My new job, not so great?

[hannamaren]

My boss called me this morning to tell me the location that I asked for has an opening. Great news. Maybe.

Location A - 4or5 days a week varied hours (10 hour shifts between 8am and 8pm) every other weekend work one day. $2.50 an hour less.

Location B -3 days a week 7am- 600pm (pick up 2 extra shifts per month on a weekend) $2.50 per hour more

The problem with location B is that it would mean I leave the house at 6am. My H would have to get up with the baby 3 days a week. Not a huge deal, except he often finds himself at work until 10-11pm. The good thing, he never has to leave work early (7pm) to get home for the nanny.

Location B was my dream spot. It is a better position (I will probably enjoy it more) but it is early mornings. All holidays, it is closed.

I think my H has to decide what he can handle. And before you say H has to pull his weight, getting up at 630am and working until 11am is a recipe for a heart attack. Then again, it is only 3 days a week.

[justjen]

If your husband can swing it, B sounds better in every parameter. Could you even hire a babysitter for the mornings to help your H out?

[hannamaren]

I think we will get the nanny to come at 8am so he can get ready. He cant really shower, shavem etc with a one year old, can he? (please tips if you have them)
I think there will be a period of adjustment but if she keeps waking up at 7am, then it is only one hour earlier than he gets up now.

And only 3 days a week. It will be harder on the days he has to travel a bit (max one hour by car) but we can always have the nanny come earlier and when we have a house, she could sleep over.

[mlvmd]

I regularly shower and get ready by myself. I try to get up before I know my son does so I can shower, then get dressed and blow dry and put my make up on while he is hanging out with me. Now that he is a little older if he wakes up before I shower I'll let him watch tv or sometimes I'll take him in the shower with me.

[h]

I think location B sounds better in every way and that your husband will just need to deal with it. Having children is inconvenient--most people have to make adjustments in order to be parents, and that very typically includes getting up earlier. I don't think getting up with the baby 3 mornings a week is asking too much of him, even with working late. It sounds like maybe he has been able to avoid making many adjustments to his schedule up until now with you home. But it is inevitable that you going back to work will mean a few changes for the whole family, including more pitching in on his part.

As for showering and shaving, sure he can do it with a one year-old if he has to. Bit if you can swing having the nanny come early, I am sure that will make it easier for him.

[Ashley&Scott]

B sounds much better to me. YH will be fine with L 3 mornings a week for a few hours, it will be good quality time for them. What time does she usually get up?

[huskymom]

I get ready most mornings by myself (dd is 14 months). I try to shower before she gets up or while she plays in her crib. Or we have a shower on the main level and I can use that with her in the high chair wih some toys and milk, rolled up to the door. When she was littler i used the bouncy seat, then the exersaucer.

[atouchofklasse]

B. Not working holidays is huge in itself.

ETA In my experience it has been impossible to shower with my 16M old since he started to walk at 10.5M unless I stick him in his crib with toys.

[bunch]

It's definitely possible to get ready with her. When dd got up earlier dh would put her in a bath seat in the shower with him and then let her play in the bathroom cabinets or sit on the counter while he shaved, etc. it takes some getting used to, but it's definitely possible. Job b sounds amazing. It would be sad to give that up.

[Deleted]

My DH does daycare drop off every day. Treehouse TV does make an appearance when he's getting ready. Geez, do moms get to call in a babysitter to get ready for work?

I'm guessing your DH sets his hours and chooses to work that late. He can choose to move things around and not be at work until 11 if he knows he's waking up with a toddler at 630.

[Deleted]

B! Your H will figure it out.

[cjeanette]

Job B. Your H will manage. Its better for you and the family as a whole it seems.

[elocrates]

B. Without question or hesitation.

If your H is working that late, spending time with L in the mornings might be the only time he gets with her each day. What great bonding time.

Bringing the nanny in earlier would be fine if he needs it. What PPs suggested is what we do.

Also, while I agree that the hours seem long arduous for your H, lots of us keep schedules like that but in reverse. (I suspect the days you work will be equally long for you.) Up at 6 (or often earlier) to get everybody ready and out the door, then up late at night as well picking up the house, prepping for the next day, or just trying to get some quality time in with H. It IS tiring, but (cliche) everything is temporary. Option B seems like such a great opportunity for you.

[slug*bug]

I think the upsides of job B outweigh the early mornings by a long shot. The guarantee of no weekends or holidays at work sounds like a huge upgrade for both you and your DH, not to mention the pay increase.

I think once you've developed some strategies, the early mornings are doable.

Nov 3, 2012 7:53:52 GMT -5 hannamaren said:

He cant really shower, shavem etc with a one year old, can he? (please tips if you have them)

It's easier with help, but I did it regularly when DS was 1 w/o trouble. It took some trial and error and I relied on prepping a lot of things in the evening as opposed to having time in the AM, but eventually I figured out what worked and what didn't. I think having your nanny come early to relieve your DH sounds like a good possibility.

[karinothing]

What time does L get up? DH typically get DS ready but if he is not here I just get up before DS and get ready. Granted it is probably earlier then I want to get up, but such is life.

[Deleted]

B! And I get ready every single day with V awake. She just fools around in the bathroom while I shower and do my hair/makeup. Your H will figure it out.

[CloudBee]

I would jump at the opportunity for option B. It will be an adjustment, but sounds better for your family, IMO.

[bronxgirl]

B sounds awesome. Your husband will be fine.

[Deleted]

B. NO BRAINER.

[Mushe]

I would definitely take B. My baby often wakes up while I'm getting ready, and hangs out in our room while I finish. No problem. You just need some baby-proofed, safe space. My kid loves to push open our closet and play with my shoes. I love that little weirdo.

[hannamaren]

Thanks everyone!
We talked about it and my H said he would never imagine me not taking the job B. He said we wil figure it out.

[Mushe]

Nov 3, 2012 19:12:57 GMT -5 hannamaren said:

Thanks everyone!
We talked about it and my H said he would never imagine me not taking the job B. He said we wil figure it out.

That's great! Congrats on the new assignment.

[Mushe]

Nov 3, 2012 19:06:34 GMT -5 mishy said:

Nov 3, 2012 18:33:21 GMT -5 Mushe said:

I love that little weirdo.

That made me laugh, Mush. In a good way.

Hehe, thanks.

[bunch]

Awesome, Hanna! Congrats!