I think I'm having an emotional affair

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I think I'm having an emotional affair Oct 31, 2012 9:21:19 GMT -5

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Post by Deleted on Oct 31, 2012 9:21:19 GMT -5

Oct 30, 2012 19:58:01 GMT -5 anonomess said:

Oct 30, 2012 19:49:50 GMT -5 y4m said:

What is this guy doing that your husband isn't to make you feel good about yourself? And how can you have a heart to heart with your husband that encourages those things?

I know you're right but I feel disconnected from H. Like he would brush it off or say something callous. CW is just - nice. H is pretty critical and sarcastic. Co worker said something seemingly trite the other day "I could never be mad at you". I melted.

It's easy to never be mad at someone who you have no accountability or responsibility to and no strings or anything. This is dangerous territory you're in.

I've had mild crushes on 2 coworkers in the past. It lasted a few weeks and usually I just told myself - this guy has all his issues and crap too.... I just don't know what his are. That made the crush stop. The little crushes never interfered w/ my feelings for DH though. Whenever I get down or feel disconnected from DH I can remind myself about all the wonderful things he does (or terrible things he DOESN'T do) and remember I'm just in a rut and it's not his fault. I chalked the crushes up to physical attraction and they fizzled quickly. Also never acted on them in ANY way - like not even going to lunch together or anything.