What do we think of this (re: online dating)?

[achase123]

Last night I saw a guy who was really cute on match. We seemed to have similar interests, values, etc. I winked at him. He winked back and messaged me. We go back and forth for a bit and then exchange phone numbers. He texted me and said that he was headed to bed but he'd text today.

I go to creep on his profile again this morning and it's missing. I assume he hid it. I am guessing it's because we corresponded. I've seen this happen with one other guy and I thought it was a little odd, but I guess I could see the logic in it, not wanting to communicate with more than one person at a time. It's not the way I do things but, to each their own.

Anyone else had experiences like this? Did you think it was normal or give the dude the side eye? FWIW, I will still meet up for lunch or coffee with him, I just wanted other opinions about the profile hiding thing.

[bullygirl979]

Or maybe his subscription ran out...

[doriswe]

I wouldn't jump to any conclusions, to be honest...it could be a number of things, not just because you two were chatting. Maybe he was cancelling his subscription yesterday and it just so happens you two struck up a conversation?

[starburst604]

He could have other reasons for hiding it. I would sometimes hide mine if I saw a busy couple of weeks coming up and knew I'd have limited time to correspond with and meet people. I'd just keep up with current prospects off of Match keep it at that.

[achase123]

I do know for sure that his subscription is over on November 9th because we were both talking about how this would be our last month so we better see if we're a match sooner rather than later.

[turtle1120]

Oct 30, 2012 10:15:34 GMT -5 doriswe said:

I wouldn't jump to any conclusions, to be honest...it could be a number of things, not just because you two were chatting. Maybe he was cancelling his subscription yesterday and it just so happens you two struck up a conversation?

Exactly this. I have started communicating with people right before my subscription ran out. It could be anything, and I wouldn't think twice about it or assume it's because you two started chatting.

[achase123]

Thanks for the perspectives ladies! I was just curious!

[starryfish]

To add to this....i was texting a guy and he noticed I was still "active" on OKC (I have the app, so if I am logged in, it shows me as "online" even if I am not using the app right then). He asked me WHY I was still on OKC??? WTF dude...we hadnt even met yet! I gave the major side eye to that one....turns out he was needy...

[Deleted]

Oct 30, 2012 10:34:44 GMT -5 starryfish said:

To add to this....i was texting a guy and he noticed I was still "active" on OKC (I have the app, so if I am logged in, it shows me as "online" even if I am not using the app right then). He asked me WHY I was still on OKC??? WTF dude...we hadnt even met yet! I gave the major side eye to that one....turns out he was needy...

Jeeeez.

[achase123]

Oct 30, 2012 10:34:44 GMT -5 starryfish said:

To add to this....i was texting a guy and he noticed I was still "active" on OKC (I have the app, so if I am logged in, it shows me as "online" even if I am not using the app right then). He asked me WHY I was still on OKC??? WTF dude...we hadnt even met yet! I gave the major side eye to that one....turns out he was needy...

YES, that would be a sign of a stage fiver. I will NEVER understand the insta-relationship mentality that a lot of people take on with online dating-when you haven't MET yet! In my experience 9 times out of 10 you will meet and it won't be the right fit. What's the point in constant communication and acting as if you will have a relationship before there's even been a face to face?

[baa1981]

Oct 30, 2012 10:43:50 GMT -5 achase123 said:

Oct 30, 2012 10:34:44 GMT -5 starryfish said:

To add to this....i was texting a guy and he noticed I was still "active" on OKC (I have the app, so if I am logged in, it shows me as "online" even if I am not using the app right then). He asked me WHY I was still on OKC??? WTF dude...we hadnt even met yet! I gave the major side eye to that one....turns out he was needy...

YES, that would be a sign of a stage fiver. I will NEVER understand the insta-relationship mentality that a lot of people take on with online dating-when you haven't MET yet! In my experience 9 times out of 10 you will meet and it won't be the right fit. What's the point in constant communication and acting as if you will have a relationship before there's even been a face to face?

This past week I had a guy that I'd only been texting and talking to on the phone (no face to face meeting yet) ask me for $180 to pay for the hotel on a trip he was taking over the weekend. When I told him no he was all I thought we were cooler and closer than that and called me an asshole - he was in a bad spot because of the DUI he got in August (first time that came up...) and was in between paydays. Yesterday he sent me one more text saying he didn't understand why this would be something to stop talking over. When I told him it was he told me good luck finding someone to deal with my issues...

[stephbfan]

I wouldn't think much of it. I have hidden or even deleted my profile because I get tired of it even though I may be talking to one or two guys.

When are you guys planning to meet?

[achase123]

Oct 30, 2012 10:59:58 GMT -5 stephbfan said:

I wouldn't think much of it. I have hidden or even deleted my profile because I get tired of it even though I may be talking to one or two guys.

When are you guys planning to meet?

Sounds like we're going to do coffee on Thursday after work. He posted in his profile about how important chemistry is to him (of course I agree) so we both thought it would be important to get on with the meet up sooner rather than later.

[glitzyglow]

I know I've turned mine off for a few days if I had someone's number and we were texting already.

[formerlyak]

I have a friend who would hide his profile from people (block people) once he exchanged numbers with someone so he didn't accidentally message someone he was already texting/calling.

It could be lots of things. Don't over analyze.

[emma245]

I disabled mine and undisabled mine so many times. Id get a creepy weird message or an annoying guy and I would get tripped out and disable. Clearly, that wasnt you but maybe he was just sick of the back and forth with other girls because he is really interested.

Sending positive vibes for your date with him!

[dakotadangerdog]

One of my friends does this, he hides his page from chicks once he starts talking to them. He said it's so he doesn't message them again, or so he doesn't stalk them or have chicks stalk his profile.