Facebook annoyance of the day

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DDed

[countthestars]

^o) at your FB friend.

[Susie]

I give that a 8-D too.

Anytime you conclude a statement with "I don't mean to be rude/to offend..."

...you probably do, you just don't want to get called out on it.

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It's the natural disaster martyr olympics!

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Nov 1, 2012 10:12:33 GMT -5 papiercherri said:

It's the natural disaster martyr olympics!

"Poor me, I have power and water but can't go to work" loses big time. That is, like, my dream come true.

In my opinion, the staff of our building (for example) who have been at our (powerless/waterless/gasless/elevatorless) building since Sunday, sleeping on cots and having to, for example, carry all of the garbage down 22 flights of pitch black stairs to the basement, beat her out. Particularly the ones who have damage to their homes that they haven't seen yet because they haven't been home.

[LoveTrains]

That teacher sounds really self-absorbed. I saw a crazy picture that one of my friends posted on FB of the line to get on the F train. The subway station was INSANITY.

[protozoa]

I don't read that as martyr-like. For a lot of kids, missing school is not a good thing. It may be the most comfortable, safe place they get to go, and for many it is the source of their most filling meals. And some teachers really care about helping their students and feel bad when they can't.

ETA: I re-read the OP and I'd mis-read the initial post. That person does sound douchey.

[dexteroni]

Nov 1, 2012 10:12:02 GMT -5 Susie said:

I give that a too.

Anytime you conclude a statement with "I don't mean to be rude/to offend..."

...you probably do, you just don't want to get called out on it.

This is so true.

[Deleted]

Well as a former teacher I kind of get it. It's a huge pain when you miss that much school because you have a lot of information you *have* to cover and only so much time to do it in. So when you miss time unexpectedly, you have to make it up by cutting into cool projects and activities. Maybe she was trying to express sympathy with them for this reason? She probably could have phrased her remarks better though. She's making it sound like a competition when it's not.

[GailGoldie]

eh- i think we are all annoyed as shit- and it's all relative.

My kids are fine missing school- but I AM going nutty with them stuck here all day with little power (we have a generator we are using sparingly b/c of gas resources being low).

I think people being able to get to work is more important - esp those who are not paid if they are not working- times are hard enough....

our local board had someone bitching at anyone who complained they didn't have power- how they didn't have the right to complain at least they have a house, bla bla bla..... fact is- if it sucks, it sucks, even when you have it better than others.

we count our blessings - and have been riding through OK- but i won't complain about others complaining... though it is rough to read FB friends from other parts of the country complain that it's cold OUTSIDE today.... going from their car to a building.

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Nov 1, 2012 10:25:52 GMT -5 protozoa said:

I don't read that as martyr-like. For a lot of kids, missing school is not a good thing. It may be the most comfortable, safe place they get to go, and for many it is the source of their most filling meals. And some teachers really care about helping their students and feel bad when they can't.

ETA: I re-read the OP and I'd mis-read the initial post. That person does sound douchey.

She also teaches in one of the wealthiest districts in NJ, which has one of the very best public high schools in the country. I don't think her kids are all that concerned about where their next meals are coming from.

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Because mentioning kids and teachers who can't go to school is FARRRRRRR more important than being concerned about people who lost everything or were KILLED.
What a jerky thing to say.

[Deleted]

Eh I don't think anyone should be judging anyone's situation now. I think pretty much everyone has something. 5 days of no school = extra days of school in 90 degree heat in July. That sucks for them.

I can't go to work bc my office is closed and my daycare is closed. Yes I have water and a generator but H had to wait in lines for hours for gas. We also have no heat and apparently I can't light a fire to save my life. We certainly do not have it the worst, but DD is a mess, I'm a horrible SAhM and after this week alone with her, I wish I was at an office with heat.

I'm trying not to whine about it, I know things are much worse out there for others.

[ESF]

Nov 1, 2012 10:12:33 GMT -5 papiercherri said:

It's the natural disaster martyr olympics!

Seriously. You know one of her friends will see that and post, "Thinking about our troops, who are away from their families during the floods. Breast Cancer sucks! I rescue animals who are wet. Look at my pinterest page where I pinned these cute disaster relief tears of joy tissues that I will never make but I am sharing so you will think I'm a good person. Only 1% of people will have the guts to repost this."

[gt7301b]

Nov 1, 2012 10:29:44 GMT -5 v said:

Nov 1, 2012 10:25:52 GMT -5 protozoa said:

I don't read that as martyr-like. For a lot of kids, missing school is not a good thing. It may be the most comfortable, safe place they get to go, and for many it is the source of their most filling meals. And some teachers really care about helping their students and feel bad when they can't.

ETA: I re-read the OP and I'd mis-read the initial post. That person does sound douchey.

She also teaches in one of the wealthiest districts in NJ, which has one of the very best public high schools in the country. I don't think her kids are all that concerned about where their next meals are coming from.

In the grand scheme of things those kids won't suffer from missing a week of school. I missed a week of school at least three times during high school and I turned out okay.

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TEARS OF JOY TISSUES! ESF, I had completely forgotten about those. Thank you for bringing back the memory of that awesome wedding trend

[mbcdefg]

I can see why it's an issue for many people ...

MH is a teacher and his concern is that this is going to tack on more days to the end of the school year, for example. Adults who are able to go into work have to figure out who's going to watch their kids since they can't be in school (a lot of people in my office brought their kids in today). Teachers have to adjust lesson plans and figure out how to cover material that might be on an important statewide test. Plus kids are just naturally out of it/rowdy when they get back to school after a long break and it can be a PITA to settle them down and get them back into learning mode. Kids in less fortunate districts may not get that safe environment or square meal that they depend on.

But, yeah, the Martyr Olympics is incredibly annoying. It's like a game of Who's Worse Off? or Who Can I Call Out For Complaining? And if you have to include "Not meaning to offend anyone" in a statement, then why bother saying it at all if you know it'll offend someone? (Or why bother saying it to over-sensitive people who manage take offense to every. little. thing?)

I just hate attention whores in general.

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Nov 1, 2012 10:35:15 GMT -5 v said:

TEARS OF JOY TISSUES! ESF, I had completely forgotten about those. Thank you for bringing back the memory of that awesome wedding trend

LOL

I forgot all about those too.

All we need are some ribbon wands.

[ESF]

Nov 1, 2012 10:32:51 GMT -5 @iheartcosmos said:

Eh I don't think anyone should be judging anyone's situation now. I think pretty much everyone has something. 5 days of no school = extra days of school in 90 degree heat in July. That sucks for them.

I can't go to work bc my office is closed and my daycare is closed. Yes I have water and a generator but H had to wait in lines for hours for gas. We also have no heat and apparently I can't light a fire to save my life. We certainly do not have it the worst, but DD is a mess, I'm a horrible SAhM and after this week alone with her, I wish I was at an office with heat.

I'm trying not to whine about it, I know things are much worse out there for others.

FWIW, I'm not judging her situation. I'm judging the fact that she's judging everyone else for not caring enough about her.

ETA - and you may whine all you want. NJ is the last place I'd want to be right now. ::hugs::

[jaylea]

Nov 1, 2012 10:33:43 GMT -5 gt7301b said:

Nov 1, 2012 10:29:44 GMT -5 v said:

She also teaches in one of the wealthiest districts in NJ, which has one of the very best public high schools in the country. I don't think her kids are all that concerned about where their next meals are coming from.

In the grand scheme of things those kids won't suffer from missing a week of school. I missed a week of school at least three times during high school and I turned out okay.

My daughter's entire school missed 6 days a week and a half into the school year this year, then went to another school before returning to theirs. Due to a fire. Life has continued on just fine.

People could use a little effing perspective. Yes, maybe it's frustrating, but missing a few days of school in the face of what others is facing isn't a tragedy. And to try to get your piece of the tragedy whore pie by making it one just makes you look petty.

[Muddled]

Ummm... the schools are otherwise occupied at the moment. You know, so people have a place to sleep.

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Nov 1, 2012 10:42:48 GMT -5 ESF said:

FWIW, I'm not judging her situation. I'm judging the fact that she's judging everyone else for not caring enough about her.

:Y:

Everyone has it bad. The "I can't care about anyone else because people aren't caring enough about me" is what's bothering me. She's allowed to whine about the school situation. It is just kind of shitty to be like "who cares?" about what other people are going through.

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Nov 1, 2012 10:42:48 GMT -5 ESF said:

Nov 1, 2012 10:32:51 GMT -5 @iheartcosmos said:

Eh I don't think anyone should be judging anyone's situation now. I think pretty much everyone has something. 5 days of no school = extra days of school in 90 degree heat in July. That sucks for them.

I can't go to work bc my office is closed and my daycare is closed. Yes I have water and a generator but H had to wait in lines for hours for gas. We also have no heat and apparently I can't light a fire to save my life. We certainly do not have it the worst, but DD is a mess, I'm a horrible SAhM and after this week alone with her, I wish I was at an office with heat.

I'm trying not to whine about it, I know things are much worse out there for others.

FWIW, I'm not judging her situation. I'm judging the fact that she's judging everyone else for not caring enough about her.

ETA - and you may whine all you want. NJ is the last place I'd want to be right now. ::hugs::

This was my point to, but I'm not very good at saying it-lol.
I'm not saying that people can't whine about their situation-especially when you are cold, hungry or have no where to go but to say you don't feel bad for someone else is pretty harsh.

[chessie]

Could be a lot worse. I saw some others posts, people lost power for half a day, mind u these people dont have well/septic, etc and they whined all over hell. There are homes being condemned, and the debris is being cleaned up by crews as we speak. Its like ya I dont have power and it sucks I can't do anything even basic functions at my house, but my house is still there, we are all alive.

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Nov 1, 2012 10:47:12 GMT -5 v said:

Nov 1, 2012 10:42:48 GMT -5 ESF said:

FWIW, I'm not judging her situation. I'm judging the fact that she's judging everyone else for not caring enough about her.

Everyone has it bad. The "I can't care about anyone else because people aren't caring enough about me" is what's bothering me. She's allowed to whine about the school situation. It is just kind of shitty to be like "who cares?" about what other people are going through.

Oh I agree with that.

Like I said, everyone has something. Even people who have power and can work have to pick up slack for coworkers who can't get to work.

[Deleted]

One thing I don't see anyone mentioning here is she could be upset about how hungry these kids might be after 5 days of no school especially in high poverty areas where a lot of kids rely upon school to feed them breakfast and lunch.

I know when we lived in Boston there was always a debate about whether to close school because kids would be hungry.

[jaylea]

Nov 1, 2012 11:08:13 GMT -5 @septimus said:

One thing I don't see anyone mentioning here is she could be upset about how hungry these kids might be after 5 days of no school especially in high poverty areas where a lot of kids rely upon school to feed them breakfast and lunch.

I know when we lived in Boston there was always a debate about whether to close school because kids would be hungry.

Someone did mention it, and the OP said she works in the most affluent community in the area.

[heliocentric]

Our schools are closed, but offering meals to students and families at locations throughout the city.

As for the FB post, that is dramatic and annoying. It sucks for lots of people and there's no award for having worse than anyone else.

I am also annoyed with a FB post. My neighborhood power is out and will likely be until next Friday. A neighbor was ranting on FB how it's an outrage and the city needs to do something and our town wasn't declared a disaster, but 12 days without power IS a disaster, blah, blah, blah.

I had to refrain from posting a snarky response. Our neighborhood is the wealthiest in the city. (Not rich, but definitely not hurting by any means.) It sucks without power, but we're more likely to have friends/family in the 'burbs with power or can afford a hotel. I'm glad the city is focusing on getting the lower income areas back up and running first since those people may not have other options. Plus, we are NOT a disaster. Parts of the state ARE a disaster and we lucked out bigtime. Get some effing perspective, dude. (Oh, there is also a shelter about 2 blocks away he can walk his lazy ass to if he needs to warm up and shower.)

Sorry, to highjack, but it felt good to get that out.

[dr.girlfriend]

Given some of the sh!t people pull on FB, I'm surprised some people have any friends at all.

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Nov 1, 2012 12:54:31 GMT -5 littlespitfire said:

Nov 1, 2012 12:08:02 GMT -5 dr.girlfriend said:

Given some of the sh!t people pull on FB, I'm surprised some people have any friends at all.

Ding, ding, ding!

Well, that's a good point.

The sad thing is, this girl is REALLY nice and maybe a bit of an overfacebooker, but with the exception of this and countdowns to the end of the school year/daily whines about the end of summer and approach of the new school year, she's not a terrible facebooker. So she's just on probation -- not blocked from the newsfeed yet