1st interview went exceptionally well. Talked for 45 minutes. I liked them and it seems like they really connected with me. It sounded like they want to offer me the job, but have to go through the state channels. The bad thing was they asked for specifics of why I lived in VA for a year and I had to mention H and dairy farming, it felt awkward.
It was awkward because I didn't want to mentioned H because he won't be coming with me. I don't want them to expect that.
Do you want the real story of why we went to VA, or what I tell people? I tell people it's because H's parents asked us to come manage their dairy farm. We moved and stayed a year, then FIL decided to sell the cows.
Real story: H quit his job just before we got married, without telling me. He figured I made enough and he could just work odd jobs. After 6 months or so this gave me a nervous breakdown, I couldn't deal with the pressure. So he called his dad and decided to move out there and work, he thought I would just stay here in KS. I threw a fit and went with him. His family created major issues (this is an understatement). H got burned out. Just after I started a job there that I really loved, he secretly made plans with an old boss for us to move back, and we did.
Post by UnderProtest on Oct 30, 2012 11:44:03 GMT -5
You are not an idiot. You are a caring person who thought that someone you loved would actually keep his word. I'm sorry you had to find out the really hard way that he won't. I can't wait to celebrate when you are done with him forever.
Post by explorer2001 on Oct 30, 2012 12:17:51 GMT -5
Congrats on the interview. It sounds like a good opportunity. I like the pp idea about helping family and making it clear that commitment is complete and won't reoccur. I wouldn't want to leave them thinking that you might be called away from you career with them. As for the real story, the more you talk about your ex the more he sounds like my ex and I want to punch him for you. You are far from an idiot. You are a smart loving compassionate hard working person who Kelsey her word and commitments, who could understand that someone you loved would lie and do the complete opposite. Hugs.
So, the college I interviewed with yesterday offerd me the job at $11/hr. I can't do that, housing is about $750/mo. I asked if there was room to negotiate m and she said it was more than I'm currently making, I said things are changing and I would need a little more. She hung up, so I guess I turned it down.
Congrats on the good interview! If you want to avoid mentioning your H and this comes up again (with other company's/organizations), I would just say you moved to "help family" with their farm. No one's going to pry deeper, I'm sure. You can say it was a short-lived commitment and then you moved back. People will mostly likely assume health issue, I'm guessing, and won't ask a lot of other questions.