Examples of why I hate my job now

[hereonceagain]

I realize some of these sound really minor, but this is how a typical day goes:

I come in early to catch up on work, boss caught on, now she comes early to give me more work.

Boss doesn't say good morning when arriving. I'm greeted with "ready to meet?"

Everything is urgent in boss' mind. 90% of all my emails from boss are marked urgent and I'm told to do "urgent" work first.

My coworkers were told to not talk to me because I'm too busy. (boss told them, they told me)

Coworker from another department came in and asked if he could have a cup of our coffee. I said yes. I got in trouble because our coffee was purchased by other people (office chipped in). I was told to tell everyone to not take a cup of our coffee ever again.

Emails and letters are sent out with my name but then I'm told the responses are low priority so I basically have to wait 2 weeks before responding, making me look horrible.

Boss volunteers me for several jobs that don't relate to my job and never consults me.

Coworkers all hate each other and try to get me on their side.

Coworkers tell me I'm crazy for not reporting my boss to HR

Coworkers want to hang out with me all the time and talk smack about work. Last thing I want to do.

Boss makes me harass people. If she wants a response fast, she asks me to Email to have it in writing, then call, then a physical visit and if that's not successful right away I m to call and leave messages multiple times a day, even though it's non urgent issues.

Tell me to quit.

[explorer2001]

Oct 30, 2012 15:21:09 GMT -5 jenny1980 said:

Are you looking for another job? If not, start.

This!

[Deleted]

Quit.

But find something else first.

[sparkhold]

Even if you quit some unsuspecting smuck is gonna get your job and he'll treat them the same. I would report him to HR and look for a new job.

[hereonceagain]

Oct 30, 2012 15:42:10 GMT -5 sparkhold said:

Even if you quit some unsuspecting smuck is gonna get your job and he'll treat them the same. I would report him to HR and look for a new job.

She likes me I think, so I can get a good reference now. If I report, I will burn bridges.

[hereonceagain]

Oct 30, 2012 15:21:09 GMT -5 jenny1980 said:

Are you looking for another job? If not, start.

I am actively looking, but being extremely picky. I am considering being a SAHM too.

[hereonceagain]

Oct 30, 2012 15:42:10 GMT -5 sparkhold said:

Even if you quit some unsuspecting smuck is gonna get your job and he'll treat them the same. I would report him to HR and look for a new job.

Also, I don't know if any of what I listed is really report worthy. It's a conflict of personalities more I would say.

[Deleted]

What happens if you push back?

It sounds like none of this is an issue for your boss because you just take it and get it all done.

[jene]

Oct 30, 2012 15:30:48 GMT -5 explorer2001 said:

Oct 30, 2012 15:21:09 GMT -5 jenny1980 said:

Are you looking for another job? If not, start.

This!

+1

[Deleted]

Oct 30, 2012 15:50:22 GMT -5 hereonceagain said:

Oct 30, 2012 15:21:09 GMT -5 jenny1980 said:

Are you looking for another job? If not, start.

I am actively looking, but being extremely picky. I am considering being a SAHM too.

If that's the case, I'd probably just quit and stay home until you find something new. If SAHM is an option then it sounds like you can afford the loss of income, even if it ends up taking a long time to find a new job. Right? That sounds like a crappy work environment and I'd have a lot of trouble continuing to put up with that every day if I didn't need the money.

Exception being, if this is a job that is going to lead you to great things, a la "The Devil Wears Prada". I know some jobs you just have to put up with shit in order to get to the next step in your career. If this isn't one of them it doesn't sound worth your time.

[Deleted]

HR is the nuclear option. I would never report anything to HR unless it were actual harassment. And of course they are good to help with normal questions--eg leave, benefits, etc.

Talk to your boss if possible (may not be). Talk to your boss's boss before HR.

[leeluu]

I work in HR. It seems like you have a horrible boss, but that she isn't breaking any rules or policies or harassing you. For that reason, I wouldn't go to HR, unless you already have a good working relationship with someone there.

I agree with others, find a new job!

[Deleted]

Could you talk with HR about how to best handle the situation?

"HR, I have some concerns and was wondering if you could help talk me through them?"

I agree it sounds like a personality conflict. Sounds like your boss believes you can handle all this extra work. Have you voiced your concerns to your boss? Can you suggest another priority system that will allow you to do what you need to do and what she needs to do?

[Deleted]

Oct 30, 2012 15:58:17 GMT -5 @tokenhoser said:

What happens if you push back?

It sounds like none of this is an issue for your boss because you just take it and get it all done.

This was my thought as well. If one of your options is SAHM, why not just say "actually, I have to finish x, y, z first" or "OK, should I stop working on x, y, or z? I won't have time for all four tasks"

I also don't understand why if you have an answer and it won't take time you have to wait 2 weeks to respond. What's she going to do if you do reply?

Or when she says "ready to meet now?" say "I need x minutes." or "no I'm working on x, see you at 8:30?"

What will she do? Fire you? Oh well, you don't need/want the job anyway.

[MrsAxilla]

Oct 30, 2012 16:25:57 GMT -5 blissanity said:

Could you talk with HR about how to best handle the situation?

"HR, I have some concerns and was wondering if you could help talk me through them?"

yes - some HR depts are good at coaching employees to handle their own issues. If you have someone like that, you could ask for advice.

[sunny]

this doesn't sound reportable. she just sounds annoying.

the coffee thing I kinda get. I get that you were being nice, it doesn't happen often, and she overreacted, but I can see people being pissy if they all chipped in personal $$ and then others start drinking it.

why do you have to wait 2 weeks before responding to those emails?

the other stuff is frustrating for sure. I would advocate for meeting with her and addressing some of it except I don't know how vindictive this person is. I would probably find a different job rather than address it with her, which sounds lame I know, but I wouldn't really want to risk it.

so....start looking for a different job.

[Deleted]

Oct 30, 2012 16:42:40 GMT -5 MrsAxilla said:

yes - some HR depts are good at coaching employees to handle their own issues. If you have someone like that, you could ask for advice.

Not anywhere I have ever worked. I remember when I was promoted to management.

Exceptions for harassment, etc of course. But not just because your boss is an ass.

[hereonceagain]

Oct 30, 2012 16:45:35 GMT -5 sunny said:

this doesn't sound reportable. she just sounds annoying.

the coffee thing I kinda get. I get that you were being nice, it doesn't happen often, and she overreacted, but I can see people being pissy if they all chipped in personal $$ and then others start drinking it.

why do you have to wait 2 weeks before responding to those emails?

the other stuff is frustrating for sure. I would advocate for meeting with her and addressing some of it except I don't know how vindictive this person is. I would probably find a different job rather than address it with her, which sounds lame I know, but I wouldn't really want to risk it.

so....start looking for a different job.

The reason I can't respond to the emails right away is because the letter/emails with my info on it, goes to thousands of people sometimes and it takes me approx 20 hours to respond to them. But my thought is they should plan ahead for me to have time to respond before the even send the letters out.