A TIP Story, Part II

[Muddled]

When we left off, woman was left by her husband of 2 months, at 7 months pregnant. He grabbed the ring and ran, saying he wanted nothing to do with the baby.


She is charging him with the theft of the ring. He says he wants full custody of the kid because he wants her to have to pay child support. It turns out he doesn't have as much money as she thought he did. This is a surprise, of course, because they never had that conversation.

She has decided that it is in her best interests to fly across the country and have the baby closer to her family. I'm sure that will go over well if he does, indeed, fight for custody.

Let the power struggle begin.

[starrieskies]

Oh wow...

[fussbucket]

Haha he thinks he can get full custody of the kid? He's a charlatan AND a fool. Huge surprise.

[Muddled]

He doesn't even want custody at all. He just wants something to threaten her with.

Does anyone know if there were to be a custody battle (which I doubt), could she get into trouble for going out of state to have the baby?

[fussbucket]

Um, homegirl needs to lawyer up yesterday regardless.

My point was mainly that it's a pitiful bargaining chip for him to attempt to wield. He might as well threaten her with Thor's hammer.

[Muddled]

I honestly think it's an empty threat, regardless of the outcome. Of course full custody will never happen, but last week he offered to sign away his parental rights, so she wan't even expecting to share custody.

She does have a lawyer. Why she still communicates with the guy (and INITIATES communication)instead of sending things through her lawyer is anyone's guess. She is not the brightest bean.

[fussbucket]

I'm guessing it potentially makes a difference that they're married WRT absconding with the fetus, and what his rights as the husband/father are. These things can vary dramatically from state to state I think. I hope her lawyer is aware of all the extreme behavior and threats, and that she plans to run her plans by the lawyer either way. I get that she's hurt, but she needs to maximally protect herself NOW so she can better protect herself and her baby later.

[Muddled]

I agree, Fuss. I imagine she does tell her lawyer everything that he says since she is telling everyone else. I do hope she runs the delivery plans by him too. She has enough going on without inviting more trouble.

I was blown away when I found out she was still calling the STBX- calling to purposely rile him up, in fact. She is not innocent here. She is doing her part to stir the pot.


FTR, this is not a friend of mine. I have no relationship with either of these people.

[malibu]

I would imagine she probably couldn't just up and leave without telling him if he's legally named on the BC of the child, but her lawyer would best be able to advise her. I bet in some states she could be hunted down for kidnapping, but I guess I'm not sure.

[malibu]

Crap, I forgot the child isn't born yet.

Carry on.

[Muddled]

Good to know, MrDobalina. I was curious about that. Technically, she lives here and that will remain her permanent address, regardless of where whe gives birth/spends her mat leave. She can't lie about the father because she is married (although going through a divorce-- I don't know if papers have been filed yet. Oh and the baby existed before the marriage did), so that's not an issue. She wouldn't get very far if she tried to lie.