crazy!

[janedoe]

I agree, you did the right thing

[glitzyglow]

You did good.

[roselis]

You did the right thing

[imalwaysme79]

I think you definitely did the right thing. It sounds like you gave him plenty of different opportunities to meet up and he just had excuse after excuse. Next!

[livinitup]

Well, I think you certainly did and said the right thing. Actually, I think you were a bit too nice. You seemed to apologize for your feelings and repeatedly said that him being too busy to meet is a-okay, when really it's not. It's just texting, but he got very invested in a relationship with you and did not follow through on several occassions. That's a really rude way to treat people.

[doriswe]

You did the right thing....and he obviously wasn't that great of a catch if he couldn't commit to meeting!

[lovelybb]

Oct 29, 2012 6:53:08 GMT -5 doriswe said:

You did the right thing....and he obviously wasn't that great of a catch if he couldn't commit to meeting!

Yep! And don't apologize or feel bad for your feelings... you're number one!

[aerochyck]

I think you handled that really well.

[stephbfan]

He has time to meet this friend/GF, he would have time for a quick coffee with you. Dude is not that into you and you deserve better.

Why the need to give him an out? It's easy to cut contact.

If you reach a point where you can find the time or want to meet then I'm game, but I think I am going to pull the plug on the constant communication until then."

When you say this, you are pretty much giving him the choice of saying that he wants to meet. Would you be up to meet with someone that just couldn't make the time to see you?

[jade28]

You did the right thing but next time don't apologize for how you feel and don't make his bad actions okay. I totally do this too and used to be really bad but after a year of dating, I finally learned that my feelings are legit and not to let guys get away with being dicks.

He should have been able to make time for you if he was interested. I mean he obviously had time to costume shop, go to a party and hang out with his girl friend. Hmmm doesn't sound like a super busy guy to me. He most likely has a girlfriend if he can't dedicate any face time.

[stephbfan]

Oct 29, 2012 9:13:53 GMT -5 @tjenbell said:

Oct 29, 2012 9:05:37 GMT -5 stephbfan said:

He has time to meet this friend/GF, he would have time for a quick coffee with you. Dude is not that into you and you deserve better.

Why the need to give him an out? It's easy to cut contact.

If you reach a point where you can find the time or want to meet then I'm game, but I think I am going to pull the plug on the constant communication until then."

When you say this, you are pretty much giving him the choice of saying that he wants to meet. Would you be up to meet with someone that just couldn't make the time to see you?

No, you're absolutely right. I'm over it. I'm just making excuses because he seemed like a great guy and we had a lot in common. I also was a little taken aback because I have not had this happen before. I'm still learning to date again after so many years of being married. Too bad, I think if he'd met me, he would have liked me. I don't think it's possible to really get to know someone via text and Facebook. It's very one-dimensional. But onward and upward.

:Y: :Y:

[achase123]

Not crazy at all. You were making it clear what you want and where you stand and asking him to be an adult and do the same. Well done. I'd forget about him though.

[naeljun]

I think you did the right thing and don't sound crazy at all.

[udscoobychick]

Oct 29, 2012 10:53:23 GMT -5 naeljun said:

I think you did the right thing and don't sound crazy at all.

:Y: :Y:

Although, ditto PPs that next time, don't apologize for your feelings so much. You're entitled to them!

[dakotadangerdog]

I can't comprehend why you let it go on for so long, there is some weird reason why he's not meeting up, no way would I talk to a dude for that long with no plans.

[wrathofkuus]

I probably would have just stopped talking to him without that text, but that's just me.

[jojoandleo]

Oct 29, 2012 11:54:50 GMT -5 wrathofkuus said:

I probably would have just stopped talking to him without that text, but that's just me.

Me too. I also would not have left the door open for further meeting up in the future.

[BlueBayou]

I commend you for not putting up with his b.s. , i also agree tho that i wouldnt leave the door open at all for. him. He dragged this kn long enough and showed that hes not a grown man since he could not be honest with u. You gave him a very fair shot. He dropped the ball forever.

[leahmel]

You did the right thing. I think that if a guy wants to meet you and is worth your time, he will make it happen. The fact that he has another girl on his arm, girlfriend or not, and is texting you for the past several weeks would put a bad taste in my mouth and make me not want to meet him at all. You want someone who wants to be with you and see you, this guy is not it.