House pics on FB

[boiler717]

So, I have an album of house pics on FB. I'm thinking of taking it down. I have had 4 people who recently asked me if they could come over and walk through our house. These are people that I haven't talked to in years and I find it so weird. Who does this?!

It also makes me worried to start a blog. Do you guys have people asking to see your house in person all the time? I love sharing our home with others but I prefer it to be pics I share or in person with my friends, not randoms. Or do I just have super weird "friends" on Facebook?

[ssmjlm]

I would just ignore them, and yeah that is a bit weird, unless it was in a joking manner and it just didn't come across well. I have a couple friends, albeit close, that we joke "ok you're hosting the next party" since they just bought some nice houses.

If you start a blog, I would keep it as private as you can, but still share photos. I purposely don't mention DH by name or post photos of him in the collaborative blog I write for. I also don't talk about our town and blackout our house #. Truly though, with the internet it's just too easy for people to find out info.

Also for work if you found out my name, you can google me and get my work info b/c we have to put things out online for industry.

[sju]

That's a weird request considering you have not talked to them. I have close friends with new houses and I wait to be invited! We may say "cant wait to see it" or joke like pp but "almost" strangers? Nope. Your house is so nice. I showed the pics to DH and he loved it.

[boiler717]

I had a friend from HS message me about getting together next time she was in town. She dropped by, and the proceeded to take pics all over my house. SO WEIRD.

I definitely don't mind people liking to see the pics, or sharing them with others. I love it in fact! I want to share our home with others.

I just think it's super weird to not hear from someone from years and get a message wanting to come over. Maybe I'm being over sensitive.

[ssmjlm]

If you at least know and at one time had a relationship then yeah it's off putting, I think people nowadays just have less manners it seems.

I wish we could show off our work to the previous owners. I know they've visited since we moved in and couldn't believe just the work we did on the outside.

[munkii]

Nov 16, 2012 8:01:05 GMT -5 boiler717 said:

I had a friend from HS message me about getting together next time she was in town. She dropped by, and the proceeded to take pics all over my house. SO WEIRD.

This is beyond weird.

[kaylie]

Nov 16, 2012 8:25:32 GMT -5 munkii said:

Nov 16, 2012 8:01:05 GMT -5 boiler717 said:

I had a friend from HS message me about getting together next time she was in town. She dropped by, and the proceeded to take pics all over my house. SO WEIRD.

This is beyond weird.

Ditto. What a creeper! I haven't had any weird requests like that, but my house is nowhere near as awesome as yours.

I'll admit that if I'm at a friend's house sometimes I'll ask questions about their new appliances/counter tops/whatever, but we're all within our first few years of home ownership and sort of "get" it. My friend just got a snazzy new refrigerator and I was totally like "can I look inside?"

[boiler717]

Nov 16, 2012 8:49:39 GMT -5 kaylie said:

Nov 16, 2012 8:25:32 GMT -5 munkii said:

This is beyond weird.

Ditto. What a creeper! I haven't had any weird requests like that, but my house is nowhere near as awesome as yours.

I'll admit that if I'm at a friend's house sometimes I'll ask questions about their new appliances/counter tops/whatever, but we're all within our first few years of home ownership and sort of "get" it. My friend just got a snazzy new refrigerator and I was totally like "can I look inside?"

Oh yes! I totally do that, too and that doesn't bother me. Like I had one person message to ask about our builder, how to go about building a house, where I got X, etc and that didn't bother me. I love helping people out who are building/decorating. It's the voyering that seems creepy.

[FoxInFiji]

Yeah that's strange.

Only a select few people I know IRL know about my blog and that is one of the reasons. I live in the small town where everyone talks and we hire way too many family friends as contractors.

[Susie]

I don't put house pics on FB because I have always assumed people who don't share the interest would be as bored by my house pics as I am by parents who post pictures of their kid every 5 minutes. It's not that I don't care about their kid, but I have no appreciation for the alleged minute to minute changes in facial expression on their 2 week old.

I digress.

...So I put house pics on a dedicated house blog that people can either read or not read, it's not in anybody's face. Nobody except my parents has ever really expressly wanted to come see what we've done with the house. Maybe we don't do interesting enough projects. Maybe our friends don't really care about house projects. Who knows.

I have considered whether it's a bad idea to have house pics up on a blog that show the big 55" TV, nice bikes, whatever, in case it could ever eventually lead to our house being targeted for a break in. But I don't mention the town or location, or our names. I guess that's my happy medium.

[Deleted]

I am the dissenter here. Maybe it is just my midwestern openess but I don't see what is so weird about this? When we built I had an album on fb too. I got lots of people who wanted to stop by and see. I thought it was fun and happy to have a beer in my new kitchen.

I just feel like it doesn't work both ways. If I'm going to AW something out I fully expect to indulge people's curiousity.
If I don't want to I don't advertise it.

Then again I don't keep people on my fb I wouldn't want to have over either no matter how long it has been.
The blog thing was hard for tbh so i stopped. It just got too personal too fast and with strangers.

Yes. Snapping pics is weird unless you are close.
Susie i love your blog. So real life and affordable.

[cajungal]

That's weird as well. We also just moved into a new construction home, and I've only gotten comments like that from good friends. Strange that people you haven't talked to in years would ask to come walk through it... But it also means that you have a beautiful home that they would like to see!

BTW - Can you share your blog? I'd love to see how you decorate. I need some major inspiration!

[thewop]

Nov 16, 2012 10:11:23 GMT -5 @justdairy said:

I am the dissenter here. Maybe it is just my midwestern openess but I don't see what is so weird about this? When we built I had an album on fb too. I got lots of people who wanted to stop by and see. I thought it was fun and happy to have a beer in my new kitchen.

I just feel like it doesn't work both ways. If I'm going to AW something out I fully expect to indulge people's curiousity.
If I don't want to I don't advertise it.

Then again I don't keep people on my fb I wouldn't want to have over either no matter how long it has been.
The blog thing was hard for tbh so i stopped. It just got too personal too fast and with strangers.

All of this.

[sierramist03]

Do you think they are considering building and like your floor plan? This would be my guess I'm with dairy its not weird to me. When we have talked about building people invited us to see their floor plans, etc.

[emoflamingo]

Nov 16, 2012 10:26:46 GMT -5 thewop said:

Nov 16, 2012 10:11:23 GMT -5 @justdairy said:

I am the dissenter here. Maybe it is just my midwestern openess but I don't see what is so weird about this? When we built I had an album on fb too. I got lots of people who wanted to stop by and see. I thought it was fun and happy to have a beer in my new kitchen.

I just feel like it doesn't work both ways. If I'm going to AW something out I fully expect to indulge people's curiousity.
If I don't want to I don't advertise it.

Then again I don't keep people on my fb I wouldn't want to have over either no matter how long it has been.
The blog thing was hard for tbh so i stopped. It just got too personal too fast and with strangers.

All of this.

It might be a midwestern thing then because I have pictures on my FB of our old house's progress too. I'll be doing it with the new one as well. If they don't care, they can skip it.

[bunnymendelbaum]

Boiler - that's weird.

I'm a transplanted rural Midwesterner and I don't feel weird sharing either. I also NEVER close my blinds/curtains. Drives DH nuts.

I'm pretty sure I'm very easy to find via my blog on the Internet. Honestly, maybe I should care, but I don't. I think most people have no idea how easy it is to find out a bunch of info about them online (address, tax info, what they paid for house, cars they drive, etc.).

I don't ever post about us going anywhere before or while we are gone.

[boiler717]

So is it the sharing pics or inviting yourself over that's Midwestern? I'm confused!

I agree it's super common to share pics and I don't think that's weird -- pretty much all of my FB friends in the area (Indiana) have pics of their house.

[emjacobs]

I think that if you are sharing and AW'ing the crap out of something because you are excited about it, and you said that you are happy to show it off then I don't understand how it is weird that people that you are FB friends with would want to see it and maybe catch up. Maybe they want to re-kindle whatever friendship was once there.

I see the snapping pictures thing a little strange but maybe she is looking into building or likes your style and didn't frame it well.

Personally I don't keep friends on facebook that I wouldn't be willing to have over at my house any time, I know that everyone's different so who knows.

[thewop]

If I was FB friends with someone, I'm probably going to be their "real" friend, not just an internet stalker friend I haven't seen in 15 years from HS. So if someone I was FB friends with wanted to come see my house, it wouldn't be weird because we're real friends. Does that make sense? I think that might be what dairy was talking about.

Note I do not have FB.

[house]

I find it weird b/c you haven't talked to them in years. I'd defriend them too. LOL! Specially because you really aren't "friends" with them, ya know?

[hereonceagain]

I think your situation is unique because your house is exceptional!

Can I come see it? J/k.

Regarding blogging, I am too private for that but for you, I'd just exclude details on location and personal info.

[Deleted]

Nov 16, 2012 15:48:40 GMT -5 thewop said:

If I was FB friends with someone, I'm probably going to be their "real" friend, not just an internet stalker friend I haven't seen in 15 years from HS. So if someone I was FB friends with wanted to come see my house, it wouldn't be weird because we're real friends. Does that make sense? I think that might be what dairy was talking about.

Note I do not have FB.

Yeah it was. Everyone on my FB even if we don't talk on the regular, was a good enough friend at some point that even if it's been 15 years, I'd have no problem telling them to come on over.
I don't friend friends of friends of friends, exboyfriends of third cousins and stuff like that.

[Deleted]

Nov 16, 2012 15:32:25 GMT -5 boiler717 said:

So is it the sharing pics or inviting yourself over that's Midwestern? I'm confused!

I agree it's super common to share pics and I don't think that's weird -- pretty much all of my FB friends in the area (Indiana) have pics of their house.

Both!
People call me all the time and say, "Hey, got any beer. We're bored. We'll be over in 5." or "I saw/heard that you got XYZ. Can we come check it out." or lately, "We miss Rubes. Can we come play."
I stated it as "Midwestern" because it seems to me just how things roll here. People are really casual about unscheduled, drop in visitors or people who want to get together on short notice. I never knew until the internet the rest of the world found this offensive. It could also be my personality. People just know I don't get worked about that sort of thing.

[emjacobs]

Nov 16, 2012 20:00:44 GMT -5 @justdairy said:

Nov 16, 2012 15:32:25 GMT -5 boiler717 said:

So is it the sharing pics or inviting yourself over that's Midwestern? I'm confused!

I agree it's super common to share pics and I don't think that's weird -- pretty much all of my FB friends in the area (Indiana) have pics of their house.

Both!
People call me all the time and say, "Hey, got any beer. We're bored. We'll be over in 5." or "I saw/heard that you got XYZ. Can we come check it out." or lately, "We miss Rubes. Can we come play."
I stated it as "Midwestern" because it seems to me just how things roll here. People are really casual about unscheduled, drop in visitors or people who want to get together on short notice. I never knew until the internet the rest of the world found this offensive. It could also be my personality. People just know I don't get worked about that sort of thing.

Honestly I think it is a rural vs everywhere else thing. It seams like people just run at a slower pace round here and are more ok with shit like this.

[RoxMonster]

I have a house album on FB but no one has invited themselves over. Unless it was a best friend or a relative, I would be a little weirded out too. I would probably ignore their requests especially if you never really talk to them.

[emoflamingo]

I'm not from a rural area and it can be like that here, but there are no bustling cities like NYC or Chicago here lol.

[Deleted]

Your house must be super interesting I shared mine & people commented on it but no one asked to come over. But I don't live in my hometown...either they are all old friends I don't see anymore or they are local & probably already have been in my home.

[Deleted]

I will add local people (coworkers, friends) have asked when we are having a house warming party, etc & dropping hints when we bought this house. We wanted to but never got around to it. It's been 2yrs & it eventually got dropped by everyone--lol.

[mrssavy42112]

The fact that they're not current friends is the only weird thing to me here. But really, it's easy enough to change the privacy setting for an album so that only your trusted friends can see the pictures. I do this all the time. Everyone doesn't need to know everything.