Would this gift offend or excite you?

[verypunny]

My sister had her first baby a couple months ago and became a stay at home mom. I know she is overwhelmed and he is cranky and I was thinking of getting them a 3 hour cleaning service session. Do you think this is good idea or would you take it to mean you cant keep up with your house? She is not easily offended in general. Thanks

[mrssandro]

I would totally appreciate that type of gift.

[MamaMaui24]

I would love it!

[vanillacourage]

Ehhhhh....ask her DH what she would think. If she's already completely overwhelmed she may not be that jazzed about having to pick up & declutter enough for someone to come in and do much cleaning.

I think it is an awesome idea - it just depends on how in-the-weeds she already is, KWIM?

Modified to add - if she's nursing and in the phase where you spend all day on the couch with your boobs out, the timing may not be great. But maybe she will love it - I am not trying to be negative, I promise.

[ohgillian]

Neither. I am not easily offended, and I would know it was meant well. But it's just not my kind of thing. I wouldn't want to deal with a person coming into my house when I was struggling with a newborn.

[anna7602]

This is the kind of gift where it really depends on the person. It also depends on the cleaning service.

When DD was born, we had had the same cleaning person for almost 4 years. She had her own key, came and went without having to coordinate much with me, could clean around me if I was on the sofa nursing, etc. But with an entirely new person/service, coordinating things or being asked to leave the house while she cleaned would have been nightmarish while managing a newborn.

[jena]

I'd be excited.

My mom said she was going to do this as a gift when the baby came. The baby's been here a week, where the hell is my cleaning crew mom? ;D

[DarcyLongfellow]

After DD was born, my grandmother sent us a check with instructions to use it to keep our cleaning lady for a while, even though I'd quit my job. It was the best present ever :-)

[froggy76]

It's probably a good idea. Personally, however, I hate gifts that require effort on my part - I'd have to declutter, tidy, schedule around the baby's naps and nursing sessions, leave the house, etc.

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Nov 13, 2012 10:10:26 GMT -5 ohgillian said:

Neither. I am not easily offended, and I would know it was meant well. But it's just not my kind of thing. I wouldn't want to deal with a person coming into my house when I was struggling with a newborn.

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[birdmom]

Will she be able to use it whenever she wants? During the first few weeks, I didn't really give a shit what my house looked like, but once we got out of the fog of those early days, I would have loved to have a cleaning service come!

[littlemermaid]

I wouldn't take offense but it's not my style to have strangers in my home to clean, so it's not a gift I would use.

[fbf2006]

My sisters would love it. They both have cleaning ladies now anyway. I'd love it too!

[h]

I would be excited if I didn't already have a cleaning lady. I could see if being a PITA to tidy up and stay out of the way if she is in the "sit around nursing 24/7" stage, but it is hard for me to imagine someone getting offended over this. But I not particularly invested in being perceived as a good housekeeper.

[Deleted]

I would like it now...there may have been a time in my life where it'd make me feel bad.

[dragonfly08]

Definitely check with her or at least her DH. I wouldn't be offended, but I probably also wouldn't be thrilled at having a stranger come into my house. First, I'd have to straighten up to get ready for them (does anyone out there *not* clean for the cleaning people???) and second, I'd either have to be in the house feeling awkward during the cleaning, or take my infant somewhere for several hours, neither of which is convenient IMO. Even at a couple of months old it would depend on what vaxes the baby had received, and how long the cleaning would take. Two hours, maybe for lunch, but my mom's cleaning crew is there 3-4 hours most visits and that might be too long.

[yellowbrkrd]

I would love it.

[GailGoldie]

i wouldn't be offended at all - BUT i wouldn't like someone else picking a cleaning service for me... that's a very personal thing for some people - don't want just anyone going through their house, so personally i would never give that to someone.

[hannamaren]

I was the person offended when my Mom offered to clean my house, but for some crazy reason, this gift would not offend me.. It would excite me.