Has dating changed much in the past 10 years?

[winecat]

I haven't really gone on a date in about 10 years. I got married in '04 and divorced in '06. It was a pretty horrible divorce, especially for such a short marriage and no kids. Two years after the divorce, I started planning to open my business. I opened in 2008 and have been working insane hours since. So, for the most part I haven't had time or been interested in going on a date. That was until last week....

Cute firefighter came in and started chatting. (I recently rebranded my business and the old banner was still up because I didn't want to replace it and didn't know how to take it down by myself.) He'd gotten confused because the name on the outside wasn't the name of my business. He left and came back right away. He said he could see if they could come by and take down my banner for me. Days pass and I thought that it wasn't going to happen. But they did come to take it down on Monday. (He didn't know I was closed on Mondays.) He came back on Tuesday to tell me that they'd taken it down and that he would bring it back on Thursday. He was very chatty on Tuesday and then again on Thursday when they (the entire truck- they had been on a call) brought back my banner.

I brought them cupcakes on my way home Thursday night to say thank you. (I've brought this station cupcakes before because they are on my way home.) He wasn't as chatty then but he was kind of waiting near the door. I haven't seen him since Thursday.

I'm not sure what to do, if anything? I'm leaning towards not doing anything because if he is interested he'll come back, right? This is where not dating in a decade is making me wonder. I'm pretty easy to find. I know where he works but I don't know when he works. My email and work phone number are on my website.

But he sure is cute...

[winecat]

I think he is single. I'm pretty sure he isn't married- no ring. I don't know about a girlfriend. He didn't mention one. There was no mention of a "we" in our conversations.

I don't know if he knows my status. I didn't mention being single. Out of habit, I don't mention much about myself to people who come in.

[bullygirl979]

You could always say "it was really nice of you to take down the banner for me. I would love to buy you a drink/coffee/dinner to say thank you."

FWIW, I've asked out dudes before. Some say yes, some have said no but the only time I've regretted doing it is the times I chickened out, haha!

[winecat]

I'm really not sure how I would find him again unless he comes in. I don't want to be skulking around the fire station. That might look a little desperate.

I'll try to be brave if he comes in again. I'm guessing we'd met before when I dropped off cupcakes but it was always late and I was in a hurry.

I have gotten to know a couple of his fellow firefighters wives and one guy who used to be at his station but now travels around. If know one wife better and if she came in, I could definitely get some info and drop a hint.

[udscoobychick]

Oct 30, 2012 23:26:54 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

You could always say "it was really nice of you to take down the banner for me. I would love to buy you a drink/coffee/dinner to say thank you."

FWIW, I've asked out dudes before. Some say yes, some have said no but the only time I've regretted doing it is the times I chickened out, haha!

:Y: Sounds like he has dropped by a few time--I would guess that he will do so again!

[winecat]

Oct 31, 2012 6:37:12 GMT -5 udscoobychick said:

Oct 30, 2012 23:26:54 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

You could always say "it was really nice of you to take down the banner for me. I would love to buy you a drink/coffee/dinner to say thank you."

FWIW, I've asked out dudes before. Some say yes, some have said no but the only time I've regretted doing it is the times I chickened out, haha!

Sounds like he has dropped by a few time--I would guess that he will do so again!

That is what I was hoping/thinking but it's also been almost a week since he has stopped by, so that's what got me wondering. A week 10+ years ago would have made me think he wasn't really interested, but a week now? It goes by in the blink of an eye for me.

I seriously feel like I'm 14. He is so nice (without being a pushover) and super cute.

[winecat]

Oct 31, 2012 13:15:59 GMT -5 mp said:

Aw I hope he drops in again soon! Then get confident and ask him to coffee! It can't hurt!! I seem to be the one that asks all of the non-online folks out first ... I've been told I come across intimidating or uninterested. I think I have permanent bitch face in person. Worst he will say is no thank you.

I hope he stops by in again too! Or, if the one wife I know well stops in I'll ask her... She wanted to set me up with someone before but I was too busy. I can see on the horizon that I might have time to date.