An early thanksgiving vent

[fortmyersbride]

We are flying to visit FIL. DH called him tonight to check on some travel details and FIL asked "oh, by the way, where will DS sleep?". This confused us as the original plan was for us to stay at another family member's vacant condo. DH said, "aren't we staying at x's place?" to which FIL said "oh no, you're staying with us now. But we only have one spare room, so you'll all have to sleep in there or put DS in the living room."

So it looks like all 4 of us will be sharing a bdrm for 3 nights. DH doesn't want to ask FIL the details of why we can't stay at the other place and thinks FIL will be offended if we book a hotel. But, DD is a horribly light sleeper. When we've shared rooms on trips, she wakes up when DS rolls around in bed or DH snores (and that's with a suite style room to spread out in). There also isn't a spare hallway or non-communal bathroom to put the pnp in.

I think I may just be a brat and look for available hotels tonight, then call FIL tomorrow to explain that we need a bit more space for the kiddos. Otherwise it will be a loooong holiday weekend.

[nonsenseabound]

I'd get a hotel but use the spare room for nap time so you don't miss out on family time

[grk2012]

I'd rather get a hotel and risk a few (misguided) hurt feelings than put up with crappy sleep for three nights. Get your H some Breathe Right strips, and bring a small fan for white noise, too.

[fortmyersbride]

Nov 19, 2012 23:08:52 GMT -5 nonsenseabound said:

I'd get a hotel but use the spare room for nap time so you don't miss out on family time

Good call. The hotel would only be for sleeping, and perhaps if the kids need to unwind mid-afternoon. I don't think the spare bedroom even has space for the pnp. And since everyone else staying at or visit the house is childless, they might enjoy some time sans small children as well.

[vanillacourage]

If you stay with family in a few days you're going to wish you had a time machine so you could come back to tonight and book a hotel room instead.

[fortmyersbride]

Nov 19, 2012 23:16:53 GMT -5 vanillacourage said:

If you stay with family in a few days you're going to wish you had a time machine so you could come back to tonight and book a hotel room instead.

Lol, so true. I'd rather deal with a pouty DH for a day or two than a tired family in a cramped space for 4 days.

[pugz]

oh my gosh ditto VC! Get a hotel suite! The space will be good for EVERYONE. And once the kids are older and sleeping better (presumably) you guys can stay with family. Well, if you H stop snoring Maybe put him on the couch then

[pugz]

and get a hotel with a pool! The kids would love that I bet!

[CloudBee]

Nov 19, 2012 23:08:52 GMT -5 nonsenseabound said:

I'd get a hotel but use the spare room for nap time so you don't miss out on family time

This. I'm so over not offending family. My parents aren't hospitable, so we stay at a hotel now. I'm happy we made this transition before bringing kids into the picture.

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Nov 19, 2012 23:16:53 GMT -5 vanillacourage said:

If you stay with family in a few days you're going to wish you had a time machine so you could come back to tonight and book a hotel room instead.

LOL and so very true

[chessie]

Get a hotel, for peace of mind and your own sanity. Don't need to give them any reasoning. We never stay with family when we visit.

[Deleted]

Sounds like you're convinced that a hotel is the way to go. Good call. All I have to add is a snarky "I love the holidays!"

We have the same problem in reverse. Our family refuses to get a hotel room, even if it means my parents in the spare bedroom and my sister and her boyfriend camped our on the floor of our living room on an air mattress. Never mind that our house us only 1600 square feet and they are exactly in the middle of the only living area. Sometimes it's okay to not be MM about sleeping arrangements.