Did anybody have an "induced miscarriage"?

[papie]

I don't know how else to call this. I had my OBGYN appt today, and he told me that they don't do d&cs unless absolutely necessarely now due to the anesthesia risks.

So instead, he gave me pills to pu in my vagina. I have to insert 4 pills, wait 12 hours and insert 4 more if nothing has happened. It should start the whole process, with bleeding and contractions and passing of everything. I asked him how much it hurts, and he said it was kinda like labor and that I wouldn't be able to go to work. Oh and that it can last 3 days, so not to plan on being back to work before friday.

FML. I called my mom and she will be coming tomorrow, so that she can help with the kids.

Oh and the OB did not look impressed when I asked him how that was supposed to be better than a d&c. He looked at me like I was nuts for preferring a surgery to labor pains. (Yes, this is still the same guy who asked why I was screaming as I was in transition with Sophia).

Soooo, if you had this, please tell me it isn't as bad as the doctor made it out to be? It is probably just like a very bad period, right? RIGHT?

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I don't know, but big hugs to you papie.

[imoan]

Dude, you SERIOUSLY need a new OB after this. I get not wanting to deal with that right now... but after this is over and you're kind of settled back into your normal life... GET A NEW OB WITH A QUICKNESS.

[speckledfrog]

Oh papie. That sounds barbaric. ({) (})

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WTF.

I'm so sorry, Papie. I really wish this was faster for you.

[malibu]

I had to take the pills.

I could lie to you, or I could tell you the truth. Whichever you want me to tell you.

[dizzydee]

Don't do this. Go to someone, anyone and get a D&C. I watched my sister go through it and it is awful.

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Nov 5, 2012 17:21:19 GMT -5 malibu said:

I had to take the pills.

I could lie to you, or I could tell you the truth. Whichever you want me to tell you.

This is me, too.

I'm so sorry, papie. You definitely need a new doctor stat.

[papie]

Nov 5, 2012 17:21:19 GMT -5 malibu said:

I had to take the pills.

I could lie to you, or I could tell you the truth. Whichever you want me to tell you.

The truth. Give it to me straight. I'm taking them tonight. I'm not staying pregnant with a dead baby one more fucking minute than necessary, so there is not way I'm going to shop around until I find someone that wil get me a d&c.

[Kit]

Papie, I have no knowledge of that, but I am so, so sorry you are going through this. And I second imoan - new OB, as soon as you humanly can.

((hugs))

[malibu]

OK, you asked for it.

It's unpleasant. It's labor all over again. I made the huge mistake of going to my cousin's wedding the evening after I took them. Big mistake. I spent most of it in a bathroom crying. I had full-on labor pains.

The worst was passing it (I was around 12 weeks, but it'd stopped growing around 8) and seeing it in the toilet (ETA: this was the day after the wedding, thank God, I was at home). I have never sobbed so hard in my life. I had a period for seriously about three weeks afterwards, and my entire lower abdomen hurt for days afterwards, just like after labor.

Very painful, and honestly, I'd have chosen the D&C over the pills.

[sake]

I agree with not doing this... It sounds terrible, and like its just prolonging and making worse, something that is terrible enough to deal with on its own...
Hugs and thoughts go out to you.

[papie]

Betty or malibu. So how bad is it? I guess it is a good thing my mom will be here?

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It's very similar to labor from what I've been told (I've never given birth so I can't vouch personally)

You'll have contractions and glops of blood and tissue will come out, I had this reguarly every ten minutes for about 15 hours. You'll feel your uterus contract and you'll feel the push of fluids coming out. You'll adjust to the pain after the first hour or two, but it's pretty horrific. I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

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[unhelpful reaction]

Papie, we're with you through this. Please know that. ((hugs of infinite amounts))

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It really is a nightmare. I just felt dead inside. I couldn't even cry until it was all over. You'll need your mom by your side for sure.

[papie]

Malibu thank you. So I guess he didn't exaggerate whe he said home for three days.

and guys, really, I don't have a choice. If that is the preferred option now, that will be the answer I'll get anywhere. I'm guessing they are eliminating unnecessary surgeries as much as possible in part to relief the healthcare system.

[papie]

So, um, to get ont with all the gross details, will my ultra pads do it? Do I need diapers or something?

omg. I,m sorry you guys had to go through this too.

[Deleted]

Malibu is right about the period afterwards. I did bleed for about three weeks too, and I was at 8 weeks measuring 6.

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Nov 5, 2012 17:29:08 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Papie, you're allowed to have your mom there as long as she promises not to ask you why you're crying or some other BS!

:Y: :Y:

[malibu]

There has to be a doctor that will perform a D&C. I had a choice (this was in February of this year), and stupidly chose the pills. Hindsight's 20/20, of course.

I can't imagine this is widespread that they'd opt for those godawful pills over a D&C?

[papie]

Nov 5, 2012 17:29:08 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Papie, you're allowed to have your mom there as long as she promises not to ask you why you're crying or some other BS!

She is very good when you are in actual physical pain. It is the emotions she has a hard time with.

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Nov 5, 2012 17:29:13 GMT -5 papie said:

So, um, to get ont with all the gross details, will my ultra pads do it? Do I need diapers or something?

omg. I,m sorry you guys had to go through this too.

Seriously, keep a toilet close by for the first couple of hours. After that, my doc recommended diapers. I wore diapers for about five days out and then went to the heavy duty pads.

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Nov 5, 2012 17:29:47 GMT -5 mofongo said:

Do they at least give you pain medication? or some sort of happy pills to help with the physical and emotional symptoms? to all of you that have been through this.

Nope.

[malibu]

Nov 5, 2012 17:29:13 GMT -5 papie said:

So, um, to get ont with all the gross details, will my ultra pads do it? Do I need diapers or something?

omg. I,m sorry you guys had to go through this too.

Ultra pads didn't do it. I soaked through them in under an hour. I mostly sat on a toilet if I wasn't home, and there were points I sat in the tub with warm water running. I'd say either have access to a bathroom, or seriously, buy Depends. I'm not kidding.

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Hugs, papie. I'm so sorry you're having to go through this.

[papie]

Nov 5, 2012 17:30:17 GMT -5 @bettyhomewrecker33 said:

Nov 5, 2012 17:29:13 GMT -5 papie said:

So, um, to get ont with all the gross details, will my ultra pads do it? Do I need diapers or something?

omg. I,m sorry you guys had to go through this too.

Seriously, keep a toilet close by for the first couple of hours. After that, my doc recommended diapers. I wore diapers for about five days out and then went to the heavy duty pads.

omg why didn't he mention this?? I'll have DH buy depends on his way home tonight.

Oh and re: pain, they said to take tylenol. :-( :-( :-(

[malibu]

Nov 5, 2012 17:31:06 GMT -5 @bettyhomewrecker33 said:

Nov 5, 2012 17:29:47 GMT -5 mofongo said:

Do they at least give you pain medication? or some sort of happy pills to help with the physical and emotional symptoms? to all of you that have been through this.

Nope.

What the crap?

Dude, I'd FedEx you some of my leftover Percocet or OxyCodone. I cannot fathom not having pain relief. They offered nothing?

Your OB officially sucks mass quantites of ass.

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Nov 5, 2012 17:32:13 GMT -5 malibu said:

Nov 5, 2012 17:31:06 GMT -5 @bettyhomewrecker33 said:

Nope.

What the crap?

Dude, I'd FedEx you some of my leftover Percocet or OxyCodone. I cannot fathom not having pain relief. They offered nothing?

Your OB officially sucks mass quantites of ass.

Yeah, I was offered nothing, but I wonder if it was because I wasn't as far along as you were. I could take over the counter.

[papie]

Thanks everyone. I'll probably be on here crying most of the day tomorrow. Don't hate me!